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Old 06-18-2010, 02:49 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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So this thing occurred to me lots of times in which random people that i meet few minuts ago or in short period of time already assumed that i am a virgin or a lips virgin. now how the **** people know this and figure it out.
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Old 06-18-2010, 02:56 AM   #2 (permalink)
 
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I dont know if you meant through online or...? cuz that would be weird.... :S
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:/ thats weird. I don't think people can judge someone for being a virgin or 'never been kissed' etc by just looking at someone.
Maybe it's because we are 'shy' so they automatically assume that we haven't been with someone
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Old 06-18-2010, 03:17 AM   #4 (permalink)
 
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i mean i meet someone talk a little bit and hes like 'your a virgin' or a 'lips virgin'
(and i mean in real life)
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well in all fairness its easy to "think" someones a virgin or whatever maybe they are, maybe they arent, you know what i mean? maybe that person has imaginary characteristics for people who havent had sex.
Dont worry too much about it, i know kids these days think its "cool" to hook up or w,e but trust me it doesnt change anything.
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Old 06-18-2010, 03:25 AM   #6 (permalink)
 
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Maybe because you are "shy"?

Or maybe because you are being shy?

But then again, does "shy" always mean "hasn't been with anyone"?

People make assumptions. I make a whole load of massive guesses on this forum. I get it right a lot because I've been through similar things but boy do I miss the mark sometimes too.

People pick up on behaviours and then make assumptions. They guess and get things wrong. And that's only if they are bothering to be that judgemental in the first place.

It is possible that you feel so ashamed of your virginity (for some reason) that this is a really big issue for you and you have started to think and feel that the way people interact with you means they know you're secret.

You're a virgin. So what?

It's not a mark of shame. Some people just assume it is.

I lost mine at 17 to a 24 year old. I had to put up with the usual crap at school about how late I was in losing it and how sad I was and how they felt they had to up their game because "oh my god, Martin's getting some". Yeah, hearing that made me feel fantastic about myself I can tell you.

The losing of the virginity is not the making of the person.

If people's assumptions are spot on, so what? Do you need their validation?
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Old 06-18-2010, 03:46 AM   #7 (permalink)
 
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you dont understand what i am asking, i ask how do they know or figure that i am a virgin i am not asking it in a pissed way like i am angry because i am a virgin(and i am and also lips virgin) my question is how do they know it. like is it the way i speak, look, or by body language some girl
told me that i dont have a girlfriend because she can feel that vibe that i have no GF or ever had.
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So they meet you and after a few moments randomly say "you're a virgin"? How do you even get on that subject?
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Old 06-18-2010, 11:37 AM   #9 (permalink)
 
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maybe you look like this?

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There's a lot of body language and other nonverbal signals that people might pick up on. Probably the only ways to tell are asking people you've met in real life or reading about body language. For what it's worth, talking about "virginity" in the context of kissing is a definite giveaway.
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I found it here:

www.benyaminisavirgin.com

Don't worry though, I've contacted the people at the site and they've since taken it down.
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They don't know. They assume.

They may assume that you are a virgin or lips virgin because you are socially awkward.

People used to assume that I was a straight "A" student, because I was quiet in school. That would have been nice, but I was actually struggling in school.

Things that have been assumed of me:
- virgin
- excellent in school
- don't know a thing about drugs (thought I should be unaware of 4/20, or afraid to tell me about hard drug experience, because I will be shocked or judge negatively )
- prude (expected blushing and "oh dear" response when shown dirty picture - meh)
- against piercings or tattoos, because I don't have any and don't want any. (I like them on other people, actually)
- kiss a** (I don't go looking for a fight and I try not to make waves, but one of my strengths is that I'm not afraid of authority. I complain when I feel it's necessary)

I hate it when people make assumptions of me or anyone else for that matter. It's a major pet peeve of mine.

Anyway, don't worry about it. Some people are just plain naive.
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lol Were
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Old 06-18-2010, 08:43 PM   #14 (permalink)
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It's better than people thinking you're a hooker.
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They don't know. They assume.

They may assume that you are a virgin or lips virgin because you are socially awkward.

People used to assume that I was a straight "A" student, because I was quiet in school. That would have been nice, but I was actually struggling in school.

Things that have been assumed of me:
- virgin
- excellent in school
- don't know a thing about drugs (thought I should be unaware of 4/20, or afraid to tell me about hard drug experience, because I will be shocked or judge negatively )
- prude (expected blushing and "oh dear" response when shown dirty picture - meh)
- against piercings or tattoos, because I don't have any and don't want any. (I like them on other people, actually)
- kiss a** (I don't go looking for a fight and I try not to make waves, but one of my strengths is that I'm not afraid of authority. I complain when I feel it's necessary)

I hate it when people make assumptions of me or anyone else for that matter. It's a major pet peeve of mine.

Anyway, don't worry about it. Some people are just plain naive.
I had the same exact problem.

Throughout my years of school, people would ask me to solve math problems for them. I asked why, they assumed I was really good at math. What they didn't know is that I failed every math class in my entire life, even all the way up till 11th grade. Actually, I failed most of my classes throughout school.

But they assumed I was nothing but straight A student.
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- don't know a thing about drugs (thought I should be unaware of 4/20, or afraid to tell me about hard drug experience, because I will be shocked or judge negatively )
haha, i've had people think that about me while i was a major drug addict.
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Sometimes you can just tell, like their voice is just screaming VIRGIN ON ISLE 9!!
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Nah, I doubt it really ever crosses people's minds when you talk to them. It's just your negative thoughts man which you have to block out.
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So they meet you and after a few moments randomly say "you're a virgin"? How do you even get on that subject?

People are crazy like that.

Once when I was waiting for a ride after class this guy started talking to me. I just assumed he was bored and waiting for a ride as well. So we talked for about 10 minutes and then all of a sudden he asks me if I masturbated, how do girls masturbate, and if I was a lesbian.


Most uncomfortable day of my life.
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The way you carry yourself..
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