Social Anxiety Support

helpless · 10-19-2009, 03:07 PM

Thanks for telling me, Phoebus.

I also have some baby shampoo which is supposed to be very mild, which I might try.

helpless · 10-22-2009, 03:47 PM

Well, it's probably going into two weeks since my last shower.

People have been commenting to me on my getting a hair cut, tho, and I'm glad they have.

They seem to think I look better without the Hermit looking hair style.

The beard is growing back, tho, and, again, the idea of putting a razor on my face is so repugnant...

Delicate · 10-22-2009, 04:48 PM

I know how you feel the last few days I felt sick to my stomach at having anything touch me

wxolue · 10-22-2009, 08:42 PM

When I go for a while without taking a shower my hair ends up the same way. Flakey and disgusting. Keep doing it every day for at least 5 days and you will start to see the flakes go away, if not vanish all together. Taking 1 shower after 3 weeks of nothing will not turn you into a super model. You have to work on it for at least a week before it starts turning around. Keep at it. Shave every day if you can. Use acne cream if you have acne (not sure how old you are). Staying well groomed can really boost your confidence.

helpless · 10-23-2009, 02:38 PM

Many thanks for all the sympathetic responses, everyone!

millenniumman75 · 10-23-2009, 03:10 PM

Keep trying. It is hard to develop a habit - most of the time, we want to get away from one.

Neptunus · 10-23-2009, 04:29 PM

Little by little...

helpless · 10-25-2009, 02:29 PM

Well, I showered again yesterday, but didn't use shampoo. I've got to shave again, so maybe I'll shave, shower & shampoo today or tomorrow.

millenniumman75 · 10-25-2009, 04:18 PM

Good goal to make

.
Are you able to use moisturizer?

helpless · 10-27-2009, 03:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by helpless

Well, I showered again yesterday, but didn't use shampoo. I've got to shave again, so maybe I'll shave, shower & shampoo today or tomorrow.

Thanks for the reply, millenniumman.

As far as I know, there's no reason I can't use a moisturizer.

Do you mean one that would be combined with a shampoo, or one that would be applied seperately?

Can we mention brand names on this board?

I would like to know specifically which moisturizers might be beneficial to me.

Keith · 10-27-2009, 03:40 PM

Good job so far, keep trying

It can be tough to get motivated It'll get easier though.

helpless · 10-27-2009, 03:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Keith

Good job so far, keep trying

It can be tough to get motivated It'll get easier though.

Thanks for the supportive words, Keith.

Still haven't shaved off the 2 weeks of beard, but will probably do so soon, since I need an ID photo.

millenniumman75 · 10-27-2009, 09:41 PM

I think a non-allergenic moisturizer for the skin.
You are on the right track now.
As for the beard, do you have an electric razor to trim the beard before shaving it off? The regular razor will clog with hair too easily.

Also, do you shave right after you shower? The skin is softened and the hair relaxed and is easier to shave.

Bouffon · 10-27-2009, 10:15 PM

Dry + oily skin for me=extreme case of dandruff, tried tar shampoo, selsun blue, and regular head and shoulders, none of these worked. I used to scratch my head compulsively then I would look at my fingers and would have huge flakes on my finger tips, along with some blood... Tried head and shoulders intensive (selenium sulfide) and within two weeks the dandruff was gone. I now shampoo with it once every two weeks. Try to keep your hair short if you are prone to developing dandruff problems.

SAgirl · 10-27-2009, 10:19 PM

I know what it feels like to give up and not take care of yourself. I have been there. Now, I make the effort to shower every second day. I ask myself when was the last time I showered. If you need shampoo for Dandruff try T-Gel 2 in 1. I have highly sensitive skin and this was great for me before. Shower, blow dry your hair, shave, put on deodorant, dress in a clean shirt, play your favourite music, start off the day waking up early and with a healthy breakfast. Just doing these things can make you feel better. Good Luck!

http://www.tgel.com/US/products/scalp-therapy.aspx

helpless · 10-28-2009, 03:37 PM

Many thanks for the responses, Bouffon & SAgirl.

I've never had any bleeding after scratching my scalp but have had flakes under my nails.

Today, I showered again, probably 5 days(?) since lastime.

Feeling of water on my body wasn't as repugnant.

In fact, as sweaty as I had been, I thot some water would feel good on my body.

Shampooed, using baby shampoo.

Still need to shave off 2 weeks of beard growth, tho, since I've got to conduct some business on my job in next 2 to 3 days, having to introduce myself to some new people.

Anyway, glad to know others have felt the same as I do, and understand.

helpless · 10-29-2009, 12:02 PM

Well, today, I shaved off that 2 weeks growth of beard.

Ready to conduct my business I'm trying to "look decent" to transact.

epril · 10-29-2009, 12:50 PM

I think dandruff shampoo has to be left in for a long time, 5-10 minutes?? for it to work.

stylicho · 10-29-2009, 01:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by helpless

Well, Folks, I went to the barber today, and got my hermit looking hair cut to a much shorter hairstyle.

Barber told me on the dandruff problem not to rub the dandruff shampoo into the scalp too hard, but just gently rub it it.

Said my scalp was very dry, and all that rubbing would only lead to more flaking.

Anyone think I should be using a scalp moisturizer?

Use tea tree oil shampoo.

millenniumman75 · 10-29-2009, 03:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by helpless

Well, today, I shaved off that 2 weeks growth of beard.

Ready to conduct my business I'm trying to "look decent" to transact.

Helpless,

That is truly awesome, man - you took the next step.

10-19-2009, 03:07 PM	#21 (permalink)
helpless Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 110	Thanks for telling me, Phoebus. I also have some baby shampoo which is supposed to be very mild, which I might try. __________________ Once An SA, Always an SA

10-22-2009, 03:47 PM	#22 (permalink)
helpless Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 110	Well, it's probably going into two weeks since my last shower. People have been commenting to me on my getting a hair cut, tho, and I'm glad they have. They seem to think I look better without the Hermit looking hair style. The beard is growing back, tho, and, again, the idea of putting a razor on my face is so repugnant... __________________ Once An SA, Always an SA

10-22-2009, 04:48 PM	#23 (permalink)
Delicate Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 756	I know how you feel the last few days I felt sick to my stomach at having anything touch me __________________ Safety Rule Update# Don't talk to strangers... unless you want to meet anyone ever. Demetri Martin

10-23-2009, 02:38 PM	#25 (permalink)
helpless Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 110	Many thanks for all the sympathetic responses, everyone! __________________ Once An SA, Always an SA

10-23-2009, 03:10 PM	#26 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,682	Keep trying. It is hard to develop a habit - most of the time, we want to get away from one. __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

10-22-2009, 08:42 PM	#24 (permalink)
wxolue Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 334	When I go for a while without taking a shower my hair ends up the same way. Flakey and disgusting. Keep doing it every day for at least 5 days and you will start to see the flakes go away, if not vanish all together. Taking 1 shower after 3 weeks of nothing will not turn you into a super model. You have to work on it for at least a week before it starts turning around. Keep at it. Shave every day if you can. Use acne cream if you have acne (not sure how old you are). Staying well groomed can really boost your confidence.

10-23-2009, 04:29 PM	#27 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Authenticating Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 2,845	Little by little... __________________ "When I stand before thee at the day's end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing." ~Rabindranath Tagore "Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up. We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on." ---Sean Covey

10-25-2009, 02:29 PM	#28 (permalink)
helpless Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 110	Well, I showered again yesterday, but didn't use shampoo. I've got to shave again, so maybe I'll shave, shower & shampoo today or tomorrow. __________________ Once An SA, Always an SA

10-25-2009, 04:18 PM	#29 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,682	Good goal to make . Are you able to use moisturizer? __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

10-27-2009, 03:40 PM	#31 (permalink)
Keith Status: available for download... Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Lowell, Massachusetts Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 843	Good job so far, keep trying It can be tough to get motivated It'll get easier though. __________________ "Difficulties are things that show a person what they are" -Epictetus "Its always darkest before the dawn" -? "If your going through hell, keep going" -Winston Churchill

10-27-2009, 09:41 PM	#33 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,682	I think a non-allergenic moisturizer for the skin. You are on the right track now. As for the beard, do you have an electric razor to trim the beard before shaving it off? The regular razor will clog with hair too easily. Also, do you shave right after you shower? The skin is softened and the hair relaxed and is easier to shave. __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

10-27-2009, 10:15 PM	#34 (permalink)
Bouffon Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 64	Dry + oily skin for me=extreme case of dandruff, tried tar shampoo, selsun blue, and regular head and shoulders, none of these worked. I used to scratch my head compulsively then I would look at my fingers and would have huge flakes on my finger tips, along with some blood... Tried head and shoulders intensive (selenium sulfide) and within two weeks the dandruff was gone. I now shampoo with it once every two weeks. Try to keep your hair short if you are prone to developing dandruff problems.

10-27-2009, 10:19 PM	#35 (permalink)
SAgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Northwestern Ontario, 20 hour drive from TO Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 3,037	I know what it feels like to give up and not take care of yourself. I have been there. Now, I make the effort to shower every second day. I ask myself when was the last time I showered. If you need shampoo for Dandruff try T-Gel 2 in 1. I have highly sensitive skin and this was great for me before. Shower, blow dry your hair, shave, put on deodorant, dress in a clean shirt, play your favourite music, start off the day waking up early and with a healthy breakfast. Just doing these things can make you feel better. Good Luck! http://www.tgel.com/US/products/scalp-therapy.aspx

10-28-2009, 03:37 PM	#36 (permalink)
helpless Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 110	Many thanks for the responses, Bouffon & SAgirl. I've never had any bleeding after scratching my scalp but have had flakes under my nails. Today, I showered again, probably 5 days(?) since lastime. Feeling of water on my body wasn't as repugnant. In fact, as sweaty as I had been, I thot some water would feel good on my body. Shampooed, using baby shampoo. Still need to shave off 2 weeks of beard growth, tho, since I've got to conduct some business on my job in next 2 to 3 days, having to introduce myself to some new people. Anyway, glad to know others have felt the same as I do, and understand. __________________ Once An SA, Always an SA

10-29-2009, 12:02 PM	#37 (permalink)
helpless Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 110	Well, today, I shaved off that 2 weeks growth of beard. Ready to conduct my business I'm trying to "look decent" to transact. __________________ Once An SA, Always an SA

10-29-2009, 12:50 PM	#38 (permalink)
epril Status: sa challenger Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: arizona Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 2,654	I think dandruff shampoo has to be left in for a long time, 5-10 minutes?? for it to work. __________________ "Nobody's ever asked me to a party before, as a friend! Is that why you dyed your eyebrow, for the party? Should I do mine, too?"