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Old 11-02-2009, 06:43 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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act retarded when u are around ppl, well i do is like something takes over me and doesn't let me think straight, i can't focus on what im saying and i end up saying or doin stupid almost childish retarded ****, it's frustrating, later when i am alone, im like WTF was that all about, i lack control of myself when im around ppl, anybody can relate to this?
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Same here. It really blows.
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yeah, im like that too
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Oh yeah... when I'm around girls, I kind of half-flirt with them constantly. It's crazy. From my point of view, I'm acting like an idiot... but I have no idea what they think about it.

I don't care though, if I go too far I'll know. I may think it's stupid, but who am I to judge? I'm sick of being so harsh on myself.
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Yup.
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When I'm very nervous I either speak very little or stumble through what I'm saying lol. Later on, I think back on it, and wonder what the hell was I doing
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Yeah, I have those moments.

When I'm in an unfamiliar social situation sometimes I get this rush of...adrenaline? I don't know. I start thinking and acting in ways I wouldn't normally think or act. Maybe it's the nervousness - it clouds your mind and instead of really thinking about what you're saying, you're just sort of reacting just to get through the ordeal.

For me also, it's because I'm so used to "faking it" and putting on a show for other people, pretending to be normal, it just becomes second nature and I can't help it. I turn into a completely different person that has very little to do with the real me. And when I'm myself and alone again I get this "morning after" moment, like "what was that all about??"
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Yeah, I can relate. I usually just don't say enough and later I wonder why I didn't say certain things.
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I often have the same problem. My mind goes blank when around people. Then I'll think of what I wanted or could have said after too much time has passed.
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Yup, me too, can't even form coherent sentences, even if it's stuff I wouldn't mind talking about, I hate it =/
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Because of the overall lack of social interaction, when I do get some (say, someone in one of my classes tells a joke to me and someone else) I go overboard. I literally cannot stop laughing, or giggling, even if it's a lame joke. I don't know why I do it, but it's horrible. I usually end up trying to hold my giggles in so much that my eyes begin to water, added to which I get overheated, my cheeks flush and I begin sweating badly. All of the above is worsened by the knowledge of what a fool I'm making of myself, but I just can't help it.

It's horrible. A perfectly good chance to just be normal and fit in and I blow it. This only happens once or twice a month, as people seemed to have learned to not bother talking to me.
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Because of the overall lack of social interaction, when I do get some (say, someone in one of my classes tells a joke to me and someone else) I go overboard. I literally cannot stop laughing, or giggling, even if it's a lame joke. I don't know why I do it, but it's horrible. I usually end up trying to hold my giggles in so much that my eyes begin to water, added to which I get overheated, my cheeks flush and I begin sweating badly. All of the above is worsened by the knowledge of what a fool I'm making of myself, but I just can't help it.

It's horrible. A perfectly good chance to just be normal and fit in and I blow it. This only happens once or twice a month, as people seemed to have learned to not bother talking to me.

Haha, don't worry, I have the same reaction much of the time. It can be pretty embarrasing when everyone else has stopped laughing at a joke and I'm still sitting there three minutes later giggling my *** off.

I suppose the bright side to my total lack of life experiences and social interaction over the years is the fact that it takes very little to make me happy. Just tagging along with a couple of people to a bar or a party can make my whole month. Hmm....that's kinda sad, actually.
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act retarded when u are around ppl, well i do is like something takes over me and doesn't let me think straight. i can't focus on what im saying and i end up saying or doin stupid almost childish retarded ****, it's frustrating, later when i am alone, im like WTF was that all about, i lack control of myself when im around ppl, anybody can relate to this?
I could be standing in a corner by myself all happy and normal, but as soon as I walk into a few or group of people, it's as if my mind shuts off. Like you I can't think straight, it's extremely frustrating.

This is why I'm socially quiet, I'd rather not say anything than say something stupid. I've gotten a few strange glances for things I've said. Then yeah, later when I'm thinking about the earlier situation I have trouble realizing why I said so many stupid things or... what I really should have said.

I wish I could understand it. I realize there's no reason to be afraid around people and I'm not stupid... I know how to carry on a conversation. My brain just doesn't let me when I should be able to. Oh well, just a part of sa.
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And when I'm myself and alone again I get this "morning after" moment, like "what was that all about??"
Oh god yes. I hate the post-socializing hangover.
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act retarded when u are around ppl, well i do is like something takes over me and doesn't let me think straight, i can't focus on what im saying and i end up saying or doin stupid almost childish retarded ****, it's frustrating, later when i am alone, im like WTF was that all about, i lack control of myself when im around ppl, anybody can relate to this?
I speak so much sh1t and complete gobbedee**** around people that I don't know how they couldn't think I'm retarded in some way...
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Like every time right when I'm about to get into a conversation my "awkword time bomb" goes off....and for once in my life I'd like to just function normally in a conversation,oh and sometimes and actually most of the time its not what I'm saying its how I"m acting.I act really spastically around people,and I can't really control it and it escalates the more I feel that I'm not getting attention,lol I'm so childish that way.
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woah i didn't think so many ppl would relate to this, im surprised
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Know the feeling Usually think I act weird or stupid to other people. Really hate group work for this reason too. Seems like I don't use my whole head when in a group. Alone I could accomplish the same things alone, but in a group I feel like I can't think or contribute much.
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Know the feeling Usually think I act weird or stupid to other people. Really hate group work for this reason too. Seems like I don't use my whole head when in a group. Alone I could accomplish the same things alone, but in a group I feel like I can't think or contribute much.
that reminds me when i was in high school and we had to work in groups i never did anything cuz i was afraid to take control of the situation :/
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