Social Anxiety Support

Phobiker · 04-08-2009, 12:15 PM

Oooh I hate those small talk. I go outside and I bump into someone who wanna do some small talk. It always goes like: "Hey, how's it doing?" "G-g-good!" "Nice weather, right?" "Yeah, pretty warm." "And, what are you gonna do today?" "Uuuhm, let's see." "Have a nice day!" "Thanks, same to you!" Oh boy, oh boy.

Seven Island Suite · 04-08-2009, 12:21 PM

I suppose small talk is better than not talking to anyone at all.

Desperate · 04-08-2009, 12:34 PM

^agree
It's kind of like practice in a way though.. You'll see. One day you will be used to it and talk to any one you see. Just have hope.

shyvr6 · 04-08-2009, 12:34 PM

I hate it when I'm just trying to go about my business and random people start talking to me.

is_there_hope · 04-08-2009, 12:34 PM

Yea. I wish I could do better small talk.

lesigh · 04-08-2009, 12:46 PM

Sometimes it's nice to have easy, uncomplicated conversation, but I always worry that the other person thinks it's boring and pointless.

TorLin · 04-08-2009, 12:49 PM

you all can do small talk, you guys just have to have bravery, courage, and practice. it's not something i can use magic for, it takes time and it fails you just have to get up, dust off all negative thoughts, and try again.

Seven Island Suite · 04-08-2009, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by lesigh

Sometimes it's nice to have easy, uncomplicated conversation, but I always worry that the other person thinks it's boring and pointless.

I always worry about seeming boring as well. Even typing out this message seems pointless and redundant.

Seven Island Suite · 04-08-2009, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by TorLin

you all can do small talk, you guys just have to have bravery, courage, and practice. it's not something i can use magic for, it takes time and it fails you just have to get up, dust off all negative thoughts, and try again.

you're read to progress once you learn to accept and then move on from failure.

Bredwh · 04-08-2009, 09:21 PM

Turn the small talk into big talk to drive them away. Them:"Hi, how are you?" You:"Better than those people that were in that earthquake in Italy." Basically be Debbie Downer.

Melinda · 04-08-2009, 11:35 PM

I personally hate small talk, but I realize it is important to know how to do--and I absolutely fail at it, sadly.

Phobiker · 04-09-2009, 08:50 AM

Actually I have nothing against it, but I get axious, that sucks, the good old SA.

MaidMarian · 04-09-2009, 10:27 AM

I suck at small talk, too, even online with people I don't know all that well. Probably most people feel the same way, kind of awkward about it.

bluebluesplayer · 04-09-2009, 06:40 PM

I can do small talk but I can't stand it. I don't want to come across as a snob or a jerk (because I'm not) so I have to play their game. Some of the small talk is really REDUNDANT.

sanspants08 · 04-09-2009, 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Bredwh

Turn the small talk into big talk to drive them away. Them:"Hi, how are you?" You:"Better than those people that were in that earthquake in Italy." Basically be Debbie Downer.

Bahahahaa

. You can also substitute, "Better than that guy over there, he has herpes!"

Usually I just sidetrack people by making a random statement. As in, the old guy who stands in front of my door at work, watching FOX news, will ask me, "How's the weather?" and I'll say, with sincerity, "tacos for lunch today."

Sukipei · 04-09-2009, 09:10 PM

Some years ago I thought that small talk was what people not so intelligent used to talk to someone but later I realized that it is way to meet people and people who have the small talk skills , probably will succeed.

04-08-2009, 12:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
Phobiker Status: Loser Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 199	"Hey, how's it doing? Nice weather, right?" Oooh I hate those small talk. I go outside and I bump into someone who wanna do some small talk. It always goes like: "Hey, how's it doing?" "G-g-good!" "Nice weather, right?" "Yeah, pretty warm." "And, what are you gonna do today?" "Uuuhm, let's see." "Have a nice day!" "Thanks, same to you!" Oh boy, oh boy. __________________ I think they think...

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shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 9,645	I hate it when I'm just trying to go about my business and random people start talking to me. __________________ Music

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TorLin Status: MayTheForceBeWithYou Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 17,058	you all can do small talk, you guys just have to have bravery, courage, and practice. it's not something i can use magic for, it takes time and it fails you just have to get up, dust off all negative thoughts, and try again. __________________ MTFBWU (May The Force Be With You) - TORLIN AIM, MSN, YIM: T0RL1N Skype: Tor_Lin Visit me at; ToryLing.com \| LivingAnxious \| Facebook \| Myspace \| Last.fm

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Bredwh Status: Single White He-male Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Delhi, NY, USA (in the Catskills) Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 811	Turn the small talk into big talk to drive them away. Them:"Hi, how are you?" You:"Better than those people that were in that earthquake in Italy." Basically be Debbie Downer. __________________ my intro thread + history/description of my SA

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Phobiker Status: Loser Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 199	Actually I have nothing against it, but I get axious, that sucks, the good old SA. __________________ I think they think...

04-08-2009, 12:21 PM	#2 (permalink)
Seven Island Suite Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Melbourne Australia Gender: Male Posts: 100	I suppose small talk is better than not talking to anyone at all.

04-08-2009, 12:34 PM	#3 (permalink)
Desperate Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Central Cali Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 358	^agree It's kind of like practice in a way though.. You'll see. One day you will be used to it and talk to any one you see. Just have hope.

04-08-2009, 12:34 PM	#5 (permalink)
is_there_hope Status: Beneath the surface Join Date: Feb 2009 Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 164	Yea. I wish I could do better small talk.

04-08-2009, 12:46 PM	#6 (permalink)
lesigh Status: Long Lost Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 91	Sometimes it's nice to have easy, uncomplicated conversation, but I always worry that the other person thinks it's boring and pointless.

04-08-2009, 11:35 PM	#11 (permalink)
Melinda Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 100	I personally hate small talk, but I realize it is important to know how to do--and I absolutely fail at it, sadly.

04-09-2009, 10:27 AM	#13 (permalink)
MaidMarian Status: dazed and confused Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Vancouver, Canada Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 896	I suck at small talk, too, even online with people I don't know all that well. Probably most people feel the same way, kind of awkward about it. __________________ No great genius has ever existed without some touch of madness. - Aristotle

04-09-2009, 06:40 PM	#14 (permalink)
bluebluesplayer Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 102	I can do small talk but I can't stand it. I don't want to come across as a snob or a jerk (because I'm not) so I have to play their game. Some of the small talk is really REDUNDANT.

04-09-2009, 09:10 PM	#16 (permalink)
Sukipei Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Spain Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 41	Some years ago I thought that small talk was what people not so intelligent used to talk to someone but later I realized that it is way to meet people and people who have the small talk skills , probably will succeed.