03-28-2008, 08:46 PM
Status: SAS Member
Join Date: Nov 2003
Re: pee shy....public restrooms or even at home...
Originally Posted by Motoman
If I am relaxed, and the bathroom is private enough I can usually go. If its a public washroom and nobody is using, I sometimes can go.. but only if I am relaxed. Sometimes it takes a few separate attempts. Where the problem starts is I anticipate not being able to go, then it messes up my thought and I cant go. no matter what.
I can't use a stall, because I worry that people will judge me for it.. Like " why is that guy standing in the stall doing nothing?" "Real men don't use stalls" and such. I could sit down so it would appear normal for me to be in there then.. but I have a phobia about sitting on dirty public toilets.
I though I made good progress for awhile. I would be confident and relaxed and be able to go. Now its going backwards again. Now everytime I can't go, it takes away confidence.. which seems to be the root of the problem. I need to fix this problem... maybe medication would help?
I can relate to the standing in the stall with similar thoughts like that...In college, I'd be in the public bathroom stall and i'd hear someone enter the public washroom and what crossed my thoughts was this guy saw these legs/shoes facing towards the urinal to go pee and they immediately left (and they did leave) so those awkward feelings of what i'm doing to make the situation strange are present...but I do things a bit different to make myself comfortable and I'm going to pee in the stall if it makes me more comfortable so sorry buddy if that makes the situation strange but I gotta go or my reasoning for why they left in the first place isn't the case anyway so why trouble myself over it
I've also had these thoughts of moving backwards instead of moving forward and it sucks, i guess if you don't look at what you're going through as some chart of up/down or a mountain of progress then that "game" of where am I now in my progress dissipates and its just you living and there's no better or worse, up or down, where i should be and where I shouldn't...not sure if that makes any sense
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