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I'm probably just over thinking things as I usually do, but I don't understand this girl. One minute she seems interested the next she seems indifferent. I asked her out to a movie we talked a lot on the ride up and I learned a lot about her and her family. I thought things went really well, she even told me she had fun when I dropped her off. But then she hardly ever responds to my texts and when I tried to do something with her again she said she was busy. WTF! I'm just frustrated and confused. What's her deal?
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girls rarely make sense, dont take it personally.

There isn't enough bacon in the world for the two of us, so one of us needs to go.
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What's her deal?
why don't you ask her??

be like "hey you never asnwer my texts etc...do you hate me or something??"....something along those lines...try it in a "jokey" manner if you can so you dont make her feel bad

If you can't dazzle them with brilliance, why not baffle them with BS?
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I rarely respond to my texts either unless I'm asked a question or have something worthwhile to say back. Maybe she was really busy? Could be.. but a lot of the time girls will be nice to begin with so they don't hurt your feelings and slowly just start to drift away (purposely).

If I were you I would just see how things go naturally, if she really likes you then she'll take the initiative to go out again.


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She's playing games with you. She has other options besides you, and likes the fact that you're chasing her. The problem is, the more you chase her, the more you're giving her what she wants (attention) and turning her off in the process. The only thing you can do is find another girl. You wouldn't want to go out with a girl like her anyway.
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She might have other things going on right now. It's NOT!!! a good idea to mention that she didn't respond to your texts. Most girls, unless she's a very outgoing and confident person, will end up being scared and you risk being labeled a "stalker". Just casually call her up and ask how she's doing. Don't set a date for doing anything. Just let her know you're thinking about her. She'll be flattered and maybe things will progress from there.
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She's playing games with you. She has other options besides you, and likes the fact that you're chasing her. The problem is, the more you chase her, the more you're giving her what she wants (attention) and turning her off in the process. The only thing you can do is find another girl. You wouldn't want to go out with a girl like her anyway.
She's not an attention *****. I know those when I see them.
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Don't worry about it much. There's plenty of girls out there.

Be patient. Maybe she really was busy. If it becomes evident that she's not interested, move on. Don't give her too much attention, it may just feed her ego or make her view you negatively.
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Maybe she was just being nice when she said she had fun.
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I know how you feel because I once went out with a guy like this. He was very nice to me when we went out together but the next day onwards he was nowhere to be seen. He would spend hours playing video games and not picking up the phone or returning my calls. Everytime I gave up and stopped calling him he would wait for a couple of days (apparently expecting me to call him) and when he realized I was not going to call him, he would call me out of the blues and act like nothing happened. Then he would spend another day with me and start playing the same old game again.

I think people like that don't really want us but they don't like to end it either, because they enjoy the attention.

Let's say this girl is not interested in you anymore, yet the decent way of handling this is to tell you that straight don't you think? If she doesn't like to tell you to your face then maybe she can send you a text message saying that right? Are you really going to believe that she is so busy she doesn't have 5 minutes to give you a call? She can't make 1 hour to see you?

I don't know how long she has been doing it but if it is for a considerable period then she is definitely playing a cruel game with you.
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Well I'm guessing you guys were probably right. Not to be all emo, but I feel like dying right now. I went into work yesterday and one of my coworkers got a text message from her that said she wanted the number of the cute guy with glasses that was in the store the other day. Oh and just my luck this guy happens to be the workplace ******* too. So she wasn't really busy after all, she was just ignoring me. Imagine that, the girl I like goes for the ******* AGAIN. I'm tired of playing games with her I'm going to tell her how I feel about her and if she just wants to be friends, I'm going to tell her I want nothing to do with her. See the thing is, I don't want to be just friends, with her, hell I don't think I can be just friends. You know what I don't think I'm going to have anythign to do with her by the end of all of this, but that's probably a good thing.
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just ignore her, what's the point of wasting your time and energy when it only makes you angrier? then if she asks you if you want to do something, just say no without showing any emotion and say you have better things to do
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So she wasn't really busy after all, she was just ignoring me.
Of course she wasn't. What girl on earth will be too busy that doesn't have time to pick up the damn phone and give this guy a call if she is really interested?

I don't blame you though. It took me a while to understand what's going on too
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I guess the good people are always going to be **** on in favor of *******s. I hate humanity.
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Ugh I feel like and idiot and a real *******, she just came out to me when I told her how I feel.
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What do you mean?
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What do you mean?
She's not into guys. WHAT A TWIST! Strangely I feel a lot better.
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She's not into guys. WHAT A TWIST! Strangely I feel a lot better.
What a happy ending it is...lol.
Just kidding
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So are you going to keep her as a friend? She may be able to give you some advice about girls in the future if you endevor into another relationship, heh.
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Either she's playing hard to get or your making the mistake of becoming to close to quickly?
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