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Old 12-10-2007, 07:34 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Default Ever been told you're "too nice"?

I have a number of times, and it bothers me. What's wrong with being nice?
It's not as if I act nice to make people like me, it's just how I am, it's my personality.

And I don't let people walk all over me either.

So why do people say that? If I turned into a psycho ***** would they be satisfied?
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Old 12-10-2007, 07:48 AM   #2 (permalink)
 
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Many people have commented on me being nice. It's actually a disadvantage sometimes. (imo anyway) The other day my family went on about how nice I am and hope I will never change..
I would think the majority of people who suffer from SA are generally nice because of their extreme shyness.
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Old 12-10-2007, 09:21 AM   #3 (permalink)
 
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Yes, I have been told this a lot of times. It really annoys me. I think I do act nice to try and make people like me, but it's also partly my personality.
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alot of times at work people like to kid around, talk bad stuff about other co-workers, rip on people, etc. since i dont do anything that could remotely offend anyone, everyone tells me im "too nice," in a way that makes me think that being nice is bad, that i should go with the crowd.
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I'm too "sensitive" is what I get. And it's true. I need to disregard so much of the crap I count as meaningful.
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Old 12-10-2007, 06:23 PM   #6 (permalink)
 
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alot of times at work people like to kid around, talk bad stuff about other co-workers, rip on people, etc. since i dont do anything that could remotely offend anyone, everyone tells me im "too nice," in a way that makes me think that being nice is bad, that i should go with the crowd.
So true.
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Old 12-10-2007, 06:42 PM   #7 (permalink)
 
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Default Re: Ever been told you're "too nice"?

I usually get things like "You are so quiet." Or "Your face is turning red."

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i get that all the time at work.
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i have been told that sooo many times and it does kinda get on my nerves, but i realized people are saying that about me because i have a tendency to let people use me and do whatever they want. i just dont like confrontation and i want to get along with everyone. i know its just my personality and i do get tired of hearing people say im too nice. if all people in this world were too nice then the world would be a much better place.
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Old 12-10-2007, 09:01 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I get this a lot too. I think it's a combination of me being afraid to offend anyone and being overly sympathetic.
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Yep...in fact just the other day I was told that. I think "too nice", for me anyways, really means that I'm not truly being myself because the sa makes me act on tippy toes with people because of fear of offending them.
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Nope. Probably because I'm not.
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alot of times at work people like to kid around, talk bad stuff about other co-workers, rip on people, etc. since i dont do anything that could remotely offend anyone, everyone tells me im "too nice," in a way that makes me think that being nice is bad, that i should go with the crowd.
I hate conforming.
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I don't mind that people think I'm nice. I do mind that people think I'm a doormat.
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no, never
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people tell me that all the time and they give me this weird look when they're saying it.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BthZ4hjcxms

speaking of being nice...haha.
this video makes me lol and lol and then rofl.
you've been warned.
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that video is so randomly funny
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