Social Anxiety Support

pjm1978 · 11-06-2009, 05:49 PM

My father was a cocaine addict and alcoholic, a pretty violent one. He'd come home at night and would throw me a nasty beating. It started when i was seven and lasted up till my teens. Havent seen or spoken to him in ten years. If I ran into him today, me being 30 yrs old and him almost sixty, things would go much different then they did when i was seven. Bottom line, what doesnt kill you makes you stronger.

ShyViolet · 11-06-2009, 06:54 PM

I received plenty of emotional abuse at school. At home my sister would beat me up on a fairly regular basis and say a lot of nasty things.

illlaymedown · 11-07-2009, 12:36 AM

^ I got picked on a ton at school....kids can be nasty sometimes

Your parents didn't get onto your sister?

JMX · 11-07-2009, 12:38 AM

My parents have repeatedly (but unintentionally I'm sure) destroyed my confidence as I was growing up. I think that is what made me slowly develop SA.

Banzai · 11-07-2009, 01:02 AM

Yes- sexually, emotionally and physically. I still do when it comes to emotional abuse but I'm too old/wise to take much notice of it. My mother (who is a narcissist) has passed the 1 million mark of the amount of times she has called me lazy/stupid etc and when you get called it so much, it frankly, becomes less and less effective to the point where it's like as if she hasn't said anything/don't take much notice of it.

I think emotional abuse (or at least, calling your kids negative things) is a large part of growing up in asian families.

Phibes · 11-07-2009, 01:32 AM

Never physically. Just emotionally which can be just as bad imo.

Shauna The Dead · 11-07-2009, 08:23 AM

Yes, in almost every way... The most recent was my ex husband who was verbally/emotionally and physically abusive.

Your Crazy · 11-07-2009, 09:12 AM

My mother was/is an alcoholic and a feign, and verbally abused me all though my childhood. When I was 7-8 when she would take me to school, every other day she would say, "I hate you, I wish you were never born.", and if I ever made a mistake that wasn't pleasing to her she would say, "don't ever have kids, it'll be the worst mistake you'll ever make." That along with various self-esteem destorying comments, humiliation, and her unbelievable selfishness, has made me grow to loathe her.

layitontheline · 11-07-2009, 09:18 AM

Emotionally/mentally by my dad.

dreamer222 · 11-07-2009, 09:20 AM

Yes...

Phibes · 11-07-2009, 09:21 AM

My parents were really good, like the best parents you would want but my brother who was like 10+ years older than me was an alcoholic and he lived with us for ages and it made my childhood really awful.
Now I'm 21 and still at home. And actually, he is coming back from a couple of years away and I hope he isn't abusing alcohol anymore but it's kind of hypocritical of me now because I use alcohol now days. It's really a bad situation.

conjectural · 11-07-2009, 04:07 PM

I have never been physically abused, but I went through something very emotionally traumatic when I was ten, and this is where all of my problems stem from. I never talk about it, because I don't want people to think that I'm making something out of nothing -- I worry that people will judge me for being so affected by it, because technically I was never physically hurt, it was all emotional.

illlaymedown · 11-07-2009, 04:13 PM

^Like I said, emotional trauma is what really sticks with you past the bruises and whatnot of the physical. It hurts worse and I think a lot more on my own dad telling me "no man will ever want to be with/marry you" than a lot of the physical abuse I endured.

shadowmask · 11-07-2009, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by illlaymedown

It hurts worse and I think a lot more on my own dad telling me "no man will ever want to be with/marry you" than a lot of the physical abuse I endured.

After my dad's divorce from his second wife (which he frequently blamed on me) he would always tell me "I'll never let you have a girl. If you find one, I'll kill her". So I know how hearing such things from your own parents feels. Not too good.

Toad Licker · 11-07-2009, 06:28 PM

Mostly mentally growing up, my dad had a very bad temper and my mom had lots of problems too.

11-07-2009, 12:36 AM	#23 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 362	^ I got picked on a ton at school....kids can be nasty sometimes Your parents didn't get onto your sister? __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

11-07-2009, 01:02 AM	#25 (permalink)
Banzai Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: UK Posts: 908	Yes- sexually, emotionally and physically. I still do when it comes to emotional abuse but I'm too old/wise to take much notice of it. My mother (who is a narcissist) has passed the 1 million mark of the amount of times she has called me lazy/stupid etc and when you get called it so much, it frankly, becomes less and less effective to the point where it's like as if she hasn't said anything/don't take much notice of it. I think emotional abuse (or at least, calling your kids negative things) is a large part of growing up in asian families. __________________ When I was a kid I used to pray every night for a new bike. Then I realised that The Lord doesn't work that way, so I stole one and asked him to forgive me. -- Emo Philips

11-07-2009, 09:12 AM	#28 (permalink)
Your Crazy Status: 007 Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: My Mind Gender: Male Posts: 300	My mother was/is an alcoholic and a feign, and verbally abused me all though my childhood. When I was 7-8 when she would take me to school, every other day she would say, "I hate you, I wish you were never born.", and if I ever made a mistake that wasn't pleasing to her she would say, "don't ever have kids, it'll be the worst mistake you'll ever make." That along with various self-esteem destorying comments, humiliation, and her unbelievable selfishness, has made me grow to loathe her. __________________ "I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you...stranger." - The Joker

11-07-2009, 09:20 AM	#30 (permalink)
dreamer222 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 216	Yes... __________________ What if the hokey pokey really is what it's all about?

11-07-2009, 04:13 PM	#33 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 362	^Like I said, emotional trauma is what really sticks with you past the bruises and whatnot of the physical. It hurts worse and I think a lot more on my own dad telling me "no man will ever want to be with/marry you" than a lot of the physical abuse I endured. __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

11-06-2009, 05:49 PM	#21 (permalink)
pjm1978 Status: heading for playoffs Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: long island,ny Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 134	My father was a cocaine addict and alcoholic, a pretty violent one. He'd come home at night and would throw me a nasty beating. It started when i was seven and lasted up till my teens. Havent seen or spoken to him in ten years. If I ran into him today, me being 30 yrs old and him almost sixty, things would go much different then they did when i was seven. Bottom line, what doesnt kill you makes you stronger.

11-06-2009, 06:54 PM	#22 (permalink)
ShyViolet Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 1,942	I received plenty of emotional abuse at school. At home my sister would beat me up on a fairly regular basis and say a lot of nasty things.

11-07-2009, 12:38 AM	#24 (permalink)
JMX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 299	My parents have repeatedly (but unintentionally I'm sure) destroyed my confidence as I was growing up. I think that is what made me slowly develop SA.

11-07-2009, 01:32 AM	#26 (permalink)
Phibes Status: blessed with lucky sevens Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Brisbane, Australia. Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 637	Never physically. Just emotionally which can be just as bad imo.

11-07-2009, 08:23 AM	#27 (permalink)
Shauna The Dead Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Kentucky, USA Age: 25 Posts: 5,421	Yes, in almost every way... The most recent was my ex husband who was verbally/emotionally and physically abusive.

11-07-2009, 09:18 AM	#29 (permalink)
layitontheline Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 314	Emotionally/mentally by my dad.

11-07-2009, 09:21 AM	#31 (permalink)
Phibes Status: blessed with lucky sevens Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Brisbane, Australia. Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 637	My parents were really good, like the best parents you would want but my brother who was like 10+ years older than me was an alcoholic and he lived with us for ages and it made my childhood really awful. Now I'm 21 and still at home. And actually, he is coming back from a couple of years away and I hope he isn't abusing alcohol anymore but it's kind of hypocritical of me now because I use alcohol now days. It's really a bad situation.

11-07-2009, 04:07 PM	#32 (permalink)
conjectural Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Britain Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 17	I have never been physically abused, but I went through something very emotionally traumatic when I was ten, and this is where all of my problems stem from. I never talk about it, because I don't want people to think that I'm making something out of nothing -- I worry that people will judge me for being so affected by it, because technically I was never physically hurt, it was all emotional.

11-07-2009, 06:28 PM	#35 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,592	Mostly mentally growing up, my dad had a very bad temper and my mom had lots of problems too. __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem