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Old 11-16-2009, 01:54 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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This is really embarassing but I have this strange habit of subconsiously rubbing my thumb against my fingers. I often get calluses on my thumb. I do it against other parts of my body too i.e. arms, back, neck.

I don't understand why. I just seem to start it randomly and not be able to stop. Is it ocd? or just a weird habit?
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Old 11-16-2009, 02:35 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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is it random or when you're out in public?

I dont have any random habits I know of but i always catch myself clinching my hand in a fist when Im out. Usually have to mindfully stop doing it.

but you could be doing it for a bunch of reasons, ranging from a simple habit to trying to calm yourself down
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Thanks for replying.

I think I started doing it when I felt anxious. But now I find myself doing it when I'm bored or nervous and just randomly. Once I start I can't stop. Do you think I should I tell my counsellor about it? It would feel such a ridiculous thing to say, I've never heard of anyone doing this before.
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I dont think it's ridiculous. I think its almost normal for people with anxiety to have stuff like this that helps them deal with it. the fact you cant stop once you're mindful of it tells me its something worth going into. especially if its something you want to stop doing
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Are you taking any medication? When I was on meds I would rub my hand against my thigh a lot...I would also rock back and forth....

Or it could just be a nervous habit, no biggie...
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OCD is catagorized in the dictionary as "an anxiety disorder characterized by recurrent and persistent thoughts and feelings and repetitive, ritualized behavior". If you find yourself rubbing your fingers in a nervous situation it could just be a coping machenism of SA but if you find yourself so constantly thinking about having to rub your fingers that it's ruining your ability to function, then it's OCD. One of my family members has extreme OCD and if she can't do what she thinks she needs to do, she has a breakdown. The diagnosis is all up to you I suppose. And about your councellor, I'm sure he/she has heard about many cases like yours. OCD isn't exactly rare. There's nothing to be ashamed about.
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lol..i do a similar thing..i have ocd, but i'm not sure it's related
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I've done that when I'm stressed before.
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I do this too. I rub my thumb around the tips of my fingers in circles. My dad always jokes that I'm going to rub my fingerprints off.
I usually do it when I'm nervous or uncomfortable. I also find myself doing this when I feel like I've lost control of a situation, like when I've ordered my food at a restaurant the way I practised in my head and then they throw something at me, like, "What would you like for a side?"
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I stimulate my fingers constantly too and engage in other repetitive movements such as rocking and flapping. It's referred to as stimming and regulates sensory input and anxiety.
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I have a tendency to "play" with my hands/fingers in social situations, especially in moments of silence. I rub my hands or fingers/nails/cuticles and just generally fiddle with my hands.

I never really focused on it too much until one evening when I was at a table having dinner with several people, and one person (whom I didn't really know) actually called attention to it, and made some joking comment about how I was going to rub my fingers raw or something. It sort of freaked me out to know that it had actually caught someone's attention.

I still do it sometimes, but I'm definitely conscious of it, and then try to stop. It's like not looking someone in the eyes. Just a bad habit.
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I stimulate my fingers constantly too and engage in other repetitive movements such as rocking and flapping. It's referred to as stimming and regulates sensory input and anxiety.
Chimpanzees rock back and forth when they're stressed and upset it's a comfort kind of thing... We're from the same family... I think it's kind of interesting.
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I do this all of the time, but I have never considered the fact that it might be related to SA, because I don't do it when I'm nervous, I just do it whenever, without thinking. I rub my thumb in a circle on all of my fingers, and then continue back and forth for ages. It's just a little habit, I've never really thought about where it originates from or what it means.
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I have a tendency to "play" with my hands/fingers in social situations, especially in moments of silence. I rub my hands or fingers/nails/cuticles and just generally fiddle with my hands.
I fiddle around with my hands in ways other than just rubbing my fingertips. I use my right index finger to spell out words on my leg or the chair I'm sitting on. I also "play" the piano or violin when I'm anxious. (I really do play those instruments, so when I'm "playing" them under the table or whatever, I'm not just choosing two random instruments...)
I also have the bad habit of chewing my fingernails and biting/picking the skin around my cuticles. I sometimes do that so badly that I've had bleeding cuticles with the skin peeled up to the first knuckle. (Gross, I know. And painful.)
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i do the same thing. i stoped for a while..
but it just started back up again a few weeks ago..
i dont just do it when im nervous. i just...do it.
its weird. but, it seems to only bother my parents...
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I stim, I often rub my hands together without thinking about it, or bite my lips, or fiddle with my hair, or scratch my arm.
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I've started doing this when I'm nervous. Rub my thumbs with index and middle fingers. Probably started in the last 6-8 months.

If I'm concentrating, then I twirl my hair sometimes.

(Sorry that I'm contributing to a very old/dead thread!)
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I do the same exact thing. Idk, I feel weird when my hands aren't doing something.
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I rub my knuckles against my lips. I do it all the time, even in public and i hate it cause i can't seem to control it.
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I do that as well, but I also done it before sa. Thinking about it I rarely do it compared to when I was young, and I put my hands over my head when I do it as well. Now I scratch my thumb which sometimes causes cuts but its unintentional.
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