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Old 05-05-2007, 10:05 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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I was on my way home from college one afternoon, waiting for the bus and this couple caught my eye. The had their arms around eachother and they were giving eachother little kisses. They guy was kissing his girl all over her face, on the head, the cheek and just holding her and caressing her back. Seeing this made me feel very depressed because i just don't have that. And it made me even more upset because i've had opportunities to be in a relationship in the past but i always effed it up somehow, like by not returning their calls/texts, making excuses when they arrange to meet up with me. It just gets me angry because i am so lonely and i long to be with someone but at the same time...i just can't do it.

Does anyone one else hate it when they see couples on the street i.e holding hands, hugging eachother, kissing eachother etc, in public?
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Yes, definetly, not just on the street but anywhere, ticks me off actually since it reminds me of my loneliness
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I hate seeing happy couples, it just reminds me of what I once had and how sad my life is currently. To think that only a few years ago I was one of those happy couples. I'm talking when I had a normal mind set, I felt so proud walking in public holding my girlfriends hand. I wonder if any lonely person got angry seeing me happy with a girl, the same way that I get depressed seeing them people now.
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Last week I was out for a walk and I just happend to pass a high school when it let out. What did I see? A couple holding hands.

Depressing = couple holding hands
Really depressing = couple is half your age!

Then last night I saw a couple walking their dog in front of my house. They were just standing there and kissing for what had to be an entire minute. I thought he was just about to mount her on my lawn. It's sickening to watch when you have nobody.
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I feel the same way. I wouldn't say that I hate it, but I feel depressed and embarrassed over the fact that I'll probably never experience any of that. It's frustrating. I'm too avoidant and shy to grow the balls to do anything about it.
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Yeah I hate having it rubbed in my face that I don't and never will have it.
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Yes, I'm with you guys. I'm happy for the couples, but it makes me sickeningly depressed that it's not me. Like Ultrashy said, I feel the worst when the couples are much younger than me, knowing how many years I've wasted away. Yet, the most painful part of all is that I keep turning down party invitations, the places where you meet these people. And when you pass these opportunities, they eventually all come to an end, and you're stuck with nothing.
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Seeing this made me feel very depressed because i just don't have that. And it made me even more upset because i've had opportunities to be in a relationship in the past but i always effed it up somehow, like by not returning their calls/texts, making excuses when they arrange to meet up with me. It just gets me angry because i am so lonely and i long to be with someone but at the same time...i just can't do it.
Yup youre not the only one. I just broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago, and I was certain that i was going to be able to find someone else. The thing is that ive had so many opportunities by now to be with someone and I just keep making excuses because im afraid. I have several text and phone messages from a guy that wanted to date me ( very handsome) and i just ignored them. Then i see happy couples kissing, holding hands and i just wonder why cant my life be like that? Why am being so negative and ending up being lonely? I dont envy them but i surely wish my life would be like theirs at this moment.
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During my 2nd year in college there was this couple that would sit on the bench outside of a class I had to attend. They would make out while I waited until the class before mine got out. I always wanted to get early to pick a good seat. Why don't they just go get a room for gods sakes.
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Yet, the most painful part of all is that I keep turning down party invitations, the places where you meet these people. And when you pass these opportunities, they eventually all come to an end, and you're stuck with nothing.
I did that all through highschool and college and now I wish I had tried a little harder to force myself to go out because now there are no opportunities.
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Does anyone one else hate it when they see couples on the street i.e holding hands, hugging eachother, kissing eachother etc, in public?
Only when they get in my way.
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The only time that it really bothers me is when they start groping each other. Regular things like holding hands or the occasional kiss doesn't phase me much.
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The only time that it really bothers me is when they start groping each other. Regular things like holding hands or the occasional kiss doesn't phase me much.


Back in my casino days, I have seen people do even more than grope each other. That is a little disgusting. but the hand in hand thing, quick kisses doesnt bother me at all.
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Yeah, I hate seeing stuff like that. It makes me really sad.
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Sometimes it might bother me, because it brings back memories.

Once, at a concert, there were three people in the porta-potty next to mine. I didn't see anything, but I heard plenty, and even cheered them on. I still wonder how they even managed to fit more than one person in there.
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heh I went to the Zoo today. I walked around all by myself watching the animals. There were couples everywhere, this useualy makes me sad but it's not that bad anymore. I know I'm too shy to have that. It's nothing I should beat myself up about, it's just who I am now. Besides...I'm too good for females, let them date these other jerks. All I need is my family.
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I remember being at a TOOL gig, alone, big surprise...and right next to me there was a couple dancing. Well the girl was standing in front of the guy and she was all over him and he was holding onto her, it was sickening 'cos it was right in my face. There have been other gigs where people are glued to eachother, **** 'em all.
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Well here is something that should make you all feel better!!!
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WILMINGTON, N.C. - A California man was convicted Thursday of interfering with flight attendants and crew members in a case that prosecutors said began when he became too affectionate with his girlfriend on a Raleigh-bound flight.

Carl William Persing, 41, will likely serve jail time for the federal felony conviction, Assistant U.S. Attorney John Bowler said. A jury convicted Persing after a three-day trial in U.S. District Court in Wilmington.

Persing and his girlfriend were seen "embracing, kissing and acting in a manner that made other passengers uncomfortable" during the flight, according to a criminal complaint. Prosecutors said Persing twice threatened a flight attendant who told the couple to stop and refused to serve them alcohol.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18493270/

Pretty harsh!!!!!!!!!!
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I get pissed off and depressed when I see such affectionate couples because not only do I not have the relationship, I also believe there are limits to what belongs in public and what belongs in privacy.

The description in the first post here about the guy kissing his girlfriend all over her face is something I would never do in public anyway. That would be between me, the girlfriend and for nobody else to see.
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i like seeing it because they are happy and i try to use it as a motivator because i want that some day and i know when i have it ill be happy.
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