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Does ur neutral face look angry?

Do u look angry even when u're not? My biggest SA issue is that I look angry all the time so I send the wrong non-verbal messages. When I try to smile I end up looking crazy or looking super angry LOL No matter how much I try to smile it doesn't work. It seems to backfire and get worse when I try smiling. I do ok when smiling for pics but most of the time I tense up around people. I seem to do better in real life around SA people. When I'm genuinely happy I smile w/out realizing it. Does anyone else have issues w/ this? BTW it's not "all in my head". I've had people comment on it.
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post #2 of 506 (permalink) Old 06-20-2009, 12:36 AM
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my neutral face looks angry
because I am angry most of the time
even during those times when I'm not angry inside, I sense that my face still looks angry
coz my life is pure ****
there's nothing in my life to smile about

I only genuinely smile when around one person
my psych
but when I see that other people stare at me, I might give them mean look.
meaning: "what a **** are you looking at!?"
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I have this problem too but I get I look "lost/confused" more then "angry"
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I have sharply down-turned lips so it does look like I'm frowning a lot. I posted some pictures of myself on my profile page. My eyes always have this glazed-over, glassy look. As if I'm somewhere else. Which I am.

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Yes it does, everyone always asks me "what is wrong? Why are you not happy?" and I reply with "I am!", and then they say "well tell your face" and then I'm like .

I usually have to forcibly look happier when I'm just walking around otherwise people think I'm some grumpy ******* when the truth is I am almost always in a very good mood :P.
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Yes! I have sort of have those spaniard like eyebrows that go like this \ / so I look angry all the time, really annoying because I don't want to look angry I want to look happy and friendly. Also my eyes sort of are piercing which makes me and others uncomfortable with eye contact.
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post #7 of 506 (permalink) Old 06-20-2009, 05:13 PM
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Yeah and i'm far from being an angry person.
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post #8 of 506 (permalink) Old 06-20-2009, 05:15 PM
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I don't think mine does, but my friend said I always looked so pissed off when she'd see me walking around campus. Maybe I just looked pissy because I was scared out of my brains while walking to class. However, I've been mega aware of my facial expressions ever since she said that so sometimes I'll purposely make expressions so I don't seem so angry.

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post #9 of 506 (permalink) Old 06-20-2009, 05:27 PM
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OMG I'm totally self-conscious about this. It's one of my biggest problems. My face is always tense, I can't stand it.

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But my hands are busy in the air"
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My normal face apparently looks angry, so people keep asking me why I'm angry and don't believe me when I say I'm not. Which makes me kind of angry.

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post #11 of 506 (permalink) Old 06-20-2009, 06:54 PM
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Mine just looks really sad.
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Yea, apparently I look pissed off or depressed all the time. :/
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Yep. I also have the angry-looking face.
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post #14 of 506 (permalink) Old 06-20-2009, 07:41 PM
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when I see a cute girl passing by
I automatically look away in anger.
I don't know why, can someone explain it to me ?
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yep. had that angry/depressed face for the longest time and ppl also commented on it (which then pissed me off, lol). Now I just look really bored. Which I usually am.
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yes! I'm glad I'm not the only one, at least once a week a complete stranger will say "smile, it's not that bad", "you know it's not against the law to smile", or "what's wrong?!". It always happens when I least expect it to (buying something at the mall, eating a meal, talking to a customer at work) and it just makes me sad because I think I'm having a good time going about my business while the rest of the world is thinking "why is that girl so angry?!".
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I'm glad I'm not the only one, at least once a week a complete stranger will say "smile, it's not that bad", "you know it's not against the law to smile", or "what's wrong?!". It always happens when I least expect it to (buying something at the mall, eating a meal, talking to a customer at work) and it just makes me sad because I think I'm having a good time going about my business while the rest of the world is thinking "why is that girl so angry?!".
Yes! This is exactly what happens to me all the time. It is truly frustrating.
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Yes! This is exactly what happens to me all the time. It is truly frustrating.
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I admit, I am an angry man at times. Yet, sometimes in a simple motion as walking to the library, when I am perfectly calm, some tourist will tell me to cheer up. I don't like this because I've read that women get scared if a guy always looks angry... yet I just can't help it. After all, I am the friggin batman, baby !
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post #19 of 506 (permalink) Old 06-21-2009, 01:06 PM
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No, i don't think I look angry.
I look down a lot and avoid eye contact. I'm always frowning, like I'm worried about something. I guess it's because I want to seem busy or preoccupied so that people won't approach me or talk to me.
I also pull out my cell phone a lot when I'm in public and act like I'm texting.
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post #20 of 506 (permalink) Old 06-21-2009, 01:44 PM
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yes people keep wondering why i'm so angry all the time but im just like wtf im not!
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