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Ever feel like you're not wanted?

I can't tell if this is the case, but it feels that way. The only person I hang with now is pretty much my older sister and her boyfriend, and if he has a gig I'll go. She doesn't answer the phone when I call, it seems. She tends not to call back here (my mom's house) most of the time. I know she has her own life and friends, but I just feel like I'm not being included. It's not her responsibility to give me a social life, but right now it's all that I have other than hanging with my brother and his friends sometimes, and I really don't have much in common with them even though I like them all.

I don't know what to do anymore. I pretty much abandoned the other friend(s) I had and whatever kind of socializing came with that. I have nothing left now. I spend so much time alone, it's scary.
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Re: Ever feel like your not wanted?


Sorry that was dumb just to leave a one word reply. I know how you feel unfortunately, my sister is my only friend. She has her own life though so I don't get to see her that often. I don't know what I'd do without her

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Yes, I constantly feel like I'm not wanted.

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I know im not wanted.

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Re: Ever feel like your not wanted?

never felt wanted. At least not by anyone I wanted. maybe that's the problem. I might need to re-evaluate who I want to want me. Or something.
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I never feel wanted by anybody. No one ever envites me anywhere, no one ever calls me, even my sister doesn't want to be friends with me. I will hear "friends" talking about going somewhere and I'll drop hints that I want to come and they never invite me. The whole sorority I'm in will get invited to go somewhere except me (I know a big part of this is b/c I don't have text messaging and they do the inviting through text but I can't help but feel if they wanted me there they'd remember to call me and invite me along).
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post #7 of 14 (permalink) Old 03-22-2008, 12:59 AM
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All the time. Doesn't bother me though. I suppose I got used to it.

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post #8 of 14 (permalink) Old 03-22-2008, 09:08 AM
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Yes i feel the same. I come to relise tho that its the introvertivness that makes it that way and my insecurity.. which means i can latch onto people and use them to gain my self worth instead of me being comfortable in my own kind of thing.

I recently lived with a guy ~ i thought we were in a relataionship but he criticised me because of my lack of 'social cues' and for being rude because of my 'innappropriate laugh', i became a frozen wreck and that made him call me 'selfish' esp for having anxiety attacks.. which i was nothing more than an ultra -reserved un friendly person - i got walked away from him when ever we went out, and constantly ignored.. even living with himn i was so lonely ~ his mother and him would go out to dinner or the movies and never invite me... even now living at home and i send friendly emails - i never get replies.. only a phone call every now and then..

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So yeah.. i deffinately feel like im not wanted severely.
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Sometimes...but I've come to realize that it's irrational and not true in most cases.
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i know i'm not wanted. i have nothing to offer.
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Very often. I'm sick of it. I really envy secure and extroverted people today, I really feel like I'm missing out. I heard someone say that you have to like your self before others can like you. Maybe that is true..

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I always felt like I was wanted be it in school or at any job I had. I sometimes even feel it on here too. I think it is all in my Head, but it is a very real feeling. I always feel like I have outlived my welcome.

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I know how you feel. Don't worry, if you don't feel like your not wanted you always are. Mum,dad,auntie,uncle,gran,papa. They can all help you. At at least your not on your own. Your siblings love you very much. I want to help people that feel like they need a place in life. And to start I want everyone to know that at least someone loves you. If your religious or not, your still loved somewhere. I know that your girlfriend or friends aren't responding to you. But they all love you, alot. So don't let anything bring you down
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post #14 of 14 (permalink) Old 06-18-2014, 10:41 AM
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Yeah, I've always felt this way to some degree.
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