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Old 06-20-2011, 07:11 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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I am young however, I have a difficult time fitting in. I have experienced quite a bit of pain throughout the years and it has aged me.

I am an old soul. It makes it difficult in social situations.
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Old 06-20-2011, 07:21 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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I know exactly how you feel. I have been through a lot and have always been more mature than everyone around me. A lot of my classmates grew up in wealthy suburbia with married parents who sent them to summer camp and took them to Disney World, etc. I never had that.
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Old 06-20-2011, 07:30 PM   #3 (permalink)
 
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I know how you feel. Throughout my life I've tended to act more mature and serious than my classmates which makes me feel older than I am. Some people even think I'm much older than I am. I wouldn't worry about it though; just be yourself because being mature isn't a bad thing. It'll make people respect you.
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Maybe they could all act just as mature but that's exactly what they would be doing: Acting? :O ??
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Same here
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I feel older than my peers but I see it as a good thing. I'm more career oriented, less romantic and more "no nonsense."
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Enjoy it while it lasts - at least maturity is considered a positive trait.

I was like that when I was younger. But now everyone has jobs and dates and parties and it feels like I'm the immature one, because I can't do any of those things.
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Me, too. I feel less mature than my peers who have done all the normal stuff like dating, getting married and having kids and careers. Sometimes I can almost hate them for being normal.
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Yeah, I have days like that too.

My siblings all have that "normal" life... Kids, marriages, careers. But I see it as a social clock. - For example: if one is not married and has at least one child by age 30 they are considered weird.

But then i look at the divorce rate, and how unhappy people are in a loveless marriage (they don't show it upfront) And the only reason they got married in the first place is because "everyone else was doing it"

The wife only wanted a wedding, and is in love with "being married" and not her husband. A wise person once said: Women don't want a marriage, they want a wedding"

The husband uses the "married and a family man" as a status thing and is bored with his wife. Men get bored easily in marriages. (They have a perfectly good car in the garage at home...but they go searching for a brand new one)

Too many times this happens. And the cycle never ends because thier children do the same..

Im not bashing marriage or relationships...It's just reality
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i feel way younger. people say i'm too carefree and don't take anything seriously. and i get labelled immature a lot lol the thing is, i didn't really get things handed to me either. anyways i wish i could relate..i respect old souls muuuch more than i do young souls.
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I feel older than my peers but I see it as a good thing. I'm more career oriented, less romantic and more "no nonsense."
This pretty much sums it up for me as well.
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