I'm pretty shy, quiet and when I talk I tend to get straight to the point, summing up whatever I want to say in a sentence or two. This is after I have at least spent a couple of seconds thinking over what to say in my mind.
So how come almost everyone I know insists on yapping on and on incessantly about even the most basic things. Not only that but they insist on thinking out loud so I am forced to listen to these disjointed, incoherent thinking processes while they come to their "brilliant"
conclusions that I could have probably came up with in under two seconds.
I have come to the conclusion that these people are narcissists so in love with the sound of their own voice that they just can not bear the thought of silence.
And if you see two of these people in a group conversation you can actually see how uncomfortable the one who isn't talking is getting. In my case I can tell they aren't even listening to what I or someone else is saying because they are going over in their mind what they are going to say next.
Now for my question. Is this my own fault because I have no ability to tell jokes and cute stories and so it is just convenient for me and the person talking because they get to hog the floor like they want and I just get to sit there like a lump on a log. Not only that, but when they see me rolling my eyes and looking obviously bored and disinterested after hearing this tale (sometimes for the umpteenth time) they might say "Well, go ahead then, you tell us something!" and guess what - I'm forced to say "Uh, I've got nothing." which makes them think "Then stop complaining, I can't help it if you're socially retarded (I've actually been called this more than once.)
I actually have the ability to engage in serious conversations about things I consider important like government or social issues, but most of the people I know want to give an excruciating blow by blow report of how long it took to get their refrigerator repaired or how long they had to wait in line at the pharmacy.
The fact of the matter is I have my own problems to worry about and I can no longer tolerate hearing about the boring minutae of other peoples lives. I realize it's important to them because it's THEIR LIFE! But it's not my life but they still think everyone should find the inane details of their lives so utterly fascinating.
I now avoid these people as often as is practically possible but I must determine what it is about me that finds me actually friends or acquaintances with some of them.
Sorry about the rant.