It is difficult sometimes. My parents have said in the past "you're a handsome lad" and so on. But we'd all have to admit our parent's opinions are irrelevant, it's the women out there whose opinion we really care about.
Photos do, as you say, vary hugely. I've been graded from a 2 to a 7. I think I'm certainly on the ugly side though as I get zero interest from women, so that's my barometer.
Photos do lie. I'm not kidding, I have around 10 photos of me (once again, full frontal shots taken with a good camera) where I am attractive. No matter who I ask, be it a teen dating forum or whatever, people say i'm cute. I even posted them on a dating site and actually got responses from real girls.
Then I have photos where I am super plain looking.
And then I have photos where I am genuinely considered ugly.
I'm really not sure which shows the real me. My cousin told me last year that I look very different in photos but keep in mind, I look different between the ATTRACTIVE pictures as well. I don't look like the same person in all my "good" pics. Plus, when she told me that, all my photos on facebook were taken by a crappy 2 megapixel camera so of course I'd look different. I use 10mp minimum now for my fb photos.
I don't know. I was sitting with my cousin and her friends and one girl whispered to my cousin that I look like the person my cousin has a crush on.
I went to a dance once (first time) and a random girl came up and started grinding with me for 20 seconds. Then she just left. I don't know, maybe i make it awkward because i didn't really know how to respond.
At the same dance, a group of girls I didnt know grabbed me by the t-shirt and brought me into a big circle where a few of them grinded with me.
I still don't know. I wish I could just friggin found out.