Social Anxiety Support

ninevoltz · 07-03-2009, 02:08 PM

Just once would I like someone out there to invite me to some kind of barbecue or boat outing or SOMETHING for July 4th. Does anyone else feel this way? Please tell me I'm not the only one.

lastofthekews · 07-03-2009, 04:16 PM

I know how you feel ninevoltz, I feel like others are all enjoying theirselves while i'm alone, and I never get invited to anything. We have to admit to ourselves that people aren't inviting us out so we have to do something about it ourselves.

Is there not any local public events you can go to tomorrow without having to be invited. I know its not ideal, having to go somewhere alone, but you might meet friendly people who will make you feel welcome. I'm not saying it'll definitely happen, but it could, so its worth a shot

I don't like doing things alone, but am trying to get out of the house more. I'm hoping that sooner or later I will meet someone who I click with and can become friends with. Its scary going out there alone, but i'll never find friends staying indoors.

If you feel you can't go out tomorrow, i'm sure there'll be other people on here who are alone as well who you can talk to

shadowmask · 07-03-2009, 04:16 PM

You're not the only one.

shygirl14 · 07-03-2009, 04:35 PM

I feel your pain and no your not the only one. I live right next to the lake

vak3 · 07-03-2009, 07:35 PM

Same here. I'm living in a house with 13 other people and they all have something to do or somewhere to go and no one invited me anywhere. And I dont have a car so I can't leave the house (its a field station, we're all doing research, not just 14 people living in a house. And its not like they talk to me anyway...) I stayed in my office all day today and got myself really down. And I expect tomorrow and Sunday will be the same. You're not alone.

Metallic · 07-03-2009, 07:43 PM

I haven't even gone to see fireworks since I was in middle school. It was alright for a while because there's a huge lake next to my neighborhood that puts on huge fireworks show, but now that the trees have grown I can't see anything anymore. Holidays that center around getting together with friends and such like 4th of July always make me sad. ):

XxArmyofOnexX · 07-03-2009, 07:59 PM

/flame suit on

I actually got invited and didn't go, would feel there's too much SA as so many people, watched from my house though, same thing but without all the people. Got to spend time with my niece as well.

Traci · 07-03-2009, 08:36 PM

I got invited but I'm too chicken to go. I feel like a failure.

ellektra · 07-03-2009, 10:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ninevoltz

Just once would I like someone out there to invite me to some kind of barbecue or boat outing or SOMETHING for July 4th. Does anyone else feel this way? Please tell me I'm not the only one.

You are not the only one. Honestly, I rarely even acknowledge holidays anymore -- they pass by like any other day.. alone. I have never been to a 4th of July party with people my age. I remember seeing fireworks with my parents when i was a kid... but thats the most I've ever done for the 4th.

EagerMinnow84 · 07-03-2009, 11:45 PM

I am home too. I don't really care since it is only the 4th of July. When Christmas rolls around again and I am still single, that's when I get extremely depressed and want to crawl under a rock till January 2nd.

mardy423 · 07-04-2009, 12:29 AM

I'm also home. 4th of July, Christmas, V-Day, and my birthday all pretty much suck, i usually spend them all alone. I would love it if someone would call me and be like "hey, Happy whatever Day!" but nope, no calls, no cards, nothing.

TorLin · 07-04-2009, 12:31 AM

its just beginning.

change it up. do something out of the blue.
go to the mall
do something.

stop being coped up inside if you are frustrated, CHANGE it!

ninevoltz · 07-04-2009, 10:10 AM

You're right! I am going to do something even if it's by myself. Changing it up is certainly the first step.

Thank you all for the responses.

lastofthekews · 07-04-2009, 01:15 PM

Hey guys, even if you're on your own, go out and enjoy yourself. Give yourself one day off from your anxiety and enjoy the rest of today.

We don't celebrate it here in England, obviously, but I decided that for one day in my life I wasn't going to let my SA beat me. I went to an outdoor concert by myself, and just let myself go and danced right up near the front of the stage. I figured that I didn't know anyone there, and everyone else was going for it, so no-one would bother that I was doing the same. I'm really happy now, although i've got loud ringing in one ear from being too close to the speakers.

07-03-2009, 02:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
ninevoltz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Kirkland, WA Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 5	Another July 4th, another holiday alone at home Just once would I like someone out there to invite me to some kind of barbecue or boat outing or SOMETHING for July 4th. Does anyone else feel this way? Please tell me I'm not the only one.

07-03-2009, 07:43 PM	#6 (permalink)
Metallic Status: Suit up! Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: North Carolina Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 381	I haven't even gone to see fireworks since I was in middle school. It was alright for a while because there's a huge lake next to my neighborhood that puts on huge fireworks show, but now that the trees have grown I can't see anything anymore. Holidays that center around getting together with friends and such like 4th of July always make me sad. ): __________________ sometimes even to live is an act of courage. When I get sad, I stop being sad, and be AWESOME instead. True story.

07-03-2009, 07:59 PM	#7 (permalink)
XxArmyofOnexX Status: No more seizures! Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: NYC Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 505	/flame suit on I actually got invited and didn't go, would feel there's too much SA as so many people, watched from my house though, same thing but without all the people. Got to spend time with my niece as well. __________________ I keep on walking.

07-03-2009, 08:36 PM	#8 (permalink)
Traci Status: Rawr. Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Colorado Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 429	I got invited but I'm too chicken to go. I feel like a failure. __________________ "Life is waiting for you, it's all messed up, but we'll survive."

07-03-2009, 11:45 PM	#10 (permalink)
EagerMinnow84 Status: Living in Technicolor Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dancing with Gene Kelly Gender: Female Posts: 1,176	I am home too. I don't really care since it is only the 4th of July. When Christmas rolls around again and I am still single, that's when I get extremely depressed and want to crawl under a rock till January 2nd. __________________ I don't know, I kind of like him. He's the exact opposite of everything I really hate. In a way, he's such a clueless dork, he's almost kind of cool

07-03-2009, 04:16 PM	#2 (permalink)
lastofthekews Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Leicester, United Kingdom Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 909	I know how you feel ninevoltz, I feel like others are all enjoying theirselves while i'm alone, and I never get invited to anything. We have to admit to ourselves that people aren't inviting us out so we have to do something about it ourselves. Is there not any local public events you can go to tomorrow without having to be invited. I know its not ideal, having to go somewhere alone, but you might meet friendly people who will make you feel welcome. I'm not saying it'll definitely happen, but it could, so its worth a shot I don't like doing things alone, but am trying to get out of the house more. I'm hoping that sooner or later I will meet someone who I click with and can become friends with. Its scary going out there alone, but i'll never find friends staying indoors. If you feel you can't go out tomorrow, i'm sure there'll be other people on here who are alone as well who you can talk to

07-03-2009, 04:16 PM	#3 (permalink)
shadowmask Status: Torn Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: TN Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 978	You're not the only one.

07-03-2009, 04:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
shygirl14 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 143	I feel your pain and no your not the only one. I live right next to the lake

07-03-2009, 07:35 PM	#5 (permalink)
vak3 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: New Hampshire Gender: Female Posts: 22	Same here. I'm living in a house with 13 other people and they all have something to do or somewhere to go and no one invited me anywhere. And I dont have a car so I can't leave the house (its a field station, we're all doing research, not just 14 people living in a house. And its not like they talk to me anyway...) I stayed in my office all day today and got myself really down. And I expect tomorrow and Sunday will be the same. You're not alone.

07-04-2009, 12:29 AM	#11 (permalink)
mardy423 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Georgia Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 241	I'm also home. 4th of July, Christmas, V-Day, and my birthday all pretty much suck, i usually spend them all alone. I would love it if someone would call me and be like "hey, Happy whatever Day!" but nope, no calls, no cards, nothing.

07-04-2009, 12:31 AM	#12 (permalink)
TorLin Status: MayTheForceBeWithYou Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 16,863	its just beginning. change it up. do something out of the blue. go to the mall do something. stop being coped up inside if you are frustrated, CHANGE it! __________________ MTFBWU (May The Force Be With You) - TORLIN AIM, MSN, YIM: T0RL1N Skype: Tor_Lin Visit me at; ToryLing.com \| LivingAnxious \| Facebook \| Myspace \| Last.fm

07-04-2009, 10:10 AM	#13 (permalink)
ninevoltz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Kirkland, WA Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 5	You're right! I am going to do something even if it's by myself. Changing it up is certainly the first step. Thank you all for the responses.

07-04-2009, 01:15 PM	#14 (permalink)
lastofthekews Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Leicester, United Kingdom Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 909	Hey guys, even if you're on your own, go out and enjoy yourself. Give yourself one day off from your anxiety and enjoy the rest of today. We don't celebrate it here in England, obviously, but I decided that for one day in my life I wasn't going to let my SA beat me. I went to an outdoor concert by myself, and just let myself go and danced right up near the front of the stage. I figured that I didn't know anyone there, and everyone else was going for it, so no-one would bother that I was doing the same. I'm really happy now, although i've got loud ringing in one ear from being too close to the speakers.