Social Anxiety Support

rapidfox1 · 08-20-2012, 08:13 AM

Yes or no?

Socialanxiety11 · 08-20-2012, 08:15 AM

Oh yes, i actually got punched once for being quiet in 9th grade.

illmatic1 · 08-20-2012, 08:19 AM

some people it doesnt but alot of people it does... i would say that it creeps a good 60% it creeps them out, then it doesnt bother about 20% and the other 20% dont really notice that im quiet

87wayz · 08-20-2012, 08:32 AM

Yeah

I took this class and I was queit, sat in the back and left 10 min early to get to work. I got an email from the professor saying I'm inconsiderate and I make the class feel "unnerved" by my actions... wtf?

lonelyalways · 08-20-2012, 08:45 AM

Probably. The real problem is their insecurity though.

visualkeirockstar · 08-20-2012, 08:57 AM

No.

AwkBoy · 08-20-2012, 09:06 AM

No. I'm just not a creepy looking or intimidating person.

Cellic · 08-20-2012, 09:17 AM

I don't think so but I may come off as bored and arrogant to extroverted people when I really just prefer to listen.

Black Dagger · 08-20-2012, 09:22 AM

Yeah, all the time.

One girl thinks I'm arrogant because I never start conversations with her. She thinks that I believe I'm "the best person in the world" and people should start conversations with me. When in reality, I'm just scared to and don't know what to say...

In class, I was known as the "mute", and I'm pretty sure all my friends were creeped out by it. They would sometimes ask why I'm so quiet, to which I'd just shrug to. If I was ever in a 1 on 1 conversation with someone, there would always be an awkward silence until someone else joins the conversation. I think they just gave up on me in the end, and stopped trying to talk to me. Can't say I blame them.

theseventhkey · 08-20-2012, 12:07 PM

It can be creepy, I've done it purposely before. One of those vacant Michael Myers silences. Then when I leave the room I'd bust out laughing.

SydneyCarton · 08-20-2012, 02:21 PM

Yeah I think so. At work people are probably a little put off by how quiet I am. Plus when I was in school people would ask why I am so quiet.

KYJE · 08-20-2012, 02:26 PM

I don't know if it creeps them out, but it probably makes them uncomfortable and annoyed. Haha.

tehuti88 · 08-20-2012, 04:55 PM

No, people just either think I'm rude/stuck up or ignore me.

So far my quietness doesn't have anyone thinking I'm going to go out and start murdering people. Rather, my choices of reading sometimes worry my mother. I read about ghosts, and true crime, and abnormal psychology and abuse and whatnot, and she seems to find that unnerving.

Convo we had just the other day when I was in the tub with the curtain drawn and my latest book, House Of Fear, a haunted house story collection with a suitably creepy cover, was lying on the floor:

My mother: "Why do you read this creepy sh*t?"

Me: "Because I like to?"

Her: "You know it's not real, right?"

Me: "You don't know that for sure. Yeah, THOSE ones aren't real, but you don't know for sure they don't exist."

*pause*

Me: "I'm not going to go out killing people because I read about haunted houses and stuff, so, you don't have to worry about that."

Her: "And what if I go out killing people?"

Me: "Then that's not my fault."

sunflower86 · 08-20-2012, 05:39 PM

I can be either insanely chatty or then there are times when i will sit there and say absolutely nothing, maybe just laugh along with the others but staying perfectly quiet. i do find that when i am quiet it can frustrate people as they can sometimes mistake it for aloofness. also some people find it very hard to understand people that are shy because they are ignorant and find it hard to accept that people come in all different forms. if the world was made up of chatterboxes then **** would get done! also a lot of people love the sound of their own voices and mightn't even notice whether or not someone is contributing to the conversation. a lot of people also just talk and talk and talk because they're pretending to be loud and mad when really they're just as insecure inside as the rest of us

bittertaste · 08-20-2012, 06:26 PM

No, my creepiness creeps people out.

Olesya · 08-20-2012, 06:53 PM

yes, and sometimes it frustrates me, because most of the time i accept people as they are, but they apparently can't do the same

FoundAndLost · 08-20-2012, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Olesya

yes, and sometimes it frustrates me, because most of the time i accept people as they are, but they apparently can't do the same

I agree. I don't understand why people are so damn judgmental and so quick to draw conclusions about you. If your quiet then you are labeled weird, creepy, strange, or even mentally retarded. As if making friends and finding a partner wasn't already hard enough on us SA'ers, we also have to deal with the negative assumptions made by people that don't understand what we're going through.

Monotony · 08-20-2012, 07:05 PM

Maybe some people, I don't care though its their own damn problem.

twilightmoon · 08-20-2012, 07:09 PM

I would say yes, LOL. I'm so quiet in class. I say nothing, and if I'm given work to do, I do it in silence. No questions, no comments out loud. I've caught the girl next to me on one or two occasions glance at me for a few seconds. I guess she thinks I'm weird.

ThISme · 08-20-2012, 07:10 PM

Generally a person who is shy or really shy can come off as arrogant. But obviously as we know we aren't trying to be arrogant. Not to say there aren't arrogant shy people but...and as we know most people in this society don't understand introverts/SA/Shyness etc. They think its a disease. Yes SA is an issue and needs to be address but being introvert isn't evil as people say it is. We are such an extrovert bias society. Extroverts get praise where's the introverts are weird and creepy.

I know as a kid I'm sure people thought I was creepy or just weird cause I was quiet. I still can be but not as much, i can be chatty. I know I'm weird but I don't care cause that's me, and I will flaunt that.

08-20-2012, 08:13 AM	#1 (permalink)
rapidfox1 Status: Silence Is Golden Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 2,579	Does your quietness creep people out? Yes or no?

08-20-2012, 08:19 AM	#3 (permalink)
illmatic1 Status: t(-_-t) Join Date: May 2012 Location: Woodland Hills (Los Angeles) CA Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 3,746	some people it doesnt but alot of people it does... i would say that it creeps a good 60% it creeps them out, then it doesnt bother about 20% and the other 20% dont really notice that im quiet __________________ I was born by the river in a little tent And just like that river I've been running ever since It's been a long time coming But I know a change is gonna come, oh yes it will It's been too hard living, but I'm afraid to die Cos I don't know what's out there beyond the sky It's been a long, a long time coming But I know a change is gonna come, oh yes it will

08-20-2012, 08:57 AM	#6 (permalink)
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08-20-2012, 09:06 AM	#7 (permalink)
AwkBoy Status: "Don't try . . ." Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Connecticut Gender: Male Posts: 410	No. I'm just not a creepy looking or intimidating person. __________________ "The darkest places in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis . . ."

08-20-2012, 04:55 PM	#13 (permalink)
tehuti88 Status: Mackinac Island Fanatic Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Michigan Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 10,432	No, people just either think I'm rude/stuck up or ignore me. So far my quietness doesn't have anyone thinking I'm going to go out and start murdering people. Rather, my choices of reading sometimes worry my mother. I read about ghosts, and true crime, and abnormal psychology and abuse and whatnot, and she seems to find that unnerving. Convo we had just the other day when I was in the tub with the curtain drawn and my latest book, House Of Fear, a haunted house story collection with a suitably creepy cover, was lying on the floor: My mother: "Why do you read this creepy sht?" Me: "Because I like to?" Her: "You know it's not real, right?" Me: "You don't know that for sure. Yeah, THOSE ones aren't real, but you don't know for sure they don't exist." pause* Me: "I'm not going to go out killing people because I read about haunted houses and stuff, so, you don't have to worry about that." Her: "And what if I go out killing people?" Me: "Then that's not my fault." __________________ If I don't reply to you, it's NOTHING PERSONAL. It's my ANXIETY. * (Devetko's boyfriend Stan Brooks & Det. Reichert are horsing around.) Det. Kristeva: "If it were legal you'd marry me, right?" Det. Devetko: "Definitely." * "No canoes...no maple sugar...this place is horribly uncivilized."--Manabozho, Escape From Manitou Island *** Graphic tees and denim, denim, denim...denim...backpacks! "Don't overthink the metaphor, Cartwright!"

08-20-2012, 08:15 AM	#2 (permalink)
Socialanxiety11 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 692	Oh yes, i actually got punched once for being quiet in 9th grade.

08-20-2012, 08:32 AM	#4 (permalink)
87wayz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Detroit Gender: Male Posts: 2,037	Yeah I took this class and I was queit, sat in the back and left 10 min early to get to work. I got an email from the professor saying I'm inconsiderate and I make the class feel "unnerved" by my actions... wtf?

08-20-2012, 08:45 AM	#5 (permalink)
lonelyalways Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 304	Probably. The real problem is their insecurity though.

08-20-2012, 09:17 AM	#8 (permalink)
Cellic Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 31	I don't think so but I may come off as bored and arrogant to extroverted people when I really just prefer to listen.

08-20-2012, 09:22 AM	#9 (permalink)
Black Dagger Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 252	Yeah, all the time. One girl thinks I'm arrogant because I never start conversations with her. She thinks that I believe I'm "the best person in the world" and people should start conversations with me. When in reality, I'm just scared to and don't know what to say... In class, I was known as the "mute", and I'm pretty sure all my friends were creeped out by it. They would sometimes ask why I'm so quiet, to which I'd just shrug to. If I was ever in a 1 on 1 conversation with someone, there would always be an awkward silence until someone else joins the conversation. I think they just gave up on me in the end, and stopped trying to talk to me. Can't say I blame them.

08-20-2012, 12:07 PM	#10 (permalink)
theseventhkey Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: The seventh gate of hell Gender: Male Posts: 3,475	It can be creepy, I've done it purposely before. One of those vacant Michael Myers silences. Then when I leave the room I'd bust out laughing.

08-20-2012, 02:21 PM	#11 (permalink)
SydneyCarton Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 296	Yeah I think so. At work people are probably a little put off by how quiet I am. Plus when I was in school people would ask why I am so quiet.

08-20-2012, 02:26 PM	#12 (permalink)
KYJE Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 386	I don't know if it creeps them out, but it probably makes them uncomfortable and annoyed. Haha.

08-20-2012, 05:39 PM	#14 (permalink)
sunflower86 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 12	I can be either insanely chatty or then there are times when i will sit there and say absolutely nothing, maybe just laugh along with the others but staying perfectly quiet. i do find that when i am quiet it can frustrate people as they can sometimes mistake it for aloofness. also some people find it very hard to understand people that are shy because they are ignorant and find it hard to accept that people come in all different forms. if the world was made up of chatterboxes then **** would get done! also a lot of people love the sound of their own voices and mightn't even notice whether or not someone is contributing to the conversation. a lot of people also just talk and talk and talk because they're pretending to be loud and mad when really they're just as insecure inside as the rest of us

08-20-2012, 06:26 PM	#15 (permalink)
bittertaste Status: INTJ Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 211	No, my creepiness creeps people out.

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08-20-2012, 06:53 PM	#16 (permalink)
Olesya Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2011 Age: 21 Posts: 386	yes, and sometimes it frustrates me, because most of the time i accept people as they are, but they apparently can't do the same __________________ Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened- so true, so true. Anatole France

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Monotony Status: God. Also bored Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 8,668	Maybe some people, I don't care though its their own damn problem. __________________ #1 Reason Winter is better, No spiders.

08-20-2012, 07:09 PM	#19 (permalink)
twilightmoon Status: Breathe in, breathe out Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: New York Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 271	I would say yes, LOL. I'm so quiet in class. I say nothing, and if I'm given work to do, I do it in silence. No questions, no comments out loud. I've caught the girl next to me on one or two occasions glance at me for a few seconds. I guess she thinks I'm weird.

08-20-2012, 07:10 PM	#20 (permalink)
ThISme Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Never NeverLand! Gender: Male Posts: 166	Generally a person who is shy or really shy can come off as arrogant. But obviously as we know we aren't trying to be arrogant. Not to say there aren't arrogant shy people but...and as we know most people in this society don't understand introverts/SA/Shyness etc. They think its a disease. Yes SA is an issue and needs to be address but being introvert isn't evil as people say it is. We are such an extrovert bias society. Extroverts get praise where's the introverts are weird and creepy. I know as a kid I'm sure people thought I was creepy or just weird cause I was quiet. I still can be but not as much, i can be chatty. I know I'm weird but I don't care cause that's me, and I will flaunt that.