Social Anxiety Support

Sabrina · 11-19-2009, 08:07 AM

Am i the only one who sucks at keeping my house clean? I am 26 years old,and still find myself to be a very poor housecleaner. My father came over yesterday and got on me about living the way i do. He was like "You are at home all day,u need to get off your *** a clean, No excuses for a female your age to be this nasty"

He looked so digusted and dissapointed in me. I felt like utter crap,still do.

I don't know whats wrong with me. I have no energy at all, and i always feel weak and worn out. Just always feel so lazy and unmotivated. Its just embarrassing. My god. Everytime,i start cleaning,i get tired really quick and just stop. Its like somebody sucked all the life out of me. I don't know if its depression,the anxiety,or something else. I can barely take care of myself.

Anybody else going through this?

Dying note · 11-19-2009, 08:14 AM

I go through that a lot actually. And it is my depression. I'm sorry for how you feel and what was said to you couldn't have helped much. For me, it's not like I want the lazy, unmotivated feeling, the apathy/numbness, but even with the help I've gotten in the past, it all still comes about anyway. I hope you feel better soon and can get around to the things you want to do.

Phibes · 11-19-2009, 08:15 AM

Apathy is bad.

I don't like to clean when others tell me to. I do it on my own accord. Thing is, I'm a really clean person naturally.
I just hate doing things when people tell me to. I hate doing stuff to satisfy someones orders. I do things for my own good, not for others.

A girl needs to know how to cook well and clean well. I feel that too many of them these days are losing touch with how they should be. It's very unattractive when they don't know how to do those things. I want to marry a lady.

My911GT2993 · 11-19-2009, 08:24 AM

ye me2, my room gets so messy, its part of depression apparently. spend so much time just worrying its like "what? oh i have a room, and it's messy, oh yea" but never motivated to do it, it seems so un-important compared to what people are thinking and saying.......................................

rubyruby · 11-19-2009, 08:30 AM

This is one of the things I just don't understand. This lack of motivation towards housework. Sometimes I think there must be a secondary condition like a low grade depression or there is a type of ADD you can have where you can be very unfocused, unmotivated.

I do have quite high energy levels in the very early morning if I wake up. So on those days I try to get things done.

But I know it's like on top of everything else I'm a terrible housekeeper.

I have tons of books on the subject, I cut out newspaper articles on how to get out stains etc, it really is quite strange.

Sabrina · 11-19-2009, 08:42 AM

I actually like when everything is clean,neat, and in space. I can't stand a messy home. Ain't nothing worser,but I just don't have the motivation TO clean. Its like i have a phobia about cleaning or something. I really need to get it together,before i end up on CLEAN HOUSE.

I've heard people say,that the way you keep your home,says alot about whats going on in your INNER world. I do feel like a mess on the inside. I'm ashamed of myself,but i will get it together. I have to keep telling myself that. lol

I was about to get slick with my father, and tell him to clean up for me. Pissed me off. I'm not that crazy though,lol.

Sabrina · 11-19-2009, 01:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Phibes

Apathy is bad.

I don't like to clean when others tell me to. I do it on my own accord. Thing is, I'm a really clean person naturally.
I just hate doing things when people tell me to. I hate doing stuff to satisfy someones orders. I do things for my own good, not for others.

A girl needs to know how to cook well and clean well. I feel that too many of them these days are losing touch with how they should be. It's very unattractive when they don't know how to do those things. I want to marry a lady.

I'm a awesome cook,but don't look for me to clean up afterwards

Take that

Sabrina · 11-19-2009, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by polythene

I don't know if this would help, but maybe scheduling your cleaning for particular times would help you a little bit. Once you get a routine established, it's not as daunting to complete certain tasks. Also if your depression is bad don't set unrealistic goals, like scrubbing all your floors, doing all your laundry, finishing your dishes and picking up the mess on your floor. Do one at a time, maybe one a day, at an appointed hour.

11-19-2009, 08:07 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sabrina Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 164	Housecleaning? Am i the only one who sucks at keeping my house clean? I am 26 years old,and still find myself to be a very poor housecleaner. My father came over yesterday and got on me about living the way i do. He was like "You are at home all day,u need to get off your *** a clean, No excuses for a female your age to be this nasty" He looked so digusted and dissapointed in me. I felt like utter crap,still do. I don't know whats wrong with me. I have no energy at all, and i always feel weak and worn out. Just always feel so lazy and unmotivated. Its just embarrassing. My god. Everytime,i start cleaning,i get tired really quick and just stop. Its like somebody sucked all the life out of me. I don't know if its depression,the anxiety,or something else. I can barely take care of myself. Anybody else going through this?

11-19-2009, 08:14 AM	#2 (permalink)
Dying note Status: Don't turn away Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: U.S. Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 85	I go through that a lot actually. And it is my depression. I'm sorry for how you feel and what was said to you couldn't have helped much. For me, it's not like I want the lazy, unmotivated feeling, the apathy/numbness, but even with the help I've gotten in the past, it all still comes about anyway. I hope you feel better soon and can get around to the things you want to do.

11-19-2009, 08:15 AM	#3 (permalink)
Phibes Status: blessed with lucky sevens Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Brisbane, Australia. Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 767	Apathy is bad. I don't like to clean when others tell me to. I do it on my own accord. Thing is, I'm a really clean person naturally. I just hate doing things when people tell me to. I hate doing stuff to satisfy someones orders. I do things for my own good, not for others. A girl needs to know how to cook well and clean well. I feel that too many of them these days are losing touch with how they should be. It's very unattractive when they don't know how to do those things. I want to marry a lady.

11-19-2009, 08:24 AM	#4 (permalink)
My911GT2993 Status: User Requested Ban Join Date: May 2009 Age: 23 Posts: 648	ye me2, my room gets so messy, its part of depression apparently. spend so much time just worrying its like "what? oh i have a room, and it's messy, oh yea" but never motivated to do it, it seems so un-important compared to what people are thinking and saying.......................................

11-19-2009, 08:30 AM	#5 (permalink)
rubyruby Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 81	This is one of the things I just don't understand. This lack of motivation towards housework. Sometimes I think there must be a secondary condition like a low grade depression or there is a type of ADD you can have where you can be very unfocused, unmotivated. I do have quite high energy levels in the very early morning if I wake up. So on those days I try to get things done. But I know it's like on top of everything else I'm a terrible housekeeper. I have tons of books on the subject, I cut out newspaper articles on how to get out stains etc, it really is quite strange.

11-19-2009, 08:42 AM	#6 (permalink)
Sabrina Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 164	I actually like when everything is clean,neat, and in space. I can't stand a messy home. Ain't nothing worser,but I just don't have the motivation TO clean. Its like i have a phobia about cleaning or something. I really need to get it together,before i end up on CLEAN HOUSE. I've heard people say,that the way you keep your home,says alot about whats going on in your INNER world. I do feel like a mess on the inside. I'm ashamed of myself,but i will get it together. I have to keep telling myself that. lol I was about to get slick with my father, and tell him to clean up for me. Pissed me off. I'm not that crazy though,lol.