Social Anxiety Support

Haydsmom2007 · 11-07-2009, 09:49 AM

Certain people just make me really nervous and I don't know what it is about them. It's so annoying. And it makes me feel horrible, because these people think that I hate them because I'm always avoiding them and I don't talk to them. I would like to think my social anxiety has been getting better, so the majority of the people I am ok with but there's still those few people that just spike up my anxiety. This lady at work is the main one that I can think of. She's not a scary person, she's nice, outgoing, friendly, but she just makes me so nervous. She told another coworker that she thinks that I have a grudge against her or something, lol.

Phibes · 11-07-2009, 09:54 AM

When I was ordering pizza from this younger fellow at the shop I noticed he was really nevous and his face started twitching .... It made me think that maybe I'm not so messed up as I think I am - if boys get nervous talking to me than it really means that I'm not so bad.

odd_one_out · 11-07-2009, 11:23 AM

Some people, even though they are nice, can overstimulate my nervous system. It can be due to their voice, body-language, or personality being too much to handle.

Still Waters · 11-07-2009, 11:48 AM

I agree with odd one out. Friendly people are fine,but if they're really,really friendly I feel overwhelmed. Also people with intense eye contact tend to freak me out.

hmf22 · 11-07-2009, 12:03 PM

pretty, outgoing, popular girls usually make me extra nervous- I just feel like they're so judgemental, and if I don't make a good impression, I'll just be a loser.

rdrr · 11-07-2009, 12:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hmf22

pretty, outgoing, popular girls usually make me extra nervous- I just feel like they're so judgemental, and if I don't make a good impression, I'll just be a loser.

me the same?

Indigo Flow · 11-07-2009, 12:26 PM

yep, if i'm in a room with people i'm comfortable with and one person walks in who i'm not comfortable around, that's it i just got quiet.

Qoder · 11-07-2009, 12:30 PM

I get really uncomfortable around teenagers. I guess it stems from my own bad experiences in high school. But I try to avoid them whenever possible. I feel much more comfortable around older adults.

veron · 11-07-2009, 12:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hmf22

pretty, outgoing, popular girls usually make me extra nervous- I just feel like they're so judgemental, and if I don't make a good impression, I'll just be a loser.

shyvr6 · 11-07-2009, 02:19 PM

I'm not very fond of loud bossy people. Usually, those are the people that call you out on being quiet.

heyJude · 11-07-2009, 09:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hmf22

pretty, outgoing, popular girls usually make me extra nervous- I just feel like they're so judgemental, and if I don't make a good impression, I'll just be a loser.

This.

Teenagers, really loud people and people who speak very professionally (I feel like an idiot whenever I talk to them) make me nervous as well.

matty · 11-07-2009, 09:29 PM

Loud confident people intimidate me.
All girls apart from really open bubbly ones.
Some older people. Dont know why, just get a vibe from some and I shut down.

carambola · 11-07-2009, 09:32 PM

outgoing people.

lgems29 · 11-07-2009, 09:41 PM

Authority figures and strangers scare me. Then there are some people I know but I just get an unfriendly vibe from them or something.

katieboro · 11-08-2009, 02:43 AM

Yes im the same, certain ppl at college i cant stand and i rue they even being there. One girl in particular who is manipulative and is always trying to leave me out, even tho i helped her.

But more similar to yours, i hate loud, scary ppl they make the group dynamic completely different and others change their behaviour.

polythene · 11-08-2009, 02:47 AM

I wouldn't say anyone scares me outright unless they're threatening me...

But certain people do intimidate me tremendously. Mostly people who come off as cold, self-assured, highly intellectual/intelligent - basically people who seem to be inherently 'better' than me who are extremely poised. I end up feeling inadequate and stupid, basically because I don't know what to do. I would be a complete disaster at an elegant dinner party, probably would pop a blood vessel.

Haydsmom2007 · 11-08-2009, 07:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hmf22

pretty, outgoing, popular girls usually make me extra nervous- I just feel like they're so judgemental, and if I don't make a good impression, I'll just be a loser.

That's true, I'm like that too. I have a good amount of confidence in the way I look but when there's a girl that's reeeeally hot, and outgoing, nice, friends with everyone, I get really nervous and try to stay away from them because I feel so inadequate. That's when I start going "they are so much prettier than me. I probably look so ugly next to them."

I say things to my boyfriend sometimes about this girl or that girl being really pretty and he's always like "you're a lot prettier than her. She has to actually try to look hot, dress up, put makeup on, but you look beautiful even coming right from the shower." but I still always feel like they're better than me.

One of his friends, who's a girl, she lives in his hometown which is 3 or 4 hours away.. they talk every once in a while and she always asks about me (i've never met her) and my boyfriend told me she wanted to meet me one time when she was coming in town and I freaked out. I was like "NO WAY I am not meeting her. She wont like me. She'll think I'm weird and boring. I wont have anything to say." Because I saw a picture of her on facebook and omg, she is so incredibly hot.

11-07-2009, 09:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	do certain people scare you? Certain people just make me really nervous and I don't know what it is about them. It's so annoying. And it makes me feel horrible, because these people think that I hate them because I'm always avoiding them and I don't talk to them. I would like to think my social anxiety has been getting better, so the majority of the people I am ok with but there's still those few people that just spike up my anxiety. This lady at work is the main one that I can think of. She's not a scary person, she's nice, outgoing, friendly, but she just makes me so nervous. She told another coworker that she thinks that I have a grudge against her or something, lol.

11-07-2009, 11:48 AM	#4 (permalink)
Still Waters Status: Lost And Unaccounted For Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Stuck in the Lost and Found Gender: Female Posts: 668	I agree with odd one out. Friendly people are fine,but if they're really,really friendly I feel overwhelmed. Also people with intense eye contact tend to freak me out. __________________ I knew a man who lived in fear It was huge,it was angry,it was drawing near Behind his house,a secret place Was the shadow of the demon he could never face. He tells the world that it's sleeping But as the night came 'round I heard it's lonely sound It wasn't roaring,it was weeping. - Weeping - Josh Groban

11-07-2009, 12:26 PM	#7 (permalink)
Indigo Flow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: London, England Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 258	yep, if i'm in a room with people i'm comfortable with and one person walks in who i'm not comfortable around, that's it i just got quiet. __________________ ...i could not Speak, and my eyes failed, i was neither Living nor dead, and i knew nothing, Looking into the heart of light, the silence. Flickr

11-07-2009, 02:19 PM	#10 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 9,645	I'm not very fond of loud bossy people. Usually, those are the people that call you out on being quiet. __________________ Music

11-07-2009, 09:29 PM	#12 (permalink)
matty Status: Falling Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Brisbane Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 202	Loud confident people intimidate me. All girls apart from really open bubbly ones. Some older people. Dont know why, just get a vibe from some and I shut down. __________________ Stop looking I found it

11-07-2009, 09:54 AM	#2 (permalink)
Phibes Status: blessed with lucky sevens Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Brisbane, Australia. Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 640	When I was ordering pizza from this younger fellow at the shop I noticed he was really nevous and his face started twitching .... It made me think that maybe I'm not so messed up as I think I am - if boys get nervous talking to me than it really means that I'm not so bad.

11-07-2009, 11:23 AM	#3 (permalink)
odd_one_out Status: Active-but-odd Join Date: Aug 2006 Age: 32 Posts: 1,215	Some people, even though they are nice, can overstimulate my nervous system. It can be due to their voice, body-language, or personality being too much to handle.

11-07-2009, 12:03 PM	#5 (permalink)
hmf22 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Utah Gender: Female Posts: 116	pretty, outgoing, popular girls usually make me extra nervous- I just feel like they're so judgemental, and if I don't make a good impression, I'll just be a loser.

11-07-2009, 12:30 PM	#8 (permalink)
Qoder Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Southwest USA Gender: Male Posts: 33	I get really uncomfortable around teenagers. I guess it stems from my own bad experiences in high school. But I try to avoid them whenever possible. I feel much more comfortable around older adults.

11-07-2009, 09:32 PM	#13 (permalink)
carambola Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: California Age: 24 Posts: 735	outgoing people.

11-07-2009, 09:41 PM	#14 (permalink)
lgems29 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Las Vegas, NV Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 6	Authority figures and strangers scare me. Then there are some people I know but I just get an unfriendly vibe from them or something.

11-08-2009, 02:43 AM	#15 (permalink)
katieboro Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 12	Yes im the same, certain ppl at college i cant stand and i rue they even being there. One girl in particular who is manipulative and is always trying to leave me out, even tho i helped her. But more similar to yours, i hate loud, scary ppl they make the group dynamic completely different and others change their behaviour.

11-08-2009, 02:47 AM	#16 (permalink)
polythene Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 219	I wouldn't say anyone scares me outright unless they're threatening me... But certain people do intimidate me tremendously. Mostly people who come off as cold, self-assured, highly intellectual/intelligent - basically people who seem to be inherently 'better' than me who are extremely poised. I end up feeling inadequate and stupid, basically because I don't know what to do. I would be a complete disaster at an elegant dinner party, probably would pop a blood vessel.