Social Anxiety Support

KelseyAlena · 08-25-2012, 04:09 PM

I read that statement in a book, "anxiety is a choice" I do not agree at all..what are yalls opinions?

citysleeps5 · 08-25-2012, 04:10 PM

Definitely not a choice.

Luka92 · 08-25-2012, 04:13 PM

Nonsense.

DeniseAfterAll · 08-25-2012, 04:14 PM

It's an automated reaction to external threats.. it comes with variations, mutations - some people will be chilled and relaxed.. some will be utterly paranoid. Dates back to evolution

ravens · 08-25-2012, 04:14 PM

I definitely don't choose to feel the way I do.

KindredSpirit · 08-25-2012, 04:14 PM

It's not a choice at all ... but there's a crazy book called Control Theory that says it is.

That's the book my therapist had me read. Needless to say, I'm not seeing him anymore.

Nefury · 08-25-2012, 04:17 PM

The only choice you have is how you attempt to deal with it. Even then, it can feel like you have no say in the matter.

sanxiety13 · 08-25-2012, 04:19 PM

Its not a choice but you can control it.

LukeT · 08-25-2012, 04:21 PM

but it is a choice not to do anything about it even knowing it can be cured...
so yeah I guesss you could say its somewhat a choice

CourtneyB · 08-25-2012, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by sanxiety13

Its not a choice but you can control it.

I disagree. It's an individual's natural reaction to change and fear. Many therapists say not to try to control it, but to work through it. Trying to stop or control such things like panic and anxiety attacks actually makes it worse.

retepe94 · 08-25-2012, 05:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KelseyAlena

I read that statement in a book, "anxiety is a choice" I do not agree at all..what are yalls opinions?

That's the biggest bull****e i've heard. Does the writer think I that I can easily control how I feel around others?
And it was my choice to not really have any good friends, social life at 18 years old?

Openyoureyes · 08-25-2012, 05:08 PM

Not a choice, no matter how hard I try anxiety just creeps up on me. I'll be having a good day, then bam, bad day cuz of anxiety. I do not blame myself, but anxiety.

retepe94 · 08-25-2012, 05:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sanxiety13

Its not a choice but you can control it.

I guess we can try to reduce our SA in certain ways.

Puppet Master · 08-25-2012, 05:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KelseyAlena

I read that statement in a book, "anxiety is a choice" I do not agree at all..what are yalls opinions?

I think whoever wrote the book is a moron and has never really had to deal with anxiety.

sanxiety13 · 08-25-2012, 05:31 PM

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Originally Posted by retepe94

I guess we can try to reduce our SA in certain ways.

I agree with that. Control probably wasn't the best word. But you have to take the steps. You can't sit at home and let SA control you. You have to control it.

Invisiblehandicap · 08-25-2012, 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Puppet Master

I think whoever wrote the book is a moron and has never really had to deal with anxiety.

.

The author probably thinks that an anxiety disorder is like being a little bit stressed.

Marakunda · 08-25-2012, 05:48 PM

I think anxiety and fear are pretty much the same thing, and is fear a choice?

Nope.

sanxiety13 · 08-25-2012, 05:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CourtneyB

I disagree. It's an individual's natural reaction to change and fear. Many therapists say not to try to control it, but to work through it. Trying to stop or control such things like panic and anxiety attacks actually makes it worse.

you can control it by therapy, meds, exercise, eating right, and sleeping right.

Island guy · 08-25-2012, 06:02 PM

Aloha everyone, this is my first post on this site, yeah! Well back to the question, no its definitely not a choice, when my anxiety strikes out of no where, I can't control it, it's super scary! When people say u can control it, well I guess I'm not nearly close because I feel as if I can't control it but cope it different ways. My panic attacks scare me to the point I need to go to the er and check in, knowing there are professionals there sooths me. I haven't had panic attacks for over 5 years but they came back hard out of no where this week. My pcp putme on Paxil n Xanax to help calm my nerves. I used to be those long time ago so I figured I'd go back on till I feel good about myself again. Anyways, sorry for the rambling, I jus scared it will occur again like last night, I woke up every hr in a panic, then me having to call my friends to calm me down. I finally got like 2 hrs of sleep. Sorry again for long post.

FoundAndLost · 08-25-2012, 06:15 PM

Yeah it's definitely a choice, I love living like this.

08-25-2012, 04:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
KelseyAlena Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Planet Earth Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 451	Anxiety is a choice. I read that statement in a book, "anxiety is a choice" I do not agree at all..what are yalls opinions?

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Openyoureyes Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: NY Gender: Female Posts: 1,428	Not a choice, no matter how hard I try anxiety just creeps up on me. I'll be having a good day, then bam, bad day cuz of anxiety. I do not blame myself, but anxiety. __________________ ask me for my tumblr!

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FoundAndLost Status: Another Day In Paradise Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Temecula, California Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 5,650	Yeah it's definitely a choice, I love living like this. __________________ *Do your own bit of saving, and if you drown, at least die knowing you were headed for shore.*

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Luka92 Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Dec 2011 Gender: Male Posts: 2,235	Nonsense.

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DeniseAfterAll Status: Status? Is this Facebook? Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: New Zealand Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 1,332	It's an automated reaction to external threats.. it comes with variations, mutations - some people will be chilled and relaxed.. some will be utterly paranoid. Dates back to evolution

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ravens Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Tennessee Gender: Male Age: 42 Posts: 5,603	I definitely don't choose to feel the way I do.

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KindredSpirit Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Louisville, KY Gender: Male Posts: 137	It's not a choice at all ... but there's a crazy book called Control Theory that says it is. That's the book my therapist had me read. Needless to say, I'm not seeing him anymore.

08-25-2012, 04:19 PM	#8 (permalink)
sanxiety13 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Gender: Male Posts: 67	Its not a choice but you can control it.

08-25-2012, 04:21 PM	#9 (permalink)
LukeT Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 264	but it is a choice not to do anything about it even knowing it can be cured... so yeah I guesss you could say its somewhat a choice

08-25-2012, 05:48 PM	#17 (permalink)
Marakunda Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Manitoba, Canada Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 2,371	I think anxiety and fear are pretty much the same thing, and is fear a choice? Nope.

08-25-2012, 06:02 PM	#19 (permalink)
Island guy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Hawaii Gender: Male Posts: 8	Aloha everyone, this is my first post on this site, yeah! Well back to the question, no its definitely not a choice, when my anxiety strikes out of no where, I can't control it, it's super scary! When people say u can control it, well I guess I'm not nearly close because I feel as if I can't control it but cope it different ways. My panic attacks scare me to the point I need to go to the er and check in, knowing there are professionals there sooths me. I haven't had panic attacks for over 5 years but they came back hard out of no where this week. My pcp putme on Paxil n Xanax to help calm my nerves. I used to be those long time ago so I figured I'd go back on till I feel good about myself again. Anyways, sorry for the rambling, I jus scared it will occur again like last night, I woke up every hr in a panic, then me having to call my friends to calm me down. I finally got like 2 hrs of sleep. Sorry again for long post.