Social Anxiety Support

fma · 10-27-2009, 03:41 PM

Has anybody this kind of problems? Be unable to get an erection, or get an orgasm, or loose your drive....etc... when you suffer anxiety?

Cheer.

moxosis · 10-27-2009, 04:27 PM

I had that problem when I was on Remeron and anti-depressant drugs. For 6 years I had that problem, but it is ok now after I quit taking Remeron.

nubly · 10-27-2009, 04:35 PM

you on meds? they tend to kill your libido.

Your Crazy · 10-27-2009, 04:38 PM

Then I shall NEVER take meds. And to the OP, do you mean social anxiety or anxiety in general?

fma · 10-27-2009, 04:46 PM

What kill my libido is the anxiety. Anxiety of being with another person and not have a way of escape, I have to be myself... and myself has a big lack ot self confidence. When I'm with people in other situations, sometimes I don't feel good... but then it's like if I could put a mask on myself, and pretend to be self confident.

Cyberboy82 · 10-27-2009, 05:27 PM

I cant have sex with women without taking Viagra because I just get to nervous....I really hate my pos life.

fma · 10-27-2009, 05:31 PM

I've tried Cialis, but it doesn't work on me. The urologist told me that it's because viagra don't get me an erection if my mind is blocking excitement :S

Ash09 · 10-27-2009, 05:43 PM

When I'm very anxious I find it impossible to get an erection.

seanybhoy · 10-27-2009, 05:58 PM

Yer paxil makes climaxing near impossible, not always ideal cuz the OP tends to think their at fault.

fma · 10-27-2009, 06:02 PM

yes, everything works when I'm alone.

"I think you have to learn to loose yourself in the moment" <- yes, that's the key :P

What "OP" stands for?

Sorry seanybhoy, I cannot understand you message

seanybhoy · 10-27-2009, 06:07 PM

OP = Other person, yanno, yr partner etcetra.

nubly · 10-27-2009, 07:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by seanybhoy

OP = Other person, yanno, yr partner etcetra.

here OP means original poster. as in the first poster on a thread.

seanybhoy · 10-27-2009, 07:58 PM

Gotcha chief

Haydsmom2007 · 10-27-2009, 09:20 PM

meds aside, do you think anxiety can inhibite orgasm?? Because I've had trouble all my life... well I wouldn't really know, but all my life since I started masturbating lol, having orgasms. I know most women say that but I really have an extra hard time. Seriously. Maybe I should make a new post instead of replying to this one.

fma · 10-28-2009, 03:54 AM

Haydsmom2007 apparently yes, in the case of women the anxiety inhibite the orgasm, and in the case of men, erection and/or orgasm.

The sexual performance anxiety happens when you are with another person, when you're on your own ... works perfect, and that means that you're completely healthy physicaly

http://www.healthvideo.com/article.php?id=367

It seems like the solution is to find an understanding partner that help you out ... but that is not so easy... specially if you are single lol

jim_morrison · 10-28-2009, 05:22 AM

Yeah, with my ex girlfriend, no problems with erection or stamina, but I mostly had problems with reaching an orgasm, which usually ended up in us going at it for about an hour and then giving up most of the time lol.
I wasn't on any medication at the time btw.

fma · 10-28-2009, 05:32 AM

uffff... don't get me wrong, but it's nice to see that I'm not the only one with this problem in the world

semidetached · 10-28-2009, 06:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jim_morrison

usually ended up in us going at it for about an hour and then giving up most of the time lol.

Exact same problem here. I wasn't on meds either. What really helped was talking it through with her (about the anxiety) and luckily enough I was with someone understanding enough to listen without judging me. Apparently she had thought the issue was her (so my problems were actually causing her mental distress) and so me telling her this was a load off her mind. It also took a lot of pressure out of the situation, and I ended up being able to climax without first going through an hour of sex! lol

Good luck to you.

seanybhoy · 10-28-2009, 07:01 PM

I can climax by myself, just not with partners

I've only climaxed once in outta i dunno how many times with other people.

Paxil has a positive influence in other areas of my life though, so i don't really see my situation changing soon unfortunately.

gaz · 10-29-2009, 08:19 AM

It doesn't bother me because i have no girlfriend....I'm comfortably numb

10-27-2009, 03:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
fma Status: SPA Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Europe Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 53	Sexual disorders because anxiety Has anybody this kind of problems? Be unable to get an erection, or get an orgasm, or loose your drive....etc... when you suffer anxiety? Cheer. __________________ Fighting my anxiety -Blog

10-27-2009, 04:27 PM	#2 (permalink)
moxosis Status: Lone Wolf Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: ''' Gender: Male Posts: 137	I had that problem when I was on Remeron and anti-depressant drugs. For 6 years I had that problem, but it is ok now after I quit taking Remeron. __________________

10-27-2009, 04:38 PM	#4 (permalink)
Your Crazy Status: 007 Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: My Mind Gender: Male Posts: 300	Then I shall NEVER take meds. And to the OP, do you mean social anxiety or anxiety in general? __________________ "I believe whatever doesn't kill you simply makes you...stranger." - The Joker

10-27-2009, 04:46 PM	#5 (permalink)
fma Status: SPA Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Europe Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 53	What kill my libido is the anxiety. Anxiety of being with another person and not have a way of escape, I have to be myself... and myself has a big lack ot self confidence. When I'm with people in other situations, sometimes I don't feel good... but then it's like if I could put a mask on myself, and pretend to be self confident. __________________ Fighting my anxiety -Blog

10-27-2009, 05:27 PM	#6 (permalink)
Cyberboy82 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Toronto Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 107	I cant have sex with women without taking Viagra because I just get to nervous....I really hate my pos life. __________________ “Happy ending is just a story that didn't finish yet”

10-27-2009, 04:35 PM	#3 (permalink)
nubly Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: USA the greatest and best country in the world!! :) Posts: 7,065	you on meds? they tend to kill your libido.

10-27-2009, 05:31 PM	#7 (permalink)
fma Status: SPA Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Europe Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 53	I've tried Cialis, but it doesn't work on me. The urologist told me that it's because viagra don't get me an erection if my mind is blocking excitement :S __________________ Fighting my anxiety -Blog

10-27-2009, 05:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
Ash09 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: England Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 144	When I'm very anxious I find it impossible to get an erection.

10-27-2009, 05:58 PM	#9 (permalink)
seanybhoy Status: U lookin at me ? Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Age: 24 Posts: 4,000	Yer paxil makes climaxing near impossible, not always ideal cuz the OP tends to think their at fault. __________________ Keep it simple

10-27-2009, 06:02 PM	#10 (permalink)
fma Status: SPA Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Europe Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 53	yes, everything works when I'm alone. "I think you have to learn to loose yourself in the moment" <- yes, that's the key :P What "OP" stands for? Sorry seanybhoy, I cannot understand you message __________________ Fighting my anxiety -Blog

10-27-2009, 06:07 PM	#11 (permalink)
seanybhoy Status: U lookin at me ? Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Age: 24 Posts: 4,000	OP = Other person, yanno, yr partner etcetra. __________________ Keep it simple

10-27-2009, 07:58 PM	#13 (permalink)
seanybhoy Status: U lookin at me ? Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Age: 24 Posts: 4,000	Gotcha chief __________________ Keep it simple

10-27-2009, 09:20 PM	#14 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	meds aside, do you think anxiety can inhibite orgasm?? Because I've had trouble all my life... well I wouldn't really know, but all my life since I started masturbating lol, having orgasms. I know most women say that but I really have an extra hard time. Seriously. Maybe I should make a new post instead of replying to this one.

10-28-2009, 03:54 AM	#15 (permalink)
fma Status: SPA Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Europe Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 53	Haydsmom2007 apparently yes, in the case of women the anxiety inhibite the orgasm, and in the case of men, erection and/or orgasm. The sexual performance anxiety happens when you are with another person, when you're on your own ... works perfect, and that means that you're completely healthy physicaly http://www.healthvideo.com/article.php?id=367 It seems like the solution is to find an understanding partner that help you out ... but that is not so easy... specially if you are single lol __________________ Fighting my anxiety -Blog

10-28-2009, 05:22 AM	#16 (permalink)
jim_morrison Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,027	Yeah, with my ex girlfriend, no problems with erection or stamina, but I mostly had problems with reaching an orgasm, which usually ended up in us going at it for about an hour and then giving up most of the time lol. I wasn't on any medication at the time btw. __________________ Warning: I am not a trained medical professional. Any information provided by me is based on my own personal experiences and research and is not intended to be used as professional medical advice. Please contact a medical professional before taking any action that may be discussed on this board.

10-28-2009, 05:32 AM	#17 (permalink)
fma Status: SPA Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Europe Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 53	uffff... don't get me wrong, but it's nice to see that I'm not the only one with this problem in the world __________________ Fighting my anxiety -Blog

10-28-2009, 07:01 PM	#19 (permalink)
seanybhoy Status: U lookin at me ? Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Age: 24 Posts: 4,000	I can climax by myself, just not with partners I've only climaxed once in outta i dunno how many times with other people. Paxil has a positive influence in other areas of my life though, so i don't really see my situation changing soon unfortunately. __________________ Keep it simple

10-29-2009, 08:19 AM	#20 (permalink)
gaz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Wales, Uk Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 986	It doesn't bother me because i have no girlfriend....I'm comfortably numb