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Old 12-15-2006, 01:44 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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I wish I looked fun.

I think I have this look like I'm trying to be all sexy but I'm not. I look like a poser. Or like a stiff plain person.

When I look at my picture from a 3rd person's point of view, I woudn't think of me as someone I'd find interesting. I look self absored or something.
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Old 12-16-2006, 09:47 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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ye i know the feeling. when i see myself in a picture I just keep thinking how ugly and hideous iam. which is why I avoid having my picture taken at all.
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Old 12-16-2006, 10:22 PM   #3 (permalink)
 
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I know what you mean; I feel like the majority of my pictures look hideous, like I'm trying to be something/someone I'm not.
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Old 12-17-2006, 11:51 AM   #4 (permalink)
 
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I can't stand to see a picture of myself. It disgusts me.
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Old 12-17-2006, 04:11 PM   #5 (permalink)
 
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I can't stand to see a picture of myself. It disgusts me.
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Old 12-17-2006, 04:57 PM   #6 (permalink)
 
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I appear boring, because I am boring. I also look like a cross between Wilford Brimley and Janet Reno. Additionally, I convey a sense of arrogance, because I rarely look anyone in the eye or smile.
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Old 12-17-2006, 05:18 PM   #7 (permalink)
 
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I really hate the way I look. I can't possibly smile; I would be surprised if my face even has the necessary muscles. I'm surprised I even managed to leave my stupid pictures up in the gallery.
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Old 12-17-2006, 05:59 PM   #8 (permalink)
 
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I really hate the way I look. I can't possibly smile; I would be surprised if my face even has the necessary muscles. I'm surprised I even managed to leave my stupid pictures up in the gallery.
Dude, stop putting yourself down like that all the time, go to the picture thread and read some of the comments people made....

if you keep on being so negative about yourself your just reinforcing the negative thoughts in your head making them stronger

I'm betting that everytime you get a good comment about your looks, immediatly in your head you come up with a reason why they would say that, to put that compliment down.

I went through the same thing and know how you feel, and I know it's hard to change the way you think, but it's possible, so all I'm trying to say is think positive

.... and yes I will point this out everytime I see you post something bad about the way you look on these boards j/k

Same thing goes to the original poster, it's probably not as bad as you think
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i put my pic up once. not one single positive reply....
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Old 12-17-2006, 07:06 PM   #10 (permalink)
 
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i put my pic up once. not one single positive reply....
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Old 12-17-2006, 07:57 PM   #11 (permalink)
 
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Being attractive is all about attitude...looks are helpful but not totally necessary.

Because I also have SA I understand that it is hard to think positive all the time and project that certain attitude...but you have to try to set small goals in increasing your self-image. It will make the difference in your future.

Don't get hung up on looks. Be genuine and work at being the person that you want to be. Remember, SA does change your life...you just have to do things differently...find safe people, places, and things that will bring you joy without letting SA control you...

I know, it's a lot of empty words but I live it everyday.

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Old 12-17-2006, 11:04 PM   #12 (permalink)
 
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I think driftfisher has a point. I know a guy that looked just like Njodis, maybe a little chubbier, and he hooked up with girls all the time. If his friends were flirting with a girl, he would show up and have the girl on his arm in minutes. He just had the attitude.

Similarly, back in high school there was a girl that looked average, nothing special (in fact some called her Two Backs because she was so flat chested), but she had such a warm personality that there were at least 10-15 guys that had crushes on her, me included. So, it's not all about looks.
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i put my pic up once. not one single positive reply....
I never saw it .
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I can't stand to see a picture of myself. It disgusts me.
I've seen your pics and you look like a typical college guy. Nothing out of the ordinary, so you're being too hard on yourself.
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I can't stand to see a picture of myself. It disgusts me.
I've seen your pics and you look like a typical college guy. Nothing out of the ordinary, so you're being too hard on yourself.
I agree. I can't imagine what standard of attractiveness he could possibly be using to arrive at that conclusion.
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i put my pic up once. not one single positive reply....
I never saw it .
Actually, you were one of the people who gave a nice reply, millenniumman. I took the liberty of tracking down that thread in the photo album. 7 people replied. They called you nice-looking and cute, lonesomeboy! I hope this little reminder helps you feel better about your looks.


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I can't stand to see a picture of myself. It disgusts me.
I've seen your pics and you look like a typical college guy. Nothing out of the ordinary, so you're being too hard on yourself.
Plus, in the latest pic I saw, your skin has really improved, and you're standing straight and confident-looking.
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I can't stand to see a picture of myself. It disgusts me.
I've seen your pics and you look like a typical college guy. Nothing out of the ordinary, so you're being too hard on yourself.
Plus, in the latest pic I saw, your skin has really improved, and you're standing straight and confident-looking.
Thanks. I wish I saw all that. I just see imperfection and flaws.
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I really don't know how i look to be honest. It seems like..every mirror i look at...every photo i take...i look different. Its like my looks change all the time. Its weird. Sometimes i look pretty and others times i look hideous. I consider myself to be average...nothing special. I'm soo scared to post a pic of my face online because none of my photos turn out good. I wish i could get an Extreme Makeover. Its much easier for guys when it comes to looks because they could be the ugliest thing and still have females all over them. On the other hand...if a female is ugly...she mit as well forget it.

Looks are everything these days, and its sad. People can't help the way they look. Its the parents genes. I wish i could wake up tomorrow and be beautiful but its not going to happen. I have to accept my average,boring looks untill i die. Thank you God!!!
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Its much easier for guys when it comes to looks because they could be the ugliest thing and still have females all over them.
That is certainly an interesting statement.
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