Social Anxiety Support

Demerzel · 06-20-2009, 12:33 AM

Do u look angry even when u're not? My biggest SA issue is that I look angry all the time so I send the wrong non-verbal messages. When I try to smile I end up looking crazy or looking super angry LOL No matter how much I try to smile it doesn't work. It seems to backfire and get worse when I try smiling. I do ok when smiling for pics but most of the time I tense up around people. I seem to do better in real life around SA people. When I'm genuinely happy I smile w/out realizing it. Does anyone else have issues w/ this? BTW it's not "all in my head". I've had people comment on it.

Some Russian Guy · 06-20-2009, 12:36 AM

my neutral face looks angry
because I am angry most of the time
even during those times when I'm not angry inside, I sense that my face still looks angry
coz my life is pure ****
there's nothing in my life to smile about

I only genuinely smile when around one person
my psych
but when I see that other people stare at me, I might give them mean look.
meaning: "what a **** are you looking at!?"

brealair · 06-20-2009, 02:02 AM

I have this problem too but I get I look "lost/confused" more then "angry"

AudreyHepburn · 06-20-2009, 06:40 AM

I have sharply down-turned lips so it does look like I'm frowning a lot. I posted some pictures of myself on my profile page. My eyes always have this glazed-over, glassy look. As if I'm somewhere else. Which I am.

Ospi · 06-20-2009, 07:12 AM

Yes it does, everyone always asks me "what is wrong? Why are you not happy?" and I reply with "I am!", and then they say "well tell your face" and then I'm like

.

I usually have to forcibly look happier when I'm just walking around otherwise people think I'm some grumpy ******* when the truth is I am almost always in a very good mood :P.

Omnium11 · 06-20-2009, 07:28 AM

Yes! I have sort of have those spaniard like eyebrows that go like this \ / so I look angry all the time, really annoying because I don't want to look angry I want to look happy and friendly. Also my eyes sort of are piercing which makes me and others uncomfortable with eye contact.

J_111 · 06-20-2009, 05:13 PM

Yeah and i'm far from being an angry person.

Metallic · 06-20-2009, 05:15 PM

I don't think mine does, but my friend said I always looked so pissed off when she'd see me walking around campus. Maybe I just looked pissy because I was scared out of my brains while walking to class. However, I've been mega aware of my facial expressions ever since she said that so sometimes I'll purposely make expressions so I don't seem so angry.

Redefine · 06-20-2009, 05:27 PM

OMG I'm totally self-conscious about this. It's one of my biggest problems. My face is always tense, I can't stand it.

whatsername75 · 06-20-2009, 05:34 PM

No, but apparently my neutral face looks sad, which is just as annoying because people are constantly telling me that I have such a "sad looking face"

zookeeper · 06-20-2009, 06:22 PM

My normal face apparently looks angry, so people keep asking me why I'm angry and don't believe me when I say I'm not. Which makes me kind of angry.

pita · 06-20-2009, 06:54 PM

Mine just looks really sad.

Cerrada · 06-20-2009, 06:57 PM

Yea, apparently I look pissed off or depressed all the time. :/

HustleRose · 06-20-2009, 07:10 PM

Yep. I also have the angry-looking face.

Some Russian Guy · 06-20-2009, 07:41 PM

when I see a cute girl passing by
I automatically look away in anger.
I don't know why, can someone explain it to me ?

lilgreenmouse · 06-20-2009, 07:42 PM

yep. had that angry/depressed face for the longest time and ppl also commented on it (which then pissed me off, lol). Now I just look really bored. Which I usually am.

pupper · 06-20-2009, 10:00 PM

yes! I'm glad I'm not the only one, at least once a week a complete stranger will say "smile, it's not that bad", "you know it's not against the law to smile", or "what's wrong?!". It always happens when I least expect it to (buying something at the mall, eating a meal, talking to a customer at work) and it just makes me sad because I think I'm having a good time going about my business while the rest of the world is thinking "why is that girl so angry?!".

fern · 06-21-2009, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by pupper

I'm glad I'm not the only one, at least once a week a complete stranger will say "smile, it's not that bad", "you know it's not against the law to smile", or "what's wrong?!". It always happens when I least expect it to (buying something at the mall, eating a meal, talking to a customer at work) and it just makes me sad because I think I'm having a good time going about my business while the rest of the world is thinking "why is that girl so angry?!".

Yes! This is exactly what happens to me all the time. It is truly frustrating.

VIncymon · 06-21-2009, 12:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fern

Yes! This is exactly what happens to me all the time. It is truly frustrating.

aye, aye
I admit, I am an angry man at times. Yet, sometimes in a simple motion as walking to the library, when I am perfectly calm, some tourist will tell me to cheer up. I don't like this because I've read that women get scared if a guy always looks angry... yet I just can't help it. After all, I am the friggin batman, baby !

KumagoroBeam · 06-21-2009, 01:06 PM

No, i don't think I look angry.
I look down a lot and avoid eye contact. I'm always frowning, like I'm worried about something. I guess it's because I want to seem busy or preoccupied so that people won't approach me or talk to me.
I also pull out my cell phone a lot when I'm in public and act like I'm texting.

06-20-2009, 12:33 AM	#1 (permalink)
Demerzel Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: S.F. Bay Area Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 851	Does ur neutral face look angry? Do u look angry even when u're not? My biggest SA issue is that I look angry all the time so I send the wrong non-verbal messages. When I try to smile I end up looking crazy or looking super angry LOL No matter how much I try to smile it doesn't work. It seems to backfire and get worse when I try smiling. I do ok when smiling for pics but most of the time I tense up around people. I seem to do better in real life around SA people. When I'm genuinely happy I smile w/out realizing it. Does anyone else have issues w/ this? BTW it's not "all in my head". I've had people comment on it.

06-20-2009, 12:36 AM	#2 (permalink)
Some Russian Guy Status: Beta(tester) Male... Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Brooklyn, NY, USA, Earth, Solar System, Milky Way Galaxy, Local group, Local Supercluster, Universe Gender: Male Posts: 576	my neutral face looks angry because I am angry most of the time even during those times when I'm not angry inside, I sense that my face still looks angry coz my life is pure ** there's nothing in my life to smile about I only genuinely smile when around one person my psych but when I see that other people stare at me, I might give them mean look. meaning: "what a ** are you looking at!?" __________________ "Every Day Is Exactly The Same"

06-20-2009, 02:02 AM	#3 (permalink)
brealair Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Philadelphia, PA Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 191	I have this problem too but I get I look "lost/confused" more then "angry" __________________ http://www.myspace.com/tboneV2

06-20-2009, 05:15 PM	#8 (permalink)
Metallic Status: Suit up! Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: North Carolina Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 381	I don't think mine does, but my friend said I always looked so pissed off when she'd see me walking around campus. Maybe I just looked pissy because I was scared out of my brains while walking to class. However, I've been mega aware of my facial expressions ever since she said that so sometimes I'll purposely make expressions so I don't seem so angry. __________________ sometimes even to live is an act of courage. When I get sad, I stop being sad, and be AWESOME instead. True story.

06-20-2009, 05:27 PM	#9 (permalink)
Redefine Status: Staying positive Join Date: Jan 2005 Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 766	OMG I'm totally self-conscious about this. It's one of my biggest problems. My face is always tense, I can't stand it. __________________ "The world's a roller coaster And I am not strapped in Maybe I should hold with care But my hands are busy in the air" ~ Incubus

06-20-2009, 07:12 AM	#5 (permalink)
Ospi Status: Swoit Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Brisbane, Australia Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 1,473	Yes it does, everyone always asks me "what is wrong? Why are you not happy?" and I reply with "I am!", and then they say "well tell your face" and then I'm like . I usually have to forcibly look happier when I'm just walking around otherwise people think I'm some grumpy ******* when the truth is I am almost always in a very good mood :P.

06-20-2009, 07:28 AM	#6 (permalink)
Omnium11 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 329	Yes! I have sort of have those spaniard like eyebrows that go like this \ / so I look angry all the time, really annoying because I don't want to look angry I want to look happy and friendly. Also my eyes sort of are piercing which makes me and others uncomfortable with eye contact.

06-20-2009, 05:13 PM	#7 (permalink)
J_111 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 155	Yeah and i'm far from being an angry person.

06-20-2009, 05:34 PM	#10 (permalink)
whatsername75 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 332	No, but apparently my neutral face looks sad, which is just as annoying because people are constantly telling me that I have such a "sad looking face"

06-20-2009, 06:22 PM	#11 (permalink)
zookeeper Status: The floor is lava!! Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Soap Fortress Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 983	My normal face apparently looks angry, so people keep asking me why I'm angry and don't believe me when I say I'm not. Which makes me kind of angry. __________________ You leapt into the abyss, but find It only goes up to your knees, ~ Nick Cave

06-20-2009, 06:54 PM	#12 (permalink)
pita Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Gender: Female Posts: 2,125	Mine just looks really sad.

06-20-2009, 06:57 PM	#13 (permalink)
Cerrada Status: Here, there & everywhere Join Date: May 2009 Location: Georgia Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 141	Yea, apparently I look pissed off or depressed all the time. :/ __________________ Strange, we ran down desperate streets and carved our names in the flesh of the city. The sun was stagnated somewhere beyond the rim of the horizon and the darkness is a mystery of curves and lines. Still, we lay under the emptiness and drifted slowly outward, and somewhere in the wilderness we found salvation scratched into the earth like a message.

06-20-2009, 07:10 PM	#14 (permalink)
HustleRose Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: New England Gender: Female Posts: 115	Yep. I also have the angry-looking face.

06-20-2009, 07:41 PM	#15 (permalink)
Some Russian Guy Status: Beta(tester) Male... Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Brooklyn, NY, USA, Earth, Solar System, Milky Way Galaxy, Local group, Local Supercluster, Universe Gender: Male Posts: 576	when I see a cute girl passing by I automatically look away in anger. I don't know why, can someone explain it to me ? __________________ "Every Day Is Exactly The Same"

06-20-2009, 07:42 PM	#16 (permalink)
lilgreenmouse Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 32	yep. had that angry/depressed face for the longest time and ppl also commented on it (which then pissed me off, lol). Now I just look really bored. Which I usually am.

06-20-2009, 10:00 PM	#17 (permalink)
pupper Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 20	yes! I'm glad I'm not the only one, at least once a week a complete stranger will say "smile, it's not that bad", "you know it's not against the law to smile", or "what's wrong?!". It always happens when I least expect it to (buying something at the mall, eating a meal, talking to a customer at work) and it just makes me sad because I think I'm having a good time going about my business while the rest of the world is thinking "why is that girl so angry?!".

06-21-2009, 01:06 PM	#20 (permalink)
KumagoroBeam Status: fail -_- Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 733	No, i don't think I look angry. I look down a lot and avoid eye contact. I'm always frowning, like I'm worried about something. I guess it's because I want to seem busy or preoccupied so that people won't approach me or talk to me. I also pull out my cell phone a lot when I'm in public and act like I'm texting.