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Old 03-23-2010, 06:20 PM   #21 (permalink)
 
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you need outlets. getting laid with an escort that charges at least five hundred an hour or more is healthy.
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Old 03-23-2010, 10:08 PM   #22 (permalink)
 
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you need outlets. getting laid with an escort that charges at least five hundred an hour or more is healthy.

ya ya that might be healthy but still theres risk of veneral diseases
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can beggars be choosers? i don't know...
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Why don't you just uhh, you know..... take matters into your own hands, if you will. Like, many many times.
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Welcome to SAS where "The 40-Year-Old Virgin" isn't just a movie for some. Around here it's more of a horror flick than a comedy.
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Condoms pretty much eliminate the threat of disease from an escort when used properly.
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The people who say virginity doesn't matter probably aren't virgins. - Paraphrasing from another thread, please prove them and me wrong...
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I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to have proper sex. Masturbation is so boring and it doesn't really satisfy you after a while.

Also masturbation only deals with the mechanics, not the rest which sometimes you crave like passionate kissing etc.

If things get too unbearable I'm going to have to go to a party and try get some action just to break the monotony.
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I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to have proper sex. Masturbation is so boring and it doesn't really satisfy you after a while.

Also masturbation only deals with the mechanics, not the rest which sometimes you crave like passionate kissing etc.

If things get too unbearable I'm going to have to go to a party and try get some action just to break the monotony.
I feel the same as you, Stargirl09. It feels like I am going to die if this continues for just one more night.
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Condoms pretty much eliminate the threat of disease from an escort when used properly.
That's a pretty irresponsible statement. The only thing that completely eliminates the threat of STDs is abstinence.

I just don't think it's a good idea to say things that could give someone a sense of invulnerability.
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What else can you do except use condoms? We can't switch off sexual urges. I think you have an unrealistic view of sex, sometimes passion can take over and the couples use no protection. The urge can be that overpowering.

As contraception goes, condoms are the most total protection unless you have sex with a 'clean' person, thats the best precaution there is abstinence is out of the question!
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you need outlets. getting laid with an escort that charges at least five hundred an hour or more is healthy.
That reminds me of the show Secret Diary of a Call Girl.

I've considered just meeting up with someone from like Craigslist, but I guess I'm holding out hope that I'll get to have a proper relationship in the next few years. I'm only 23, so I'll probably give myself a couple more years before I just get with anyone.
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I have no idea whether this applies to you in India, but in the west, prostitutes are statistically proven to be cleaner than random girls
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I know full well the results of sexual frustration coupled with a willing female that has an ulterior motive... My son is 4 now.

It sucks even more NOT being a virgin and not getting any (when stretched over a long enough period of time). It's been 5 years since I've had intercourse and I've only had one female come close since my son's mother. I've been broken up with her for 3 years (however it seems I'm good at that as she kept calling me for near booty calls off and on until she got married...).
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I have no idea whether this applies to you in India, but in the west, prostitutes are statistically proven to be cleaner than random girls
Most likely true. The prostitutes make guys use condoms. The good ones anyway.
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I've known a prosititue named Rosey Palms for 13 years now... shes great. She treats me right.
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She doesn't help me out enough.
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You know, there seem to be enough sexually frustrated males and sexually frustrated females in the world that no one should have to be a virgin forever. It seems like the biggest problem is that no one just comes out and says 'yeah, I just want to have sex-- it's not that I don't like or care about other people, it's just that now I don't want a relationship... so if you're okay with that, I'd like to see what happens'.

Believe it or not, I told this to some girl and she was actually okay with it-- to tell the truth, I think it was sort of what she was after. Pretending that you want something more than sex or that you're the star of the universe or even worse not telling someone what you expect to get out of them... sometimes works against you... you expect girls to not be looking for the same thing, because they're supposed to be 'the fairer sex'-- but sometimes they kinda are. Sometimes they just don't appreciate it when you're obviously trying to manipulate them or obviously don't respect them-- a lot of people need to trust you before they'll sleep with you.

I have to say I can't imagine carrying on a relationship right now or maybe ever-- but some nice, clean, comfortable sex with a normal girl would be great.
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"Richard"--Boy, I'd like to find a girl like the one you mention. I don't believe it's advisable to be that frank up front, but to dance around it and deny sex for months and months when both parties really want it causes pointless frustration. I don't want "just sex", but I don't want a long-term relationship either. It'd be nice to find someone down to earth who acknowledges that they want it. So many people seem to feel ashamed for wanting sex and push themselves to wait (the truly sad people until marriage). Of course it wouldn't happen until you're both comfortable with each other, and that could take a while. But at least you'd know that you're not going to be putting in so much "work" and then be told that they have a personal rule not to have sex until a year or some similar crap.
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