Social Anxiety Support

Darren07 · 09-29-2009, 11:31 PM

...yeah you guys know what I'm talking about.

I emphasize guys because, well, I'm a guy and most of the people with this problem are guys, I assume. I am aware, however, that ladies may have this problem as well.

I figure this is the best place for me to vent this frustration and find out about other guys' frustrations regarding this because, well, it is the Frustration section. So here goes...

I guess there's no need to mention the fact that I have Social Anxiety (SA) but I will mention the debilitating effects that come with it; in social situations, or in anticipation of said situations I get nervous, anxious, sweaty forehead and palms, rapid heartrate, loss of breath, and the list goes on. Sadly, these symptoms do not escape me in the presence of women. When I see an attractive girl it's an immediate onset of symptoms...I see her and my heart starts racing, I seem to lose my breath, I start sweating...if I start talking to her my mouth gets all dry and I can't seem to talk and it really sucks...I know, I have issues

. I mean, don't get me wrong I do the best to compose myself and I do fine with that but women can see right through it and sense when you are nervous. Trust me! Now, this is just when I see a girl and maybe talk to her...it gets worse as I progress, so I hate to mention how bad it gets in the rare case that I'm about to hook up with her. I fail to initiate because of my anxiety and I've had girls walk out on me in intimate situations because they cant take my anxiety. It turns them off. The only reason I get that far, by the way, is because of my good looks. I'm not bragging but I'm a pretty good looking guy and I usually have to depend on girls to approach me, which I usually **** up anyways. (In HS it was a lot easier, now in college it seems I have to do all the work).

That's the worst part of it. If I do get to talking to a girl, because I've become so dull due to my SA I never have anything interesting to offer girls and often end up in the dreaded Friend Zone; it's pretty much where a girl has lost any sexual interest in you and sees you only as a friend...at best. My convos are typically safe and friendly, as I'm too nervous or lack the knowledge of how to flirt or be sexual...and get thrown into the friend zone. It sucks. I feel hopeless with my prospects of getting a girlfriend or getting laid because of it.

Comments...?

09-29-2009, 11:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
Darren07 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Miami Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 76	Friend Zone... ...yeah you guys know what I'm talking about. I emphasize guys because, well, I'm a guy and most of the people with this problem are guys, I assume. I am aware, however, that ladies may have this problem as well. I figure this is the best place for me to vent this frustration and find out about other guys' frustrations regarding this because, well, it is the Frustration section. So here goes... I guess there's no need to mention the fact that I have Social Anxiety (SA) but I will mention the debilitating effects that come with it; in social situations, or in anticipation of said situations I get nervous, anxious, sweaty forehead and palms, rapid heartrate, loss of breath, and the list goes on. Sadly, these symptoms do not escape me in the presence of women. When I see an attractive girl it's an immediate onset of symptoms...I see her and my heart starts racing, I seem to lose my breath, I start sweating...if I start talking to her my mouth gets all dry and I can't seem to talk and it really sucks...I know, I have issues . I mean, don't get me wrong I do the best to compose myself and I do fine with that but women can see right through it and sense when you are nervous. Trust me! Now, this is just when I see a girl and maybe talk to her...it gets worse as I progress, so I hate to mention how bad it gets in the rare case that I'm about to hook up with her. I fail to initiate because of my anxiety and I've had girls walk out on me in intimate situations because they cant take my anxiety. It turns them off. The only reason I get that far, by the way, is because of my good looks. I'm not bragging but I'm a pretty good looking guy and I usually have to depend on girls to approach me, which I usually ** up anyways. (In HS it was a lot easier, now in college it seems I have to do all the work). That's the worst part of it. If I do get to talking to a girl, because I've become so dull due to my SA I never have anything interesting to offer girls and often end up in the dreaded Friend Zone**; it's pretty much where a girl has lost any sexual interest in you and sees you only as a friend...at best. My convos are typically safe and friendly, as I'm too nervous or lack the knowledge of how to flirt or be sexual...and get thrown into the friend zone. It sucks. I feel hopeless with my prospects of getting a girlfriend or getting laid because of it. Comments...? __________________ Find Yourself. Learn to Love Yourself. Others Will Follow Suit.