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post #1 of 6 (permalink) Old 12-26-2008, 12:48 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy Another Christmas, no friends, no family

Another Christmas goes by for me with no friends or family to celebrate with. I have no friends, and no family. Today I spent Christmas at work since I have nothing better to do.

I grew up without a father and with a mother who constantly abused me. My mother had a severe hatred toward my father due to the things he supposedly did to her. As I grew up and started looking more like my father, she took that anger out on me (every day). To tell you the truth, I didn't even realize what she did would be considered abuse until after she passed away. I figured what she did was normal since I saw other kids being spanked by their parents, I figured my mother was just being a bit harsher. I now realize what she did would definitely be considered child abuse (some acts would probably even be considered sodomy or sexual abuse). Her constant neglect and abuse of me while growing up has caused me to have social anxiety problems (so says my therapist).

For me, the highlight of my day was getting paid extra for working Christmas. I am so confused and I don't know what to do with my life. I don't want to spend the rest of my Christmases like this. I'm glad I found this social anxiety support website since I really need some support!
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post #2 of 6 (permalink) Old 12-26-2008, 12:57 AM
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Sorry to hear things are so rough for you, I hope this site can be of some help.

Even if our scars donít match thereís no wrong you canít make better if you can figure out a way to change your mind.
And sure thereís things I regret not doing or doing.
Those thoughts climb my spine like spiders, and then Iím really the stranger in my own bed, and that ball of nervous gets pushed into every crack.
Thatís whatís holding the bricks together.

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try to make friends at work or change your work..u deserve better and u can have it 1 day.
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Don't feel too bad. You're not the only one alone.

I've lost control again.
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Not only was I alone but Santa forgot to pass by my house....the *******!

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It's the government's way of trying to protect you from protecting yourself.
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post #6 of 6 (permalink) Old 12-26-2008, 03:53 PM
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I know what youre going through because I went through it too. My parents were too concerned with their crack and beating on each other than they were with me. So many ruined christmas'. It's no joking matter. It can change the way you see everything forever. I would tell you some garbage about me hoping you will feel better but you won't. That's reality. We can suffer together though.
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