Social Anxiety Support

forever_dreamer · 10-24-2009, 04:01 PM

I'm trying to resist the urge. I don't want to rely on it. I know it's bad and I don't do it too often but I really need it

ecotec83 · 10-24-2009, 04:11 PM

Try to resist the urge your stronger than you think. You may feel better after a few drinks but being a depressant you will feel worse afterwards.

Neptunus · 10-24-2009, 04:14 PM

Meh, if it's only occasionally, then why not? I find having a few drinks every now and then is a nice way to blow off some steam. Don't see why there's such a stigma attached to alcohol.

ETA- If you're hesitating because you feel it might develop into a "problem" - like you might lose control - then that's different.

toffee · 10-24-2009, 04:33 PM

alcohol is okay in small doses.. just don't overdo it. when i go to any party i always have alcohol, it helps alot.. makes me more relaxed. when i'm feeling down i light some candles and listen to some nice music, it helps alot

ecotec83 · 10-24-2009, 04:35 PM

I agree that if it is in moderation it is ok to indulge once in a while. As long as your not drinking till you pass or something.

sublimit · 10-24-2009, 04:52 PM

I know the feeling.

I haven't been drinking anything in the last little while, even though I crave the effects of alcohol sometimes (or a lot of the time). I think the main reason I've been refraining is because I actually want to get better and overcome my SA; I don't want to rely and fall back on booze and pills because that doesn't help anything. I'm also a health nut so booze doesn't really fit in with that.

ntl · 10-24-2009, 06:39 PM

I know how you feel I usually keep some beer in the fridge for those occasions but recently I've been over indulging. I have realized that while it does bring temporary release from the negative thoughts they usually just come back twice as strong the next morning.

So I have stopped buying beer so I won't be tempted. I will see how long I can last.

forever_dreamer · 10-25-2009, 12:01 PM

I kinda overindulge sometimes but not always. I don't really wanna be an alcoholic. That's not the way I wanna go at all. Anyway thanks everyone. I'm doing a little better now.

Phoenix87 · 10-25-2009, 01:36 PM

I've stayed away from alcohol for most of my life because I have a problem with addictions. Last week was the first time I REALLY started to drink and I did it for every day, mostly because I was bored and feeling down.

Today is the first day I haven't and the urge is getting to me. Above all else, I have a huge weakness for Marijuana. I want it, always... Ever since I quit my two year addiction. I need it, I want it, I have to stay away from it.

millenniumman75 · 10-25-2009, 04:33 PM

If there is vulnerability to this kind of thing, do not indulge at all. Redirect the thoughts onto something that would be more productive.

John_in_SF · 10-25-2009, 04:59 PM

Exemplia gratis???

Good advice, but too vague to be of use to a depressed person with an over-the-counter and dangerous "antidepressant" at hand.

I would rather ask forever_dreamer what she really needs and is not getting.

10-24-2009, 04:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
forever_dreamer Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Dreamland ; ) Gender: Female Posts: 291	Very depressed...need a drink I'm trying to resist the urge. I don't want to rely on it. I know it's bad and I don't do it too often but I really need it __________________ "The purpose of life is for you to grow up into the best human being you can be." -Barbara De Angelis, Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know "When my eyes are closed, dreams and reality are the same"-Utada Hikaru "In my room" excerpt (English translation)

10-24-2009, 04:11 PM	#2 (permalink)
ecotec83 Status: Ascending from the dark Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Belleville, Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 367	Try to resist the urge your stronger than you think. You may feel better after a few drinks but being a depressant you will feel worse afterwards. __________________ ~Our greatest battles are those with our own mind.~

10-24-2009, 04:14 PM	#3 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Authenticating Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 2,840	Meh, if it's only occasionally, then why not? I find having a few drinks every now and then is a nice way to blow off some steam. Don't see why there's such a stigma attached to alcohol. ETA- If you're hesitating because you feel it might develop into a "problem" - like you might lose control - then that's different. __________________ "When I stand before thee at the day's end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing." ~Rabindranath Tagore "Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up. We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on." ---Sean Covey

10-24-2009, 04:33 PM	#4 (permalink)
toffee Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 181	alcohol is okay in small doses.. just don't overdo it. when i go to any party i always have alcohol, it helps alot.. makes me more relaxed. when i'm feeling down i light some candles and listen to some nice music, it helps alot __________________ Everywhere i look, you're all i see.. just a fading ****ing reminder of who i used to be.

10-24-2009, 04:35 PM	#5 (permalink)
ecotec83 Status: Ascending from the dark Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Belleville, Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 367	I agree that if it is in moderation it is ok to indulge once in a while. As long as your not drinking till you pass or something. __________________ ~Our greatest battles are those with our own mind.~

10-24-2009, 04:52 PM	#6 (permalink)
sublimit Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Toronto, Canada Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 112	I know the feeling. I haven't been drinking anything in the last little while, even though I crave the effects of alcohol sometimes (or a lot of the time). I think the main reason I've been refraining is because I actually want to get better and overcome my SA; I don't want to rely and fall back on booze and pills because that doesn't help anything. I'm also a health nut so booze doesn't really fit in with that. __________________ "I'm a woman delighted with her disasters. They give me something to do. A profession of sorts. Keeps me industrious. And of some servicable use." -Sandra Cisneros

10-24-2009, 06:39 PM	#7 (permalink)
ntl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 109	I know how you feel I usually keep some beer in the fridge for those occasions but recently I've been over indulging. I have realized that while it does bring temporary release from the negative thoughts they usually just come back twice as strong the next morning. So I have stopped buying beer so I won't be tempted. I will see how long I can last.

10-25-2009, 12:01 PM	#8 (permalink)
forever_dreamer Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Dreamland ; ) Gender: Female Posts: 291	I kinda overindulge sometimes but not always. I don't really wanna be an alcoholic. That's not the way I wanna go at all. Anyway thanks everyone. I'm doing a little better now. __________________ "The purpose of life is for you to grow up into the best human being you can be." -Barbara De Angelis, Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know "When my eyes are closed, dreams and reality are the same"-Utada Hikaru "In my room" excerpt (English translation)

10-25-2009, 01:36 PM	#9 (permalink)
Phoenix87 Status: King of the Phoenix Realm Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 260	I've stayed away from alcohol for most of my life because I have a problem with addictions. Last week was the first time I REALLY started to drink and I did it for every day, mostly because I was bored and feeling down. Today is the first day I haven't and the urge is getting to me. Above all else, I have a huge weakness for Marijuana. I want it, always... Ever since I quit my two year addiction. I need it, I want it, I have to stay away from it. __________________ I intend to live forever. So far, so good. When in doubt, mumble. I Fuking Love to Cuddle! You can't have Manslaughter, without 'laughter.' Don't bother me... I'm wasting potential! FACEBOOK*

10-25-2009, 04:33 PM	#10 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,655	If there is vulnerability to this kind of thing, do not indulge at all. Redirect the thoughts onto something that would be more productive. __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

10-25-2009, 04:59 PM	#11 (permalink)
John_in_SF Status: Good grief Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: San Francisco, California Gender: Male Posts: 261	Exemplia gratis??? Good advice, but too vague to be of use to a depressed person with an over-the-counter and dangerous "antidepressant" at hand. I would rather ask forever_dreamer what she really needs and is not getting.