Social Anxiety Support

JRob · 10-04-2006, 06:48 PM

So, im sitting in my driving class, nervous. some guy i barly know turns around and says "Rob" i say "What", "Your ugly" he says.

I just feel like ****. I never said anything mean, Every bad comment is always on me, I get no respect, but im not mean to anyone.. WTF?

I get called ugly randomly, by people i dont rly talk to, makes me feel like a worthless, hideious human being.. Im so sick off it.

How can people be so cruel? I would never call someone that. So im starting to think this is all true, Ill never bee anyone because im not good looking.. I feel like TOTAL ****!

WHY ARE PEOPLE SO MEAN, I DONT DO ANYTIHNG I NEVER BULLEID ANYONE WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME

mserychic · 10-04-2006, 07:00 PM

Try not to take it personally. Some folks just like to pick on people who are already down. We're kind of easy marks

JRob · 10-04-2006, 07:14 PM

i must be the most senstive person ever, after he said that i just teared up a little. i couldnt help it i feel like such a worthless person.

Why would people do this to me.

And im a guy too.. i must really suck

Amnesiac · 10-04-2006, 07:20 PM

Did you say something back?

This sounds like HS. After HS this will end. I don't know anybody who bullies or teases anybody in college.

HS is a sesspool of popularity contests and where rep is priority to many people.

But don't think suicide is an answer to anything. Even though I feel sympathy for people who attempt suicide I don't respect anybody who quits on life like that.

Message · 10-04-2006, 07:21 PM

That was very rude and unacceptable. And mark my words, he will get what he deserves in time. One always reaps what they sow. That fact has never let me down.

Are you in high school then? What grade are you in?

Teenagers are idiots. I had a torturous high school experience and during such adults always told me that once you graduate it's like highschool never existed. It's that insignificant socially. And I find that it's true... perceptions change drastically once it's over. A large majority of people do mature after high school because it's when we start our real lives. Immature people learn quick that in the real world, that kind of behavior is not tolerated.

You'll be greatful of the adult world... although there will always be rotten apples around... there are far more of them in high school.

And in my humble opinion, I think those who had social troubles in high school are usually the people that are most worth knowing.

Disintegrate · 10-04-2006, 07:24 PM

I don't know you, but I'm guessing you do not suck.

The dude that made that comment to you is a loser.

JRob · 10-04-2006, 07:24 PM

yes i am a junior in high school. 16, male.

fog · 10-04-2006, 07:24 PM

JRob, there's a lot of *******s in this world, but there's a lot more nice people, don't let this jerk get you down.and don't beat yourself up about getting teared up, its a natural reaction.

ps. the guy that said that obviously has some issues he's dealing with, i pity him

JRob · 10-04-2006, 07:26 PM

and i am so, senstive to others feelings its not even funny, if i see anyone even a TINY bit feeling sad/ picked on i feel so bad and really just talk to them and make them feel good..

Nice guys do finish last i guess.. Its not ver fun doing everything nice and caring, then gettin treated like poo..

Disintegrate · 10-04-2006, 07:26 PM

And, no, suicide is not the way.

It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

PGVan · 10-04-2006, 07:27 PM

At your age in school, seriously, I'd punch somebody for saying something like that at random. If not for anything but my own personal satisfaction. It would feel so good.

Obviously you would have to explain yourself, so do just that. Tell the principal why you did it. You were provoked.

Message · 10-04-2006, 07:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JRob

and i am so, senstive to others feelings its not even funny, if i see anyone even a TINY bit feeling sad/ picked on i feel so bad and really just talk to them and make them feel good..

Nice guys do finish last i guess.. Its not ver fun doing everything nice and caring, then gettin treated like poo..

Being a kind person is very important. It is honorable, and it makes you a wonderful person.

JRob · 10-04-2006, 07:32 PM

and i dont think im ugly. Right when i feeling the most confident, i seems to get shot down by remarks people makes.

left blank · 10-04-2006, 07:37 PM

I can be sensitive to rude comments but people who are THAT rude don't get to me i'm more just thankfull i'm at least not like that!

You can learn to be more assertive, i've been trying to learn how to speak up for myself without turning into them, thank God these are all skills you can learn.

millenniumman75 · 10-04-2006, 07:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JRob

Nice guys do finish last i guess.. Its not ver fun doing everything nice and caring, then gettin treated like poo..

You said poo. (I use that word, too!

)
Seriously, nice guys finish better off then the jerks in the long run.
You are beyond your years right now - that's a good thing!

IndigoGirl · 10-04-2006, 08:17 PM

They're being immature, and saying things without any proof. Plus, they're 'schoolchildren', don't take them seriously, they're insecure about themselves, of course.

damoo · 10-04-2006, 10:36 PM

Hey cheer up buddy.

Some people in life are just *******s no matter how you treat them.
Deal with them however you want, put up a fight or ignore them, but don't beat yourself up over them.

copper · 10-04-2006, 11:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JRob

yes i am a junior in high school. 16, male.

Hang in there. It get better after getting out of high school, it did for me. Lots of times other people have self esteem problems themselves and they do hurtful things to other people to make themselves feel better.

JRob · 10-04-2006, 11:32 PM

thanks everyone

pentagon · 10-04-2006, 11:56 PM

I wasn't there so I can't really say...but my friends do this all the time. I'll usually just tell them something like "if I want your opinion, I'll give it to you" etc... It's all in good fun. It may seem weird, but the guy might have been trying to make friends with you. That's just how some guys are dude

10-04-2006, 06:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
JRob Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 56	called ugly So, im sitting in my driving class, nervous. some guy i barly know turns around and says "Rob" i say "What", "Your ugly" he says. I just feel like **. I never said anything mean, Every bad comment is always on me, I get no respect, but im not mean to anyone.. WTF? I get called ugly randomly, by people i dont rly talk to, makes me feel like a worthless, hideious human being.. Im so sick off it. How can people be so cruel? I would never call someone that. So im starting to think this is all true, Ill never bee anyone because im not good looking.. I feel like TOTAL **! WHY ARE PEOPLE SO MEAN, I DONT DO ANYTIHNG I NEVER BULLEID ANYONE WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME

10-04-2006, 07:20 PM	#4 (permalink)
Amnesiac Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: 23/m/toronto Posts: 102	Did you say something back? This sounds like HS. After HS this will end. I don't know anybody who bullies or teases anybody in college. HS is a sesspool of popularity contests and where rep is priority to many people. But don't think suicide is an answer to anything. Even though I feel sympathy for people who attempt suicide I don't respect anybody who quits on life like that. __________________ I'm a conversation you should have tuned me out when you had the chance. All the love in the world couldn't save you...what I thought was beautiful don't live inside you anymore... - GnR "The Blues"

10-04-2006, 07:21 PM	#5 (permalink)
Message Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 356	That was very rude and unacceptable. And mark my words, he will get what he deserves in time. One always reaps what they sow. That fact has never let me down. Are you in high school then? What grade are you in? Teenagers are idiots. I had a torturous high school experience and during such adults always told me that once you graduate it's like highschool never existed. It's that insignificant socially. And I find that it's true... perceptions change drastically once it's over. A large majority of people do mature after high school because it's when we start our real lives. Immature people learn quick that in the real world, that kind of behavior is not tolerated. You'll be greatful of the adult world... although there will always be rotten apples around... there are far more of them in high school. And in my humble opinion, I think those who had social troubles in high school are usually the people that are most worth knowing. __________________ "Everything sucks. Might as well find something to smile about" -House

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10-04-2006, 07:00 PM	#2 (permalink)
mserychic Status: Super Beaver Join Date: Oct 2004 Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 10,905	Try not to take it personally. Some folks just like to pick on people who are already down. We're kind of easy marks

10-04-2006, 07:14 PM	#3 (permalink)
JRob Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 56	i must be the most senstive person ever, after he said that i just teared up a little. i couldnt help it i feel like such a worthless person. Why would people do this to me. And im a guy too.. i must really suck

10-04-2006, 07:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
Disintegrate Status: on hold Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,369	I don't know you, but I'm guessing you do not suck. The dude that made that comment to you is a loser.

10-04-2006, 07:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
JRob Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 56	yes i am a junior in high school. 16, male.

10-04-2006, 07:24 PM	#8 (permalink)
fog Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: m/southern ontario Posts: 105	JRob, there's a lot of *******s in this world, but there's a lot more nice people, don't let this jerk get you down.and don't beat yourself up about getting teared up, its a natural reaction. ps. the guy that said that obviously has some issues he's dealing with, i pity him

10-04-2006, 07:26 PM	#9 (permalink)
JRob Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 56	and i am so, senstive to others feelings its not even funny, if i see anyone even a TINY bit feeling sad/ picked on i feel so bad and really just talk to them and make them feel good.. Nice guys do finish last i guess.. Its not ver fun doing everything nice and caring, then gettin treated like poo..

10-04-2006, 07:26 PM	#10 (permalink)
Disintegrate Status: on hold Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,369	And, no, suicide is not the way. It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

10-04-2006, 07:27 PM	#11 (permalink)
PGVan Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: BC Age: 29 Posts: 2,051	At your age in school, seriously, I'd punch somebody for saying something like that at random. If not for anything but my own personal satisfaction. It would feel so good. Obviously you would have to explain yourself, so do just that. Tell the principal why you did it. You were provoked.

10-04-2006, 07:32 PM	#13 (permalink)
JRob Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 56	and i dont think im ugly. Right when i feeling the most confident, i seems to get shot down by remarks people makes.

10-04-2006, 07:37 PM	#14 (permalink)
left blank Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Age: 26 Posts: 183	I can be sensitive to rude comments but people who are THAT rude don't get to me i'm more just thankfull i'm at least not like that! You can learn to be more assertive, i've been trying to learn how to speak up for myself without turning into them, thank God these are all skills you can learn.

10-04-2006, 08:17 PM	#16 (permalink)
IndigoGirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 780	They're being immature, and saying things without any proof. Plus, they're 'schoolchildren', don't take them seriously, they're insecure about themselves, of course.

10-04-2006, 10:36 PM	#17 (permalink)
damoo Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Toronto Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 75	Hey cheer up buddy. Some people in life are just *******s no matter how you treat them. Deal with them however you want, put up a fight or ignore them, but don't beat yourself up over them.

10-04-2006, 11:32 PM	#19 (permalink)
JRob Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 56	thanks everyone

10-04-2006, 11:56 PM	#20 (permalink)
pentagon Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: 23/M/FL Age: 28 Posts: 486	I wasn't there so I can't really say...but my friends do this all the time. I'll usually just tell them something like "if I want your opinion, I'll give it to you" etc... It's all in good fun. It may seem weird, but the guy might have been trying to make friends with you. That's just how some guys are dude