Do you feel behind for your age?

[linxy5]

I been feeling severely depressed lately that all my life has been ridden by lots of complications -- mental illness, family problems, everything. I'm 22 now and I feel very behind for my age I have nothing, no girlfriend, no job, still at a junior college, it hurts. I feel that I have only aged but I'm still a sixteen year old.

[cole phelps]

Yes i feel the same way. Alot of it is my fault though, I guess. I should of done ''this '' ,I wish i did '' that ''Now i'm 21 and i feel like a 16 year old.

I have alot of regrets but alot of it is my own fault... i'm a fool

[RockNRoll Dream]

Originally Posted by linxy5

I'm 22 now and I feel very behind for my age I have nothing, no girlfriend, no job, still at a junior college, it hurts. I feel that I have only aged but I'm still a sixteen year old.

Most people your age are doing well if they have ONE of the following three: a girlfriend, an education or a job. Those who do have two or more almost always end up changing their minds about at least one of them. You will be doing very well indeed if you can get all three ducks in a row before you're thirty.

Don't be so hard on yourself, life is not a race and you are still very young in the scheme of things.

[whatdapointyo]

I'm 21, unemployed and dateless.

I don't know how to feel really. Sometimes I feel hollow, sometimes I feel happy. But I guess I do feel left behind.

However, I'm planning to change it ALL around before I fall back into depression and anxiety. I'm using the rest of this year to get fit and finish my study in preparation for next year. I'll work and make money for the year after that, when I intend to jump on a plane to 'find myself' because I no longer feel like the person I used to be.


My friends are going places and moving up in life while I feel left out. So I'm going to completely shake up my life.

[UltraShy]

Paul Ryan -- age 42 -- has the potential to be the next VP. He's already a multi-term US Congressman, married, and has kids.

The guy is only 3 years older than me! If you think you're behind, just wait another couple decades.

[Equimanthorn]

This has been hitting me hard lately. I wouldn't say so much that I feel like I am behind, what bothers me is almost how I don't always realize how far behind I've fallen. I found a paper the other day from the trade school I finished after high school and it mentioned my graduation being in 2006. I can't believe I finished that school 6 years ago, it feels like maybe 3 years to me. I feel like I could still be anywhere from 19 to 22 still getting a grip on things and trying to figure out life, and when I remember that I'm 25 now it kind of shocks me. I don't know what I did with the last few years, but they were definitely wasted. No great memories. And now I'm headed for 30 already.

[Eski]

I feel way behind, most of my friends have decent careers or kids and married. I dont even have a driving license.

[theseventhkey]

Yes and no. I'm probably behind with "intimacy" but as far life experiences working, struggling and dealing with a#$holes I have plenty of experiences that maybe exceed my age.

[Buddy900]

I turned 22 last week, and I still don't have a job, a girlfriend or a driving licence. Almost all of my old friends have all three of those, and some are engaged and have children. So yes, I feel very behind for my age, and I believe it's mostly my fault. I'm not too bothered about not having a girlfriend, but I still hope my life is better once I'm 30.

[Socialanxiety11]

Yes. I'm 21, no job, no boyfriend, but i am in the process of getting a driver's licence. I have my permit now.

[visualkeirockstar]

If you're going to college. Then you're doing just fine. I'm 22 also i don't go to college, i just have a part time job, nothing else. So you are not behind.

[mid20sgirl]

Yep. Most people get their license when they are 16, but I didn't get mine until I was 25. I didn't really need it before then, and I didn't have the money for a car or lessons because I had no one to teach me either. I am going to be 26 in two weeks and I've only kissed two guys, and I've never been in a relationship and I am still a virgin. It's very rare if someone my age is a virgin. I've only seen guys naked during strip darts or on TV or the Internet. I'm only just saving up for a down payment to buy a house. I am hoping to have enough by next May. I should be able to, I make good money. I wanted to wait until after I've done car payments on time for a year. I'm always on time with bills, but I want to prove it for when they do a credit check and all that.

Right now I am 25, living in a small apartment with my first car, still a virgin, no kids, never had a relationship... everyone I know owns a house, has a car since they were 16, has had many boyfriends, none of my friends are virgins, and a lot of them have kids. This girl I was friends with until a year ago had slept with ten guys!

[Lil Sebastian]

Originally Posted by Equimanthorn

This has been hitting me hard lately. I wouldn't say so much that I feel like I am behind, what bothers me is almost how I don't always realize how far behind I've fallen. I found a paper the other day from the trade school I finished after high school and it mentioned my graduation being in 2006. I can't believe I finished that school 6 years ago, it feels like maybe 3 years to me. I feel like I could still be anywhere from 19 to 22 still getting a grip on things and trying to figure out life, and when I remember that I'm 25 now it kind of shocks me. I don't know what I did with the last few years, but they were definitely wasted. No great memories. And now I'm headed for 30 already.

Pretty much every word here was what I was gonna type, especially the being 25 but feeling like I should be around 20 bit. Being 25 I'm somewhat ok with. The last 8 or so years feeling like they were only 2-3 and having nothing to show for those years is shocking though.

[Hiccups]

I never had any expectations, aspirations etc etc so ..no. Though if I were to go by that ol' conventional standard then I'd no doubt be very very much 'behind', or seemingly slowed right down and drifted off to the sideline.

[jay l]

I do. I'm 19. Never had sex. Never had a long lasting relationship. Not much job experience. Can't drive too well.

[FXiles]

I'm soon 20 but I feel like 12. There are so many things people my age have done that I have not.

[KYJE]

In many ways, yes.

I've come to accept it.

[xTaylor]

Yes.
No job, no experience
No car, scared of driving
Didn't start college this year...

[max87]

Originally Posted by linxy5

I been feeling severely depressed lately that all my life has been ridden by lots of complications -- mental illness, family problems, everything. I'm 22 now and I feel very behind for my age I have nothing, no girlfriend, no job, still at a junior college, it hurts. I feel that I have only aged but I'm still a sixteen year old.

I am 25 and in the same boat as you: no girlfriend, no friends, never had a real job (not even in a frikin' McDonald's, i just couldn't handle customers and peer pressure from the manager), and never done anything, absolutely anything. What's more, i can't even drive.
The sense of being behind your age is something i have felt for over 5 or 6 years. It is extemely sad and depressing.

[max87]

Originally Posted by xTaylor

Yes.
No job, no experience
No car, scared of driving
Didn't start college this year...

OMFG... you are JUST like me. God... that sounded sooo creepyyy :s
Sorry!
But this is exactly how i am and how i was at age 18. I am now 25 and still the same as you.
So sad...