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scriabin221 · 03-21-2012, 12:30 AM

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-compassion

I've recently (IE a couple months ago) discovered this concept. I just think it's a really great idea. And why not? Treating yourself as you would treat someone else. You don't have to worry about setting standards for yourself, getting down on yourself during failures, whatnot. Don't worry about what you think of yourself, just be nice to yourself.

We always seem to confuse feeling good about ourselves with feeling superior to others. **** that ****.

A lot easier said than done, but I've been trying this. It works a little bit. It's really easy to forget though. Especially in a good moment when I feel narcissistic. Or in a moment when something touches on my insecurities. I always want to feel superior to people I know, especially the ones who are dicks. It's a struggle. But I'm working on it.

daphnis · 03-26-2012, 11:27 PM

Self-compassion is a neat idea. I like it! After focusing on the concepts about failure in psychology ( self-fulfilling prophecies, negativity bias, maladaptive behavior, etc. ), this is a refresher.

I do notice that I extend compassion towards others, but never myself... how strange we can be!

JenN2791 · 03-28-2012, 01:42 PM

This really does make sense though. I find myself not judging others for tiny things, but I judge myself and criticize myself insanely, treating myself in ways that I would never treat another person...

Self-compassion is pretty much a whole new way to look at things for the most part, so I'll be diving into this. Like the OP said, it can be tough, I can imagine. I've been cruel towards myself for so long that criticizing myself comes so naturally. But I'll surely dive into this concept now, and work at it.

Thanks for sharing

VC132 · 04-03-2012, 11:24 PM

like.

iluvpurpleandpugs · 04-07-2012, 01:19 PM

Nice idea, but its sometimes hard to be nice to a person I also loathe at times...

Lasair · 04-08-2012, 03:30 PM

Mmm...I am going to try keep this in mind

03-21-2012, 12:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
scriabin221 Status: Custom User Title Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: The United States of America Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 651	Self compassion http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-compassion I've recently (IE a couple months ago) discovered this concept. I just think it's a really great idea. And why not? Treating yourself as you would treat someone else. You don't have to worry about setting standards for yourself, getting down on yourself during failures, whatnot. Don't worry about what you think of yourself, just be nice to yourself. We always seem to confuse feeling good about ourselves with feeling superior to others. ** that **. A lot easier said than done, but I've been trying this. It works a little bit. It's really easy to forget though. Especially in a good moment when I feel narcissistic. Or in a moment when something touches on my insecurities. I always want to feel superior to people I know, especially the ones who are dicks. It's a struggle. But I'm working on it.

03-26-2012, 11:27 PM	#2 (permalink)
daphnis Status: Ms. Insomniac Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: California, USA Gender: Female Posts: 30	Self-compassion is a neat idea. I like it! After focusing on the concepts about failure in psychology ( self-fulfilling prophecies, negativity bias, maladaptive behavior, etc. ), this is a refresher. I do notice that I extend compassion towards others, but never myself... how strange we can be! __________________ "If you can't sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It's the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep." - Dale Carnegie

04-07-2012, 01:19 PM	#5 (permalink)
iluvpurpleandpugs Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Somewhere on Planet Earth Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 234	Nice idea, but its sometimes hard to be nice to a person I also loathe at times... __________________ “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present.”

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03-28-2012, 01:42 PM	#3 (permalink)
JenN2791 Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Aug 2011 Gender: Female Posts: 2,958	This really does make sense though. I find myself not judging others for tiny things, but I judge myself and criticize myself insanely, treating myself in ways that I would never treat another person... Self-compassion is pretty much a whole new way to look at things for the most part, so I'll be diving into this. Like the OP said, it can be tough, I can imagine. I've been cruel towards myself for so long that criticizing myself comes so naturally. But I'll surely dive into this concept now, and work at it. Thanks for sharing

04-03-2012, 11:24 PM	#4 (permalink)
VC132 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Detroit, MI Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 741	like.

04-08-2012, 03:30 PM	#6 (permalink)
Lasair Status: User Requested Temporary Ban Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Ireland Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 7,255	Mmm...I am going to try keep this in mind