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does seeing other couples make you sad?

I'm on vacation right now so I'm seeing a lot of couples around and about in the city. every time i see them together it just makes me sad. they look so happy. and i feel like i can never have what they have. someone to just hold while looking out on boston harbor. does this happen to anyone else, or am i just creepy for looking at other couples haha.

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That happens to me all the time. I feel the exact same way.
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Makes me feel like crap. Especially since not even a year ago I was that guy in those happy couples walking all over showing each other off -sigh- Oh well. Someday.
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Yes. I go for long walks around here on the weekends at night, and there are always couples everywhere, swarming the streets and coming out of every building, on their way to assorted fun times. I go down to the harbourfront, see couples sitting and cuddling and nuzzling each other, and then I sit down there by myself looking into the lake with a big sense of emptiness.
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Especially when they're holding hands or kissing or whatever.

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It makes me both sad and jealous, both feelings that im ashamed off. its my fault that i cant have what they have so wats the point in wallowing in my pathetic sorrow
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all of my friends are in serious relationships so when we hang out together i am always the odd one out. they are always snuggling or hugging and i am always left sitting alone. it makes me feel really awkward and sometimes i refuse to see them because being with them just makes me feel like crap. and then sometimes i even feel anger towards them because they have something so nice, which is something that i feel i will never have. i wish i had some single friends to hang out with, but i don't. always being the third wheel really sucks.
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Not as much as it used to. I've been learning to get over it by reminding myself that it would probably be too awkward anyways.
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Yes. I go for long walks around here on the weekends at night, and there are always couples everywhere, swarming the streets and coming out of every building, on their way to assorted fun times. I go down to the harbourfront, see couples sitting and cuddling and nuzzling each other, and then I sit down there by myself looking into the lake with a big sense of emptiness.

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Especially when they're holding hands or kissing or whatever.

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I'm sad now

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Yeah I feel the same way too, when I hang with my friends who have dates...and I'm the one left out. I've been ditched several times because I didn't have a date. So I don't bother going out with that group anymore. I just do things by myself, and avoid places where date-happy people go.
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It doesn't make me sad, but it makes me real uncomfortable seeing people get affectionate in public.
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It doesn't make me sad, but it makes me real uncomfortable seeing people get affectionate in public.
Yea I get uncomfortable when my brother and his fiance get affectionate.
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Whenever I feel that way I just think of how much pain they will feel when they go through a breakup and god forbid spend a week on their own for once

People without sa can't stand being alone for long so I guess our strength is that we know for a fact we can function independently
. Still sucks tho
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Especially when they're holding hands or kissing or whatever.
Yep!
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I guess so. I'm on the road to recovery though, today I talked with two guys from the cool group, and they said I'm not missing out on much, they generally waste time and stuff. I feel so much better now that I grew some balls and sought out to talk with 2 guys from the in group.

Couples did when I had some attraction to the female previously, but now I've gotten over that aspect. It's funny how SA makes us seem judge mental to others, when really the only ones we are judging are ourselves.

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