Social Anxiety Support

dawnoldduckk · 11-05-2009, 11:10 AM

for example my creativity is a great way of expressing myself, without my camera i dont know where i'd be.another thing would be my great appreciation for everything around me... what are you thankful for.. whats something you have because of your anxiety that not alot of other people do?

Sierra83 · 11-05-2009, 01:22 PM

Whenever my anxiety isn't too severe, I like to reinterpret it as excitement or enthusiasm.

Haydsmom2007 · 11-05-2009, 01:25 PM

I'm very easy going and low maintenence. I don't have a thing for drama like a lot of girls do. My boyfriend loves this about me because some of his past girlfriends were always trying to start an argument or cause drama somehow. I think my SA makes me appreciate things more. I appreciate my best friends more, my boyfriend.. I try to always remind him that I love him and that I appreciate him..... I personally like the fact that I'm not always talking. I like how I don't always feel the need to be jabbering about something. I like comfortable silences.

rasberrykiwi · 11-16-2009, 08:19 PM

some people in my life have told me i'm a good listener and if it is true, I think it might be partly due to my sa. maybe since i hardly talk at all, it allowed me to learn to listen well

but also, maybe the suffering sa has given me allows me to empathize easier with other people's suffering than if i had a more easy, carefree life, i dunno.

Steve123 · 11-16-2009, 10:58 PM

As silly as it sounds... I may have dodged a few stds.

Vior · 11-18-2009, 02:30 PM

I tend to appreciate little acts of nature more, like the sun peaking through a fence.

Wehttam · 11-18-2009, 02:32 PM

my introspectiveness and ability of deep creative writing =)...plus all the free time to do it lol

ch3cooh · 11-18-2009, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Steve123

As silly as it sounds... I may have dodged a few stds.

Never had a pregnancy scare like a lot of guys I know! ^5

Miwo · 11-18-2009, 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by rasberrykiwi

some people in my life have told me i'm a good listener and if it is true, I think it might be partly due to my sa. maybe since i hardly talk at all, it allowed me to learn to listen well

but also, maybe the suffering sa has given me allows me to empathize easier with other people's suffering than if i had a more easy, carefree life, i dunno.

Took this right out of my mouth. I too always get complemented on being a good listener, and its probably because I don't really talk that much.

I also seem to have a knack for remembering random bits of info from conversations with people. Funny that I can remember things about other people better than I can than about myself

CrashMedicate · Yesterday, 02:09 PM

My SA leaves a huge void in my life where a social life should be. I fill that void with working out every day, staying in shape, and constantly working towards new fitness goals. Thanks to SA I'm in pretty good shape and good health as well.

stars · Yesterday, 07:02 PM

I can read people very well. Due to my many years of observing people. I'm sure that's a thing a lot of people with SA can do. I have a mind of my own instead of following like sheep..

My911GT2993 · Today, 05:25 AM

Think I know more than I would if I'd lived life without it. Being indoors so long I thought well I might as well learn something, so started reading, watching the odd educational program on TV (when they're ever on). Also im more philisophical about life sometimes, like the post up there, I can appreciate the sun coming through the clouds, the small things.

solitarian · Today, 09:23 AM

I'll echo some of what others have said. My social anxiety has caused me to be deeply introspective, and I have become aware of things that most other people miss out on. I've dedicated much of my time to reading books, mainly non-fiction and philosophy. I also enjoy embarking on solo wilderness adventures. Nature is the place I go to find my sanity, and I have connected with the natural world in a more profound way than most people because I am not encumbered by all of the attachments of society. In a way, I suppose that my social anxiety has been a "blessing." However, that doesn't eliminate the discomfort or loneliness that I often feel.

odd_one_out · Today, 09:28 AM

My obsessive perseverance.

steelmyhead · Today, 09:57 AM

I probably wouldn't have picked up the piano again, had I other things to do.

Siick · Today, 10:06 AM

If I didn't have a social anxiety problem, I would have never met her...and that would be a real shame.

Miss Meggie · Today, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Siick

If I didn't have a social anxiety problem, I would have never met her...and that would be a real shame.

Same here.
I met my boyfriend because he noticed that I was walking alone on the tour of campus the first night, and so he came over to walk with me.
We've been together for almost 2 years, and he keeps helping me work toward overcoming my social anxiety and depression. Even when I'm mean and angry with him...

Siick · Today, 11:42 AM

^I hope to have a similar story...without the part about being mean and angry with him(her, in my case lol).

Miss Meggie · Today, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Siick

^I hope to have a similar story...without the part about being mean and angry with him(her, in my case lol).

Well, I'm only mean and angry when I'm really depressed or nervous. I'm not always mean to him, so please don't get the wrong impression!

Siick · Today, 02:52 PM

I didn't, don't worry haha.
I'm kinda the same way when I am in a relationship, but instead of being mean/angry, I just get really dumb and paranoid. I'm glad your boyfriend understands, that's really nice of him.

Oh, and I also think having social anxiety has allowed me to develop a different outlook on life than most people. I'm not a money-hungry, status-seeking greedy person. I don't care about any of that. I have one interest in life. It's called "doing whatever feels most comfortable." I don't think I'd have that attitude if I wasn't able to spend so much time with my thoughts and nothing more. I think I have it right and society has it wrong. Do whatever you want.

11-05-2009, 11:10 AM	#1 (permalink)
dawnoldduckk Status: Dawnmarie Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New hampshire Gender: Female Posts: 9	what came good out of your anxiety for example my creativity is a great way of expressing myself, without my camera i dont know where i'd be.another thing would be my great appreciation for everything around me... what are you thankful for.. whats something you have because of your anxiety that not alot of other people do?

11-05-2009, 01:22 PM	#2 (permalink)
Sierra83 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: London, ON, Canada Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 1,832	Whenever my anxiety isn't too severe, I like to reinterpret it as excitement or enthusiasm. __________________ "Believe that life can change That you're not stuck in vain" -- The Smashing Pumpkins, "Tonight, Tonight"

11-18-2009, 02:32 PM	#7 (permalink)
Wehttam Status: Anxienty Free In 2083 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 60	my introspectiveness and ability of deep creative writing =)...plus all the free time to do it lol __________________ MySpace \|FaceBook\|Twitter\|Blog

Yesterday, 02:09 PM	#10 (permalink)
CrashMedicate Status: Racing through life Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Riiiight here. Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 205	My SA leaves a huge void in my life where a social life should be. I fill that void with working out every day, staying in shape, and constantly working towards new fitness goals. Thanks to SA I'm in pretty good shape and good health as well. __________________ A man has to have goals. A man without goals is like a car without steering. You're going to crash.

Today, 09:57 AM	#15 (permalink)
steelmyhead Status: mostly harmless Join Date: May 2009 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 636	I probably wouldn't have picked up the piano again, had I other things to do. __________________ The trick is to experience, not anticipate.

11-05-2009, 01:25 PM	#3 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	I'm very easy going and low maintenence. I don't have a thing for drama like a lot of girls do. My boyfriend loves this about me because some of his past girlfriends were always trying to start an argument or cause drama somehow. I think my SA makes me appreciate things more. I appreciate my best friends more, my boyfriend.. I try to always remind him that I love him and that I appreciate him..... I personally like the fact that I'm not always talking. I like how I don't always feel the need to be jabbering about something. I like comfortable silences.

11-16-2009, 08:19 PM	#4 (permalink)
rasberrykiwi Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Montreal Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 32	some people in my life have told me i'm a good listener and if it is true, I think it might be partly due to my sa. maybe since i hardly talk at all, it allowed me to learn to listen well but also, maybe the suffering sa has given me allows me to empathize easier with other people's suffering than if i had a more easy, carefree life, i dunno.

11-16-2009, 10:58 PM	#5 (permalink)
Steve123 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 55	As silly as it sounds... I may have dodged a few stds.

11-18-2009, 02:30 PM	#6 (permalink)
Vior Status: The Long Way Home Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Washington Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 17	I tend to appreciate little acts of nature more, like the sun peaking through a fence.

Yesterday, 07:02 PM	#11 (permalink)
stars Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 4	I can read people very well. Due to my many years of observing people. I'm sure that's a thing a lot of people with SA can do. I have a mind of my own instead of following like sheep..

Today, 05:25 AM	#12 (permalink)
My911GT2993 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: UK Age: 23 Posts: 192	Think I know more than I would if I'd lived life without it. Being indoors so long I thought well I might as well learn something, so started reading, watching the odd educational program on TV (when they're ever on). Also im more philisophical about life sometimes, like the post up there, I can appreciate the sun coming through the clouds, the small things.

Today, 09:23 AM	#13 (permalink)
solitarian Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: West Virginia Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 15	I'll echo some of what others have said. My social anxiety has caused me to be deeply introspective, and I have become aware of things that most other people miss out on. I've dedicated much of my time to reading books, mainly non-fiction and philosophy. I also enjoy embarking on solo wilderness adventures. Nature is the place I go to find my sanity, and I have connected with the natural world in a more profound way than most people because I am not encumbered by all of the attachments of society. In a way, I suppose that my social anxiety has been a "blessing." However, that doesn't eliminate the discomfort or loneliness that I often feel.

Today, 09:28 AM	#14 (permalink)
odd_one_out Status: Active-but-odd Join Date: Aug 2006 Age: 32 Posts: 1,207	My obsessive perseverance.

Today, 10:06 AM	#16 (permalink)
Siick Status: Previously Banned Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 44	If I didn't have a social anxiety problem, I would have never met her...and that would be a real shame.

Today, 11:42 AM	#18 (permalink)
Siick Status: Previously Banned Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 44	^I hope to have a similar story...without the part about being mean and angry with him(her, in my case lol).

Today, 02:52 PM	#20 (permalink)
Siick Status: Previously Banned Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 44	I didn't, don't worry haha. I'm kinda the same way when I am in a relationship, but instead of being mean/angry, I just get really dumb and paranoid. I'm glad your boyfriend understands, that's really nice of him. Oh, and I also think having social anxiety has allowed me to develop a different outlook on life than most people. I'm not a money-hungry, status-seeking greedy person. I don't care about any of that. I have one interest in life. It's called "doing whatever feels most comfortable." I don't think I'd have that attitude if I wasn't able to spend so much time with my thoughts and nothing more. I think I have it right and society has it wrong. Do whatever you want.