Social Anxiety Support

illlaymedown · 10-19-2009, 01:08 AM

I laid down a little over an hour ago because last night I got two hours of sleep due to those thoughts that my mind tends to spew about my life and days and how lonely I am...anyway, I went to sleep, and for the last few nighs I've been having these weird dreams...all with this guy I did like in them. He tends to be kinds rude to me at first in the dreams and then he completely changes to being really kind and I wake up. I haven't talked to this dude in like weeks so I don't know why I'm dreaming these. That kind of thing hasn't happened before. Anyway, I wake up and I just feel so sad and can't seem to calm my mind down to go back to sleep...I just wanna cry. But I'm so tired...so I'm just wondering, what kinds of things do you guys do to calm your mind and get rest. I've always had some form of insomnia, well at least ever since I was old enough to understand how miserable the world is. I hate just laying here for hours thinking, it's torture...so any suggestiins on making it better would be nice. Also, I feel like talking to the guy after the dreams and I can't...it's so freaking weird :/

Tau Sin · 10-19-2009, 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by illlaymedown

I laid down a little over an hour ago because last night I got two hours of sleep due to those thoughts that my mind tends to spew about my life and days and how lonely I am...anyway, I went to sleep, and for the last few nighs I've been having these weird dreams...all with this guy I did like in them. He tends to be kinds rude to me at first in the dreams and then he completely changes to being really kind and I wake up. I haven't talked to this dude in like weeks so I don't know why I'm dreaming these. That kind of thing hasn't happened before. Anyway, I wake up and I just feel so sad and can't seem to calm my mind down to go back to sleep...I just wanna cry. But I'm so tired...so I'm just wondering, what kinds of things do you guys do to calm your mind and get rest. I've always had some form of insomnia, well at least ever since I was old enough to understand how miserable the world is. I hate just laying here for hours thinking, it's torture...so any suggestiins on making it better would be nice. Also, I feel like talking to the guy after the dreams and I can't...it's so freaking weird :/

Joke Answer: Grab him by the throat and tell him, "I own you b***h!"

Serious Answer: Go to youtube and look up Tycho, very good calm music that lets the mind drift. Also it helps that his music doesn't use actual lyrics so your mind just turns off. Or any kind of slow ambient music.

zomgz · 10-19-2009, 01:19 AM

i turn on episodes of Futurama/Spongebob/Family guy (all the seasons lmao) and set them to random =D i usually make it through 1-2 episodes before i get really tired and lay down =] it helps soooo much though! it makes me bored or something haha idk (:

also, snuggling up to my pillow helps a lot!! like idk it just makes me feel really safe and comfortable (:

i hope you can get to sleep! it's soo sucky when you can't get sleep, especially when there's something going on the next day right! like... you get nervous about not having enough sleep for what you need to do early in the morning and it makes you not sleepy, it's like some sort of evil vicous cycle haha and the later it gets the more nervous you get and the less sleepy you are! it's terrible lmao

as for the dreams i find comfort in telling myself "it's just my mind organizing my thoughts" but it's soo hard sometimes. like... i had this freaky dream (aren't they all) about my ex co-worker (well it wasn't really a job at all lmao, just 2 days working a food stand at a fair which was pretty fun hehe) and like we were holding hands in my dream and it was like awkward when i woke up! but.. i kinda wanted to hold hands with someone when i woke up lol!! xD

illlaymedown · 10-19-2009, 01:46 AM

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Originally Posted by zomgz

i turn on episodes of Futurama/Spongebob/Family guy (all the seasons lmao) and set them to random =D i usually make it through 1-2 episodes before i get really tired and lay down =] it helps soooo much though! it makes me bored or something haha idk (:"

Nah, watching tv just makes it worse...even music...it's like everthing but my fan noise will keep me awake unless I stayed up all night and all day or something like that. I also get hot and then cold constantly and I have sinus issues. But I feel asleep so easily earlier so Idk why I'm up again. I wanna stay asleep

And I was really proud of myself for working some and putting in applications earlier, now I feel like I'm gonna break down in tears...

as for the dreams i find comfort in telling myself "it's just my mind organizing my thoughts" but it's soo hard sometimes. like... i had this freaky dream (aren't they all) about my ex co-worker (well it wasn't really a job at all lmao, just 2 days working a food stand at a fair which was pretty fun hehe) and like we were holding hands in my dream and it was like awkward when i woke up! but.. i kinda wanted to hold hands with someone when i woke up lol!! xD

That's good to know, that you wanted to hold hands after the dream. I have another post I put up about this guy on here not too long ago. I really like him, but he just kinda stopped talking to me and showing interest imo and it hurts really bad. He got broken up with like 7 mnths ago and he puts up blogs and stuff expressing wanting a relationship, I just guess as always I'm not good enough. He seems depressed too. What makes it worse is I really faced my SA trying to get even friendship with him and now there's nothing and it kills me. It makes me feel low

My ex broke up with me cus of my SA and depression(he didn't know I had them or me)and even when I face those things...I'm just worn out.*sigh*

illlaymedown · 10-19-2009, 01:49 AM

This....multi-quote thing did not work right on mobile :/

zomgz · 10-19-2009, 01:56 AM

ooo yeah i just get feeling like right after my dreams and sometimes they're really weird feelings! it was awkward cause i don't really like her... ehh.. like that hehe if ya'know what i mean xD she's awesome as a friend though!! =) not only that but we each have BF/GF and she's like 4 years younger lol!! so awkward-saucee!! xD dreamss pfft xD

awhh dont cryyy =[ *hugs* i know it doesn't really mean much coming from some random dude on a forum lmao!! but i really mean it anyway (:

maybe that guy of yours just needs some time to get over his relashionship, it's soo confusing after a breakup.. for me anyway! it took like almost 2 years to get over it =/ and i went from depressed to ok back to depressed and it wasn't very fun at all! but it's totally not you :] your awesome! if he can't see that then posh to him right? =)

illlaymedown · 10-19-2009, 02:39 AM

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Originally Posted by zomgz

ooo yeah i just get feeling like right after my dreams and sometimes they're really weird feelings! it was awkward cause i don't really like her... ehh.. like that hehe if ya'know what i mean xD she's awesome as a friend though!! =) not only that but we each have BF/GF and she's like 4 years younger lol!! so awkward-saucee!! xD dreamss pfft xD

awhh dont cryyy =[ *hugs* i know it doesn't really mean much coming from some random dude on a forum lmao!! but i really mean it anyway (:

maybe that guy of yours just needs some time to get over his relashionship, it's soo confusing after a breakup.. for me anyway! it took like almost 2 years to get over it =/ and i went from depressed to ok back to depressed and it wasn't very fun at all! but it's totally not you :] your awesome! if he can't see that then posh to him right? =)

Yeah! That happens to me a lot with my dreams. But mostly it's in the morning when I wake up I'll have weird feelings that seem to linger...but only when I can remember the dream usually. I don't often have reocurring dreams though. & the one tonight, I can't remember, but I know it was about him in that same rude to nice theme, don't ask me how, I just feel it. The themes have been the same but different settings too. So it's more like a reocurring theme than dream.
Haha...how do you know I'm awesome??? Stalker xD kidding of course

Well, it's just how since I met him in person he acts so much different now. From things like he used to answer when on IM & I asked him about an anime cus he told me about one and I'd gotten to see it and he never responded...just little things, but a lot of little things...& as Bush so elegantly puts it, "it's the little things that kill"...I just keep wondering wth I did wrong. It's not the first time either. Like I said, my ex left me cus of my "issues" SA, depression and such and I talked with one other guy who just stopped talking 2...& strange thing, he had just gone thru a breakup 2. I'd be ok if these dreams would stop.

TorLin · 10-19-2009, 03:08 AM

yeah i can't sleep

zomgz · 10-19-2009, 03:15 AM

insomniacs unite! and unlike procrastinator we have the upper hand! because we have extra time to do stuff =D

pita · 10-19-2009, 03:20 AM

I feel your pain. I didn't sleep at all last night.

TorLin · 10-19-2009, 03:42 AM

im still up

illlaymedown · 10-19-2009, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by zomgz

insomniacs unite! and unlike procrastinator we have the upper hand! because we have extra time to do stuff =D

rofl...what if you're a procrastinating insomniac?

I took a melatonin and lad back down and went back to sleep a little while after the last post! I'm still sleepy though...but I slept waking up a few more time but easily going back to sleep for like 9 hours. Had another dream too, but I don't think the guy was in it...yay!

It was still crazy, but I think melatonin does that :/

toffee · 10-19-2009, 11:54 AM

i have alot of trouble getting to sleep aswell... it's weird because once i'm asleep i can sleep 10 hours, but i can never get to sleep. i wake up at 6am every morning, and every night i go to sleep really late.. last night i couldn't fall asleep until about 3.30am.. the only thing that works for me is exercise in the day.. about 30 mins to an hour.. it knocks you out!

Jimbe · 10-19-2009, 12:02 PM

When i'm worrying about something I find it extremely hard to go to sleep, and I find myself randomly waking up in the night.

When i'm calm its usually ok, though I still find it hard to sleep. Once i'm asleep, I sleep for a long time

10-19-2009, 01:08 AM	#1 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 362	I cannot sleep!!!! I laid down a little over an hour ago because last night I got two hours of sleep due to those thoughts that my mind tends to spew about my life and days and how lonely I am...anyway, I went to sleep, and for the last few nighs I've been having these weird dreams...all with this guy I did like in them. He tends to be kinds rude to me at first in the dreams and then he completely changes to being really kind and I wake up. I haven't talked to this dude in like weeks so I don't know why I'm dreaming these. That kind of thing hasn't happened before. Anyway, I wake up and I just feel so sad and can't seem to calm my mind down to go back to sleep...I just wanna cry. But I'm so tired...so I'm just wondering, what kinds of things do you guys do to calm your mind and get rest. I've always had some form of insomnia, well at least ever since I was old enough to understand how miserable the world is. I hate just laying here for hours thinking, it's torture...so any suggestiins on making it better would be nice. Also, I feel like talking to the guy after the dreams and I can't...it's so freaking weird :/ __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

10-19-2009, 01:19 AM	#3 (permalink)
zomgz Status: Wherever The Winds Fly Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Washington Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 600	i turn on episodes of Futurama/Spongebob/Family guy (all the seasons lmao) and set them to random =D i usually make it through 1-2 episodes before i get really tired and lay down =] it helps soooo much though! it makes me bored or something haha idk (: also, snuggling up to my pillow helps a lot!! like idk it just makes me feel really safe and comfortable (: i hope you can get to sleep! it's soo sucky when you can't get sleep, especially when there's something going on the next day right! like... you get nervous about not having enough sleep for what you need to do early in the morning and it makes you not sleepy, it's like some sort of evil vicous cycle haha and the later it gets the more nervous you get and the less sleepy you are! it's terrible lmao as for the dreams i find comfort in telling myself "it's just my mind organizing my thoughts" but it's soo hard sometimes. like... i had this freaky dream (aren't they all) about my ex co-worker (well it wasn't really a job at all lmao, just 2 days working a food stand at a fair which was pretty fun hehe) and like we were holding hands in my dream and it was like awkward when i woke up! but.. i kinda wanted to hold hands with someone when i woke up lol!! xD __________________ Chained to the bottom of the ocean floor, it's like running underwater. Feel free to add me to: Myspace \| Facebook \| Mindviz

10-19-2009, 01:49 AM	#5 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 362	This....multi-quote thing did not work right on mobile :/ __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

10-19-2009, 01:56 AM	#6 (permalink)
zomgz Status: Wherever The Winds Fly Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Washington Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 600	ooo yeah i just get feeling like right after my dreams and sometimes they're really weird feelings! it was awkward cause i don't really like her... ehh.. like that hehe if ya'know what i mean xD she's awesome as a friend though!! =) not only that but we each have BF/GF and she's like 4 years younger lol!! so awkward-saucee!! xD dreamss pfft xD awhh dont cryyy =[ hugs i know it doesn't really mean much coming from some random dude on a forum lmao!! but i really mean it anyway (: maybe that guy of yours just needs some time to get over his relashionship, it's soo confusing after a breakup.. for me anyway! it took like almost 2 years to get over it =/ and i went from depressed to ok back to depressed and it wasn't very fun at all! but it's totally not you :] your awesome! if he can't see that then posh to him right? =) __________________ Chained to the bottom of the ocean floor, it's like running underwater. Feel free to add me to: Myspace \| Facebook \| Mindviz

10-19-2009, 03:08 AM	#8 (permalink)
TorLin Status: MayTheForceBeWithYou Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 17,056	yeah i can't sleep __________________ MTFBWU (May The Force Be With You) - TORLIN AIM, MSN, YIM: T0RL1N Skype: Tor_Lin Visit me at; ToryLing.com \| LivingAnxious \| Facebook \| Myspace \| Last.fm

10-19-2009, 03:15 AM	#9 (permalink)
zomgz Status: Wherever The Winds Fly Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Washington Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 600	insomniacs unite! and unlike procrastinator we have the upper hand! because we have extra time to do stuff =D __________________ Chained to the bottom of the ocean floor, it's like running underwater. Feel free to add me to: Myspace \| Facebook \| Mindviz

10-19-2009, 03:20 AM	#10 (permalink)
pita Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Gender: Female Posts: 2,167	I feel your pain. I didn't sleep at all last night.

10-19-2009, 03:42 AM	#11 (permalink)
TorLin Status: MayTheForceBeWithYou Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 17,056	im still up __________________ MTFBWU (May The Force Be With You) - TORLIN AIM, MSN, YIM: T0RL1N Skype: Tor_Lin Visit me at; ToryLing.com \| LivingAnxious \| Facebook \| Myspace \| Last.fm

10-19-2009, 11:54 AM	#13 (permalink)
toffee Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 181	i have alot of trouble getting to sleep aswell... it's weird because once i'm asleep i can sleep 10 hours, but i can never get to sleep. i wake up at 6am every morning, and every night i go to sleep really late.. last night i couldn't fall asleep until about 3.30am.. the only thing that works for me is exercise in the day.. about 30 mins to an hour.. it knocks you out! __________________ Everywhere i look, you're all i see.. just a fading ****ing reminder of who i used to be.

10-19-2009, 12:02 PM	#14 (permalink)
Jimbe Status: Busy being useless Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: United Kingdom Gender: Male Age: 16 Posts: 141	When i'm worrying about something I find it extremely hard to go to sleep, and I find myself randomly waking up in the night. When i'm calm its usually ok, though I still find it hard to sleep. Once i'm asleep, I sleep for a long time __________________ Traditional nationalism cannot survive the fissioning of the atom. One world or none. ~Stuart Chase Life is cruel