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Asbel18 · 03-09-2012, 09:01 PM

...or even invites to any event in general. I haven't got any invite to a party, let alone birthday in a long time. It sucks not having much of a social life, being 18 and all. When I see others peoples pictures on facebook about ____ party, I feel really empty in the inside. That's what I think. Well, how do you guys feel about it?

Paloma M · 03-09-2012, 09:07 PM

I don't care at all. In fact, I'd rather not get invited to parties because parties=socializing and I don't even bother to socialize. I would probably be sitting on the couch by myself stuffing my face.

Zil · 03-09-2012, 09:22 PM

I've had moments where I was invited every week, I didn't really want to jump on those opportunities. Even today I got invited to go out and instead I decided to go to the local pool and swim alone for an hour. I don't know if that was the right decision, but that doesn't matter now.

At some point I was under the impression that if you are a simple acquaintance to all your contacts they will not bother inviting you unless you express a certain degree of willingness.

GChopsticks125 · 03-09-2012, 09:31 PM

From my personal experience, the invites came from those who I thought were my friends. I was hardly invited to anything growing up and it's basically the same today. The few times where I was invited to places I either didn't attend, or I left earlier because I felt uncomfortable.

Mr Mug · 03-09-2012, 09:32 PM

It doesn't bother me, I went a few parties back in high school and I was bored out of my mind. Maybe it's just me but I don't think you're missing anything.

UltraShy · 03-09-2012, 09:36 PM

Don't know. Never happens to me.

InfiniteBlaze · 03-09-2012, 09:41 PM

I couldn't care less. I hate parties.

squidlette · 03-09-2012, 09:42 PM

It used to bother me.... and it still does every now and then when I'm in a situation where it's patently clear that everybody's been invited except me. Like in a class last semester, everybody hung out all the time, and they'd just talk constantly about getting together for a party when the course ended. It was super annoying.... not because I wanted to go, per se, but just because it felt like they were intentionally trying to rub it in my face. For the most part, though, I couldn't give a rat's arse.

Nekomata · 03-09-2012, 09:58 PM

It kinda bothered me, but then I reminded myself that I wouldn't have gone anyway so it didn't really matter xDDD. I hate parties, always have done apparently.

Twelve Keyz · 03-09-2012, 11:40 PM

I think i'd feel worse if I was invited... because then I would have to reject the invite out of fear.

Koloz · 03-10-2012, 12:26 AM

Most over rated crap ever, all it is, is boring people holding a stupid red cup in their hand, talking about dumb things, and that's it.wow, really lame imo. I refuse to be a part of that crap

Koloz · 03-10-2012, 12:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by InfiniteBlaze

I couldn't care less. I hate parties.

Jinxx · 03-10-2012, 12:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by InfiniteBlaze

I couldn't care less. I hate parties.

Same. Matter of fact. I'm happy when I'm not invited to parties. I get pretty pissy when I am.

GaaraAgain · 03-10-2012, 12:41 AM

Apathetic. I did the whole partying thing my freshman year of college. The novelty has mostly worn off for me, so I enjoy the odd party that I get invited to and don't sweat the ones I'm not invited to. Chances are I'm not missing much of anything.

masterridley · 03-10-2012, 08:37 AM

One of my most traumatic experiences was back in 4th grade,
when a girl got up and said "I'm doing a party" and then
proceeded to hand invitations desk to desk.

Yep, you guessed it, I was the only one who didn't get one and
even when she announced it, I was praying that god would
somehow take me away from that classroom, that I could
make myself invisible, basically what Thom Yorke always sings about.

Spent the rest of the day feeling dead and buried, at the brink
of crying and also shying away from even my small group of
friends to not risk them noticing that I didn't have an invitation.

Borophyll · 03-10-2012, 08:39 AM

Im glad I dont get invited to parties anymore. Ive been to one and the whole drinking till we pass out, while taking pictures to put on facebook with our cool red cups, and trying to take advantage of people, just doesn't seem like fun to me.

spankyy · 03-10-2012, 08:58 AM

i just buzz alone @ my home lmao

laura024 · 03-10-2012, 08:59 AM

I wouldn't go anyway, so it's better not to invite me.

Bunyip · 03-10-2012, 09:05 AM

Eh. I don't care about drinking parties.

But as to 'parties' where everyone is actually going and doing something fun, I think if I actually knew anyone capable of inviting me that it would make me feel bad to not be invited.

...As for right now, I don't really care much because I have no idea who WOULD invited me to a party. XD

I would go to a small party fershizzle.

Rossy · 03-10-2012, 09:11 AM

I don't care,party's are hugely overrated.

03-09-2012, 09:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
Asbel18 Status: Outer Heaven Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 88	How do you feel about not getting invited to parties? ...or even invites to any event in general. I haven't got any invite to a party, let alone birthday in a long time. It sucks not having much of a social life, being 18 and all. When I see others peoples pictures on facebook about ____ party, I feel really empty in the inside. That's what I think. Well, how do you guys feel about it?

03-09-2012, 09:22 PM	#3 (permalink)
Zil Status: I AM JUSTICE. Join Date: Feb 2011 Age: 23 Posts: 826	I've had moments where I was invited every week, I didn't really want to jump on those opportunities. Even today I got invited to go out and instead I decided to go to the local pool and swim alone for an hour. I don't know if that was the right decision, but that doesn't matter now. At some point I was under the impression that if you are a simple acquaintance to all your contacts they will not bother inviting you unless you express a certain degree of willingness. __________________ I live by the Knight's Code, so should you. "A person's world is only as big as their heart."

03-09-2012, 09:36 PM	#6 (permalink)
UltraShy Status: Surrounded by Sadness Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Milwaukee, WI (BDSM sadist, Libertarian) Gender: Male Age: 40 Posts: 35,059	Don't know. Never happens to me. __________________ I wonder what reason I have to live Desperately I have searched for a meaning Is it now time for me to let go of the world

03-10-2012, 12:41 AM	#14 (permalink)
GaaraAgain Status: Back to bed. Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: NYC Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 1,548	Apathetic. I did the whole partying thing my freshman year of college. The novelty has mostly worn off for me, so I enjoy the odd party that I get invited to and don't sweat the ones I'm not invited to. Chances are I'm not missing much of anything. __________________ And I cannot lose for even in defeat there's a valuable lesson learned, so it evens it up for me.

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03-09-2012, 09:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
Paloma M Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Texas Age: 23 Posts: 2,609	I don't care at all. In fact, I'd rather not get invited to parties because parties=socializing and I don't even bother to socialize. I would probably be sitting on the couch by myself stuffing my face.

03-09-2012, 09:31 PM	#4 (permalink)
GChopsticks125 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 117	From my personal experience, the invites came from those who I thought were my friends. I was hardly invited to anything growing up and it's basically the same today. The few times where I was invited to places I either didn't attend, or I left earlier because I felt uncomfortable.

03-09-2012, 09:32 PM	#5 (permalink)
Mr Mug Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 1,615	It doesn't bother me, I went a few parties back in high school and I was bored out of my mind. Maybe it's just me but I don't think you're missing anything.

03-09-2012, 09:41 PM	#7 (permalink)
InfiniteBlaze Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Chicago, IL Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 8,481	I couldn't care less. I hate parties.

03-09-2012, 09:42 PM	#8 (permalink)
squidlette Status: Anomie Anemone Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: 300-1000m deep below the surface of the ocean Gender: Female Posts: 748	It used to bother me.... and it still does every now and then when I'm in a situation where it's patently clear that everybody's been invited except me. Like in a class last semester, everybody hung out all the time, and they'd just talk constantly about getting together for a party when the course ended. It was super annoying.... not because I wanted to go, per se, but just because it felt like they were intentionally trying to rub it in my face. For the most part, though, I couldn't give a rat's arse.

03-09-2012, 09:58 PM	#9 (permalink)
Nekomata Status: Desu!~ Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 3,346	It kinda bothered me, but then I reminded myself that I wouldn't have gone anyway so it didn't really matter xDDD. I hate parties, always have done apparently.

03-09-2012, 11:40 PM	#10 (permalink)
Twelve Keyz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Gender: Male Posts: 4,661	I think i'd feel worse if I was invited... because then I would have to reject the invite out of fear.

03-10-2012, 12:26 AM	#11 (permalink)
Koloz Status: User Requested Temporary Ban Join Date: Nov 2011 Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 638	Most over rated crap ever, all it is, is boring people holding a stupid red cup in their hand, talking about dumb things, and that's it.wow, really lame imo. I refuse to be a part of that crap

03-10-2012, 08:37 AM	#15 (permalink)
masterridley Status: ΓΤΖΜ Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Athens, Greece Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 430	One of my most traumatic experiences was back in 4th grade, when a girl got up and said "I'm doing a party" and then proceeded to hand invitations desk to desk. Yep, you guessed it, I was the only one who didn't get one and even when she announced it, I was praying that god would somehow take me away from that classroom, that I could make myself invisible, basically what Thom Yorke always sings about. Spent the rest of the day feeling dead and buried, at the brink of crying and also shying away from even my small group of friends to not risk them noticing that I didn't have an invitation.

03-10-2012, 08:39 AM	#16 (permalink)
Borophyll Status: FEEEEEEENYYYYYY Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Hoboken, NJ Gender: Male Posts: 2,876	Im glad I dont get invited to parties anymore. Ive been to one and the whole drinking till we pass out, while taking pictures to put on facebook with our cool red cups, and trying to take advantage of people, just doesn't seem like fun to me.

03-10-2012, 08:58 AM	#17 (permalink)
spankyy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Racoon City Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 251	i just buzz alone @ my home lmao

03-10-2012, 08:59 AM	#18 (permalink)
laura024 Status: Pro-intellectualism Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 7,808	I wouldn't go anyway, so it's better not to invite me.

03-10-2012, 09:05 AM	#19 (permalink)
Bunyip Status: Docile Join Date: Feb 2012 Age: 18 Posts: 1,624	Eh. I don't care about drinking parties. But as to 'parties' where everyone is actually going and doing something fun, I think if I actually knew anyone capable of inviting me that it would make me feel bad to not be invited. ...As for right now, I don't really care much because I have no idea who WOULD invited me to a party. XD I would go to a small party fershizzle.

03-10-2012, 09:11 AM	#20 (permalink)
Rossy Status: Who knows Join Date: Jan 2011 Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 5,439	I don't care,party's are hugely overrated.