Social Anxiety Support

JMX · 10-12-2009, 09:43 PM

Go to the bars and hit on every girl I see.

Torque · 10-22-2009, 06:50 AM

I'd go back to college and get myself some qualifications, go on dates with women, talk to more people, make new friends and hopefully have the time of my life.

leonardess · 10-22-2009, 06:53 AM

I'd be at the dock, waiting for the fleet to come in.

Only joking. I'd be telling everyone off.

metalgirl · 10-27-2009, 08:55 PM

this might sound horrible, but i'm gonna say it anyway...
i'd probably leave my boyfriend of 2yrs.
don't get me wrong, i do love him so much... but i dont feel we're perfect for eachother. as much as i care about him, i know i'm not completely satisfied in our relationship. sometimes i think the only reason i've stuck around is because its been so long... and because i enjoy having such a close companionship with someone... and because he is the first bf i've ever had and i think i'm afraid to be alone and afraid that because of my SA i might not find another guy that i can learn to be comfortable with before he gets bored of my nervous, quiet behavior.
i wish i could break free and be confident on my own!

Breakfast0fChampions · 10-27-2009, 10:43 PM

I'd write, and write, and write,
and get published, and published, and published.

Because I wouldn't have such horrible perfectionism or be afraid of rejection anymore.

Quote:

Originally Posted by metalgirl

this might sound horrible, but i'm gonna say it anyway...
i'd probably leave my boyfriend of 2yrs.
don't get me wrong, i do love him so much... but i dont feel we're perfect for eachother. as much as i care about him, i know i'm not completely satisfied in our relationship. sometimes i think the only reason i've stuck around is because its been so long... and because i enjoy having such a close companionship with someone... and because he is the first bf i've ever had and i think i'm afraid to be alone and afraid that because of my SA i might not find another guy that i can learn to be comfortable with before he gets bored of my nervous, quiet behavior.
i wish i could break free and be confident on my own!

This was me a little over a year ago. Believe me, end the relationship. It will be hard, it will hurt, but it will be worth it. Especially if you start getting help for your SA at the same time.

LStambaugh85 · 10-28-2009, 01:51 PM

Finish my degree and join a dance class.

ch3cooh · 10-28-2009, 03:12 PM

Go back to the swing dance classes I was taking (I loved learning the moves and drilling them until I had them just so, then social dancing would start and I would fall into myself anytime I tried to ask a lady to dance)

Take an MMA fight (at this point I'm not scared of the fight itself, I've had the **** kicked out of me, it's telling my coach I want to do it, being the center of attention for 6+ weeks and then performing in front of a couple hundred people)

Compete again in BJJ (competed twice on the local and regional level, want to move up to the IBBJF level at next years Pans and Mundials, been almost a year since I last competed and that was at the white belt level, now a blue belt who is scared ****less of what people might say if I didn't perform like I do in the gym)

Change my haircut

Call my friends and ask them to do things

Get laid (hopefully)

Not need alcohol to be social

Keith · 10-28-2009, 03:23 PM

join a band and play some gigs
travel
go to more events where there's tons of people like sporting events and concerts
go on more dates
talk to strangers more especially good looking ladies
go to school without worry of being overwhelmed
probably some other stuff too.

Maaila · 11-02-2009, 02:14 AM

go to new places alone
go to the hairdressers (its been a while)
go to dancing lessons
go to meet up groups
try a lot, lot harder to find a job

I guess I know what I have to do...

Makaveli · 11-02-2009, 02:28 AM

I'd be pretty freakin awesome and love life every single day. Without inhibitions I'd be living life and just going for it. Probably be running through alot of fine females (lol) and just living for the moment.

Believe me on this.

chunkylover53 · 11-02-2009, 02:36 AM

Move to London or maybe Hong Kong. Make friends. Be successful. Find a sugar daddy.

Prakas · 11-02-2009, 03:17 AM

Join the army for 20 years atleast, and either continue or retire.

rustyshackleford · 11-08-2009, 08:10 PM

I'd probably try to make lots of new friends, and get out more in general. I would flirt a lot more and hopefully have some type of a relationship.

Quote:

Originally Posted by metalgirl

this might sound horrible, but i'm gonna say it anyway...
i'd probably leave my boyfriend of 2yrs.
don't get me wrong, i do love him so much... but i dont feel we're perfect for eachother. as much as i care about him, i know i'm not completely satisfied in our relationship. sometimes i think the only reason i've stuck around is because its been so long... and because i enjoy having such a close companionship with someone... and because he is the first bf i've ever had and i think i'm afraid to be alone and afraid that because of my SA i might not find another guy that i can learn to be comfortable with before he gets bored of my nervous, quiet behavior.
i wish i could break free and be confident on my own!

I remember feeling like that. I would be angry when people would say that first relationships never work out, and that it's probably for the best. Now I believe it to be true, at least in my case. It's easy to get comfortable and not want to rock the boat, but if you're pretty sure it isn't working for you, I'd say you should consider ending it. Often these comfortable but unhappy relationships end up with someone cheating. That's what happened in my case, and it happened to a few other friends who were in similar situations.

rasberrykiwi · 11-16-2009, 08:05 PM

i would go to university for sure. i would have the guts to try out becoming an elementary teacher like i've always wanted to do or maybe i'd even attempt a degree in fine arts, something i've been secretly dreaming of recently..

i would also do volunteer work, because i often feel like it but never feel courageous enough

lastly, i would allow myself to joke around more with others. cuz sometimes my shyness makes me all serious but i'm not really like that at heart

MavenMI6Agent009 · 11-16-2009, 08:06 PM

finish my education

Steve123 · 11-16-2009, 10:56 PM

Date (obviously with sex involved

) have a friend or two who live in the same town as me. Be able to give presentations and participate in seminars without having a stroke. You know, stuff like that.

Half Asleep · 11-17-2009, 04:30 AM

I'd accost people in the street and ask them philosophical questions.

X JO · 11-17-2009, 05:52 AM

Go to glastonbury (:

10-28-2009, 03:23 PM	#28 (permalink)
Keith Status: available for download... Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Lowell, Massachusetts Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 843	join a band and play some gigs travel go to more events where there's tons of people like sporting events and concerts go on more dates talk to strangers more especially good looking ladies go to school without worry of being overwhelmed probably some other stuff too. __________________ "Difficulties are things that show a person what they are" -Epictetus "Its always darkest before the dawn" -? "If your going through hell, keep going" -Winston Churchill

11-02-2009, 02:14 AM	#29 (permalink)
Maaila Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Netherlands Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 7	go to new places alone go to the hairdressers (its been a while) go to dancing lessons go to meet up groups try a lot, lot harder to find a job I guess I know what I have to do...

11-16-2009, 08:06 PM	#35 (permalink)
MavenMI6Agent009 Status: Cook Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: EL Crapo, Tx Gender: Male Posts: 13,657	finish my education __________________ "The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares." (Henri Nouwen) -------------------------------------------------------

10-12-2009, 09:43 PM	#21 (permalink)
JMX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 299	Go to the bars and hit on every girl I see.

10-22-2009, 06:50 AM	#22 (permalink)
Torque Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Liverpool, England Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 35	I'd go back to college and get myself some qualifications, go on dates with women, talk to more people, make new friends and hopefully have the time of my life.

10-22-2009, 06:53 AM	#23 (permalink)
leonardess Status: wheresthefire?inmyeye! Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: WILL you people please leave me alone?I'm supposed to be working lol Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 1,231	I'd be at the dock, waiting for the fleet to come in. Only joking. I'd be telling everyone off.

10-27-2009, 08:55 PM	#24 (permalink)
metalgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 3	this might sound horrible, but i'm gonna say it anyway... i'd probably leave my boyfriend of 2yrs. don't get me wrong, i do love him so much... but i dont feel we're perfect for eachother. as much as i care about him, i know i'm not completely satisfied in our relationship. sometimes i think the only reason i've stuck around is because its been so long... and because i enjoy having such a close companionship with someone... and because he is the first bf i've ever had and i think i'm afraid to be alone and afraid that because of my SA i might not find another guy that i can learn to be comfortable with before he gets bored of my nervous, quiet behavior. i wish i could break free and be confident on my own!

10-28-2009, 01:51 PM	#26 (permalink)
LStambaugh85 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: CA Gender: Female Posts: 26	Finish my degree and join a dance class.

10-28-2009, 03:12 PM	#27 (permalink)
ch3cooh Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Oklahoma...OK! Gender: Male Posts: 55	Go back to the swing dance classes I was taking (I loved learning the moves and drilling them until I had them just so, then social dancing would start and I would fall into myself anytime I tried to ask a lady to dance) Take an MMA fight (at this point I'm not scared of the fight itself, I've had the ** kicked out of me, it's telling my coach I want to do it, being the center of attention for 6+ weeks and then performing in front of a couple hundred people) Compete again in BJJ (competed twice on the local and regional level, want to move up to the IBBJF level at next years Pans and Mundials, been almost a year since I last competed and that was at the white belt level, now a blue belt who is scared **less of what people might say if I didn't perform like I do in the gym) Change my haircut Call my friends and ask them to do things Get laid (hopefully) Not need alcohol to be social

11-02-2009, 02:28 AM	#30 (permalink)
Makaveli Status: consistently inconsistent Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Sydney, Australia. Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 183	I'd be pretty freakin awesome and love life every single day. Without inhibitions I'd be living life and just going for it. Probably be running through alot of fine females (lol) and just living for the moment. Believe me on this.

11-02-2009, 02:36 AM	#31 (permalink)
chunkylover53 Status: Marvellous. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Sydney Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 146	Move to London or maybe Hong Kong. Make friends. Be successful. Find a sugar daddy.

11-02-2009, 03:17 AM	#32 (permalink)
Prakas Status: Failure - Life Sucks Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Delaware Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 434	Join the army for 20 years atleast, and either continue or retire.

11-16-2009, 08:05 PM	#34 (permalink)
rasberrykiwi Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Montreal Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 35	i would go to university for sure. i would have the guts to try out becoming an elementary teacher like i've always wanted to do or maybe i'd even attempt a degree in fine arts, something i've been secretly dreaming of recently.. i would also do volunteer work, because i often feel like it but never feel courageous enough lastly, i would allow myself to joke around more with others. cuz sometimes my shyness makes me all serious but i'm not really like that at heart

11-16-2009, 10:56 PM	#36 (permalink)
Steve123 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 64	Date (obviously with sex involved ) have a friend or two who live in the same town as me. Be able to give presentations and participate in seminars without having a stroke. You know, stuff like that.

11-17-2009, 04:30 AM	#37 (permalink)
Half Asleep Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: England Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 18	I'd accost people in the street and ask them philosophical questions.

11-17-2009, 05:52 AM	#38 (permalink)
X JO Status: X-JO Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rotherham, UK Gender: Female Age: 16 Posts: 12	Go to glastonbury (: