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Old 09-19-2011, 06:30 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Do you ever feel like people trivialize your problems or laugh at you when you are hurting? I do. I texted a long distance "friend" that I hate my life and sometimes want to die. They said "way to think positively there, kitten". I want to say ***** YOU! I would never talk down to someone who opened up to me like that. People are too busy running around enjoying their great social lives and have no time for someone who is having a hard time, but god help you if you're not there when they need someone.

What is the point of trying to talk to anyone when all they do is laugh at you and treat you like a piece of crap?
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Old 09-19-2011, 06:35 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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Yea. It seems like everyone is pretty much satisfied with their lives. Except us. Perfect parents, friends and social life.....it seems like they have everything.
But it really doesn't bother me much anymore because everyone dies alone. Life is just a distraction from death.
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aggree with both of you above
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Old 09-19-2011, 06:45 PM   #4 (permalink)
 
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Yeah, ive had the same reaction.
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Yep, they dont give a ***** about your life, they say I should talk more and when I do they never seem to care or say stupid things like "think possitive" "Its all in your mind". I hate people.............
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I'd be nothing, not even a big joke to 99.9% of the people I meet if they didn't need to ask me for help with homework. It seems like that's the root of all my social interactions in the day - no personal talk whatsoever.
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Old 09-19-2011, 07:01 PM   #7 (permalink)
 
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If only I were a joke. Then at least people would know I exist.
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I just feel like there's no point in fake friendships.
Even with how lonely I feel sometimes, I'd rather just stay alone than pretend with someone until they find someone better to ditch me for.
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Yeah, it seems like people never take me seriously when I want to be,but when I want to have fun and play around they always act like I'm going too far...
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Yes I have and it definitely doesn't feel good. I've gotten better with in the past few years though.
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I often feel like people secretly laugh at and/or pity me, which hopefully isn't true, but even if they do, I wouldn't want anything to do with them anyways. I'd rather be friends with someone who is genuinely supportive of all aspects of me as a person... I also tend to be drawn to people who have had their own emotional/mental hardships in life, they are much easier to confide in without fear of judgement. Too many people will write you off as "crazy" or "weird" just because they don't understand you as a person, or what it's like to not enjoy life, and they aren't willing to try to do so.
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Old 09-19-2011, 08:28 PM   #12 (permalink)
 
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cher, im sorry your friend responded like that! i hate when i finally get the confidence to open up to someone, and they think its no big deal.

i once had a "friend" literally get up and walk away from me as i was talking to her about some heavy stuff ... all because a boy she had a crush on said something near her.

ive gone through much of my life feeling like a joke.
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I often feel like people secretly laugh at and/or pity me, which hopefully isn't true, but even if they do, I wouldn't want anything to do with them anyways. I'd rather be friends with someone who is genuinely supportive of all aspects of me as a person... I also tend to be drawn to people who have had their own emotional/mental hardships in life, they are much easier to confide in without fear of judgement. Too many people will write you off as "crazy" or "weird" just because they don't understand you as a person, or what it's like to not enjoy life, and they aren't willing to try to do so.
I feel that way too but I know for sure it's true
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I get the feeling that people i know who are not happy with something in their lives look at me and think "oh well, at least im not him".
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THanks, I'm glad to know I'm not alone. The depression I'm feeling is starting to crush me. I am trying to read "self help" books but I can't get past the first piece of advice they always have "build a support system". How is that "self" help? No one cares what I am going through. I wrote a long drawn out email apologizing for venting too much to a friend and just saying I'm having a really tough time and need someone to talk to. They never even responded and that was over a week ago.
I feel like a piece of sh*t.
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I feel that way too but I know for sure it's true
Of course it's true. If people get to know you enough and see that you're different(no job, no friend etc.), they'll pity you or mock you. After all, they do need people worst off than they are to feel better about themselves. Thankfully not everyone is like that.
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where are those people?
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Old 09-20-2011, 05:22 AM   #18 (permalink)
 
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This is why i never told anyone i know IRL. It just seems there is no point, what are the chances they will understand anyway?
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