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Old 03-24-2010, 07:18 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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I seem to give off anti-social vibes without even realising it. An ex-friend once said to me that I "look like I want to kill somebody" when I was actually feeling good that day. Other people have told me I come across as intimidating - I'm probably the least intimidating person they will meet. Most of the time I try to make myself invisible when I'm out in public or with a group of people. I don't want anybody to see that I'm just a complete nervous wreck inside.
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I guess I must, because I always have to initiate.
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Which isn't easy when you have SP. It's a struggle just to string a coherent sentence together.
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oh, I can manage that. It's what comes after that's the hardest part.
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The awkward silence?
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.....mmm, yeah.

(awkward silence ensues)
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Apparently I do, since I can't see myself interact with others I can't say for sure. But my nickname from the guys I used to work on a construction site with was Jeffrey Dahmer, for those who aren't familiar with the name he's a serial killer. I guess that makes me look pretty creepy
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But my nickname from the guys I used to work on a construction site with was Jeffrey Dahmer, for those who aren't familiar with the name he's a serial killer.


Maybe laughing at that comment makes me creepy. My sense of humour is kind of wicked, I suppose that doesn't help either.
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I would have to say yeah. Hardly no one new approaches me...but maybe that could be because I spend most of my time at home, if I'm not at work.

I believe I look slightly intimidating with the constant "mean glare" that shows even when I'm happy. My mom always tells me I look mean, and I tell her the same--It's the genetics lol.

Sometimes, I kinda like the intimidating factor; it prevents people from bothering me when I don't want to be bothered. But on the other hand, it's something I wish I could get rid of easily, ya know?
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I believe I look slightly intimidating with the constant "mean glare" that shows even when I'm happy. My mom always tells me I look mean, and I tell her the same--It's the genetics lol.


I go from happy to miserable and my facial expression doesn't change.

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Sometimes, I kinda like the intimidating factor; it prevents people from bothering me when I don't want to be bothered. But on the other hand, it's something I wish I could get rid of easily, ya know?
Yep. I'd like to be able to turn it on and off. But there are always people who will insist on finding out the reason why you can't be bothered, where do you start?
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you can approach me like you would a wild bear. Walk backwards, very carefully, or play dead.
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I think I appear sweet/scared. I look as if I'd run away if someone close by sneezed in my direction,but I'd attempt to make my footsteps soft and non irritating!
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I usually tend to appear annoyed/standoffish or quite nervous, one or the other & half the time it's subconscious, I haven't any active intention of being one or the other. Neither way makes me seem approach able, & fumbling in a conversation if I am approached doesn't help either
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I think I do. I think generally my expression looks unhappy - even when I'm not inside. I just don't have that natural "happy/content" facial expression that some people have. (Although I guess a lot of the time I'm not happy or content.) Plus I'm super quiet and not very good at conversation. So all said, I'm not a people magnet. :-)
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I'd say i look approachable alright. I cant think why not.

But sometimes if I'm in a bad mood, I bring my inflatable alligator with me walkin round Dublin. Aye, ya wouldnt mess with him! (calm yerself Snappy, we're staying in tonight!)
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Tell you what. If I see any of you on Tinychat you can tell me how I come across I've heard mixed things to be honest with you. Some people say I look nervous or angry, some people say I'm the sort of guy they'd get to know on a bus lol so I'm confused.
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I go from happy to miserable and my facial expression doesn't change.



Yep. I'd like to be able to turn it on and off. But there are always people who will insist on finding out the reason why you can't be bothered, where do you start?
Hmm, good question. It usually depends on the person. If they come off as sincere in really wanting to know and/or are genuinely concerned, I'll let them know that I'm not really the talkin' type. Sometimes I'm cool with being interactive, and other times, the iPod becomes my shield. Gotta appear busy, busy busy!
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My face looks like this internet meme, all the time.

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My face looks like this internet meme, all the time.

lol! I love that meme...

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Today at the laundry a man came in the door i was facing. The corners of my mouth immediately turned down, smirking at him. It's just like a defensive reaction, like putting up a shield, or if something flew at me, putting up my arm.
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