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Old 07-05-2008, 05:19 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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...I mean my brother has plenty of friends and my parents, they have their own set of friends and well as for me
I cant help but feel like this even when im with family cause like let's say we're done eating lunch together,I wanna just socialize with them, but my brother goes off and chats with his friends and my parents talk to each other about their "social life"and their sets of friends( u know how your parents have the same set of couple friends)...i feel like such a loser cause i feel so left out and it's fine if i cant "belong" but then it's not like I have friends where I can go and talk to..so basically i'm left with the dogs, and it's pretty pathetic cause they sometimes ignore me as well..sighhh im such a fu* shiettttttt
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Old 07-05-2008, 05:36 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I've always been the black sheep in my family.

You know, like, it's a big family, right? Lots of extended family, lots of relatives, all very close.

I'm way out at the fringe though, the only person with my interests, the only person in my age range.
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I feel the same. I feel like an alien even to my parents.
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Old 07-05-2008, 08:18 AM   #4 (permalink)
 
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Hell yes.
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Just around certain people. I feel fine around my parents and most of my mom's family(sometimes I feel like an outsider around some of them though just because I'm different than most--of all my family I probably fit in best with my parents & my cousin Blake because he's just like me, pretty much)
But my dad's family I really do feel like a loner/outsider around them most of the time...alot of them have always treated me like I'm weird just because I'm different....makes me kinda glad I don't see them a whole lot, most of them live in Ohio.
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Old 07-05-2008, 09:09 AM   #6 (permalink)
 
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Yep. Last night, my brother went out, my mother went out and I was at home. Alone. I used to be the favorite on my father's side of the family, when I was a kid. Now, my brother is because he's more popular and has more of a life.
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Very much so. I've never fit in much with anyone in my family. I don't think that we ever had the same views on anything.
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I know exactly how you feel. THey're always invinting their friends over and tell me that I should do the same... Yeah sure, I'll invite my only friend to a BBQ. =\
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My hand is raised on this one!
The only people I feel comfortable around in my family is my brother and mother.
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Yes I do but there are several reasons for it.

1). I come from a small family (no brothers, 2 sisters, one of which is now dead). Almost no cousins.
2). I come from a broken family (and i have grandparents, uncles, aunts that are divorced).
3). I come from a mixed family (poor Irish Catholic and middle class Jewish - not a good mix by any stretch)
4). The relatives live all over the country so almost impossible to even have relationship.
5). I am very different than almost all of them (religious, philosophical, personality, goals)

Basically, I just learn to live without any family and be by myself.

The silver lining in all this is that I have few obligations I am forced to meet and I have total freedom to be what I want to be and think what I want to think. I like that.
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I'm not the black sheep in the family, more of a jiraf, dont fit in at all but I can eat off of the top of the trees.
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Yes I do but there are several reasons for it.

1). I come from a small family (no brothers, 2 sisters, one of which is now dead). Almost no cousins.
2). I come from a broken family (and i have grandparents, uncles, aunts that are divorced).
3). I come from a mixed family (poor Irish Catholic and middle class Jewish - not a good mix by any stretch)
4). The relatives live all over the country so almost impossible to even have relationship.
5). I am very different than almost all of them (religious, philosophical, personality, goals)

Basically, I just learn to live without any family and be by myself.

The silver lining in all this is that I have few obligations I am forced to meet and I have total freedom to be what I want to be and think what I want to think. I like that.
This is pretty much my situation too (except for the Irish Catholic Jewish part). I'm so different from most of my family, I just don't really get along with anyone. My background, everything. Over the years, I kind of developed a reputation for being a black sheep too, but at least people don't burden me with their expectations anymore.
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Most of the time, yeah.
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Not really, now that my siblings have all moved out.
But when they did live here I definitely felt like the outsider.
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I'm the black sheep of my family. Always been. In fact, the other night I had a dream where they all went on vacation and forgot to tell me about it. That's what I dream aabout....says alot doesn't it?
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Yes. I've felt on the periphery of my family for many years. I try to join in but I always feel inferior to everyone else.
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ever since i became a teenager i have been somewhat isolated from my family
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Usually, I'd barely say two words at the dinner table, and everybody would just go on chatting as if I weren't there. Everyone in my extended family thinks I'm weird. Aunts and uncles would ask my parents stuff about me while I'm standing right there, instead of addressing me directly, like I were still too young to converse with adults or something. Only the little kids like me, for some reason.
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Usually, I'd barely say two words at the dinner table, and everybody would just go on chatting as if I weren't there. Everyone in my extended family thinks I'm weird. Aunts and uncles would ask my parents stuff about me while I'm standing right there, instead of addressing me directly, like I were still too young to converse with adults or something. Only the little kids like me, for some reason.
Yeah, yeah, it's the same for me.
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