Social Anxiety Support

ghostofme · 02-19-2009, 10:28 PM

There is a person who I think of as a friend that I am very confused about. He is sometimes nice and sometimes takes advantage of me. When we are alone, he is great, but when we are around his other friends, he takes advantage of me constantly. With his friends I am a joke because of how I act with SA. I just can't say no to anything that he or his friend's ask me to do and I feel humiliated. And somehow I feel obligated to be nice to them again and again even though they aren't always nice back. They forget the anything I helped them with the second that they don't need me anymore. don't really dislike them, but every day sucks when I have to confront them. Has anyone had an experience like this before and what should I do?
Thanks for letting me vent

beautibelle · 02-19-2009, 11:37 PM

This person isn't really your friend. He's using you to climb up the social ladder so to speak. The best thing you can do for yourself is to distance yourself from them. He's bringing you down. Maybe more than you realize. I had a friend like that once and by staying friends with her, she drove away nicer people who would have been better friends for me.

shyvr6 · 02-20-2009, 12:11 AM

Your friend probably does like you to an extent, but his other friends mean more to him than you do, which is why he doesn't stick up for you. You're probably better off dropping him completely as a friend or if you still want to see him, then let him know that you're tired of him making fun of you, and if it doesn't stop then you're going to get rid of him.

ghostofme · 02-23-2009, 09:55 PM

thanks for the support everyone, it means a lot

AssassinWarrior · 02-23-2009, 10:31 PM

people like that, i finally realized, are jsut fake friends, trying to gain your trust just to use you.

i guess similar experience like this happened to me too.

the best thing to do is stay away from them for a while or maybe perhaps avoid them since seeing them isnt exactly a good thing as you mentioned.

02-19-2009, 10:28 PM	#1 (permalink)
ghostofme Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 12	Don't Know What to Do, Please Help! There is a person who I think of as a friend that I am very confused about. He is sometimes nice and sometimes takes advantage of me. When we are alone, he is great, but when we are around his other friends, he takes advantage of me constantly. With his friends I am a joke because of how I act with SA. I just can't say no to anything that he or his friend's ask me to do and I feel humiliated. And somehow I feel obligated to be nice to them again and again even though they aren't always nice back. They forget the anything I helped them with the second that they don't need me anymore. don't really dislike them, but every day sucks when I have to confront them. Has anyone had an experience like this before and what should I do? Thanks for letting me vent

02-20-2009, 12:11 AM	#3 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 9,645	Your friend probably does like you to an extent, but his other friends mean more to him than you do, which is why he doesn't stick up for you. You're probably better off dropping him completely as a friend or if you still want to see him, then let him know that you're tired of him making fun of you, and if it doesn't stop then you're going to get rid of him. __________________ Music

02-19-2009, 11:37 PM	#2 (permalink)
beautibelle Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 37	This person isn't really your friend. He's using you to climb up the social ladder so to speak. The best thing you can do for yourself is to distance yourself from them. He's bringing you down. Maybe more than you realize. I had a friend like that once and by staying friends with her, she drove away nicer people who would have been better friends for me.

02-23-2009, 09:55 PM	#4 (permalink)
ghostofme Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 12	thanks for the support everyone, it means a lot

02-23-2009, 10:31 PM	#5 (permalink)
AssassinWarrior Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: canada Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 66	people like that, i finally realized, are jsut fake friends, trying to gain your trust just to use you. i guess similar experience like this happened to me too. the best thing to do is stay away from them for a while or maybe perhaps avoid them since seeing them isnt exactly a good thing as you mentioned.