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Old 07-18-2009, 06:10 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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So I've noticed more recently now than ever how drastically depressed i tend to feel at the conclusion of watching pornographic material.

Not sure exactly how brain chemistry works for guys post-climax but i can be sure that whatever's released into the bloodstream certainly doesn't do any wonders for your energy levels or state of mind. At the best of times the most i will ever feel is an empty flat feeling of social and emotional indifference. Somebody could try and make me laugh or talk to me but i can barely rouse myself to respond with any feeling whatsoever. It sucks. Why do i have to feel so ****??
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Honestly, I believe it is because it isn't what you are searching for... it doesn't fulfill what you need and want.

People confuse climax with satisfaction, that it will somehow magically make you 'feel better'... unfortunately when it is over it is all too clear that it isn't true.

This is true whether we are masturbating to porn or being sexual with another person that we don't care about or doesn't care about us. It becomes just as much about masturbating (except with another person to do it inside of) and it doesn't really give us what we truly seek.

I think the answer to your problem will be to ask yourself what it is you truly want and need in your life that will fulfill you and then try to do that instead of porn.

I'm saying this from my own experience and my own point of view. I actually feel better when I do not use porn or masturbate and just do without. I funnel all of that frustration and energy into something positive and productive and helpful to others and that fills me way more than any placebo that I can try to come up with like sex, drugs or alcohol to dull the loneliness, emptiness or sadness.

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Maybe you are just attaching too many other things to it. It's only a biological incident. Just go to sleep for a while after, isn't that what your body wants to do anyway?
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So I've noticed more recently now than ever how drastically depressed i tend to feel at the conclusion of watching pornographic material.

Not sure exactly how brain chemistry works for guys post-climax but i can be sure that whatever's released into the bloodstream certainly doesn't do any wonders for your energy levels or state of mind. At the best of times the most i will ever feel is an empty flat feeling of social and emotional indifference. Somebody could try and make me laugh or talk to me but i can barely rouse myself to respond with any feeling whatsoever. It sucks. Why do i have to feel so ****??
i know exactly why that happens

ts simply a case of accepting fullfilmet that is unearned

live is all about being happy, being fullfilled , feeling good.

all human beings desire to feel good. but there are 2 was to feel good - 1) earn it , 2) accept unearned fullfilment

unearned fullfilment gives you a big burst of pleasure but its only momentarily. it lasts for a short period of time and then disapears and after you feel bad cos its gone

earned fullfilment last forever , its not as intesn as the unearned stuff but the difference is its everlasting instead of momentary

thas why people who take drugs over crash after i. they gt a big high and then come crashing down to earth cos the good feelings were unearnt

if you met a girl and you ended up having sex (you didnt foce it or try it, it just happen) then after it you wont feel bad cos the fullfilment was earned.

if you watch porn to mke yourself feel good your just giving yoursef a quickfix , a quick burst of fullfilment but straight after it you will crach cos its not earnt
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yea I agree with all the posts. But i dont really get depressed after though. I feel better really! lol
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Actually, I have watched "some", not a lot of porn. After a while doesn't it just get old? I mean it the same stuff over and over and over and over. Why people get so obsessed with it I just can't understand. The ARE other things in life besides sex.

Too much of anything isn't good. "All sun makes a desert". Maybe you need a new interest. Something totally unrelated to sex to pull yourself away from it. Try cooking or art or learn to play an instument besides what's between your legs, a MUSICAL instrument.
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interesting thread, i know what your talking about too. a lot of it is chemical, and a large portion of it is also what the other posters have stated. It's like experiencing a low after a high, and after the rollercoaster ride you're no better off than you started except maybe a little less amped up. this may sound like difficult advice lol, but if its making you feel bad, trying going for a week without doing it. I usually find that week is more gratifying in all venues in general simply because you are motivated to pursue people. If you have no motivation to move you wont, just like when you are full you dont want to eat... so deprive yourself to keep moving.
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I feel that way sometimes too. I know some of my friends do to. Even ones that have girlfriends. I believe socially inept is right on. Also sometimes it's because I feel so perverted/dirty after because porn is wrong. But I guess that relates to Socially inept's explanation.
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do you watch it from start to end
or just the most interesting parts ?
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I think society has made it wrong. Anything you try to sell for money that is a natural part of life is wrong IMO. Exploiting people, usually females, in the porn industry is wrong but it's been around since there were males and females. Nothing will ever stop it unless we are all dead.

But as I said before centering your whole existence around one activity will make you pretty one dimensional. You are ignoring all the other talents an/or interests you may have all for the sake of something that will always be there. Going a week without it sounds like a good way to START eliminating it from the constant obsession. It's really difficult to stop our bad habits cold turkey. Too bad there wasn't such a thing as a "PornoPatch" Hahahahahaha. Try to wean yourself. Once a week for a while then go to once every 2 weeks then once a month etc..............

I had a friend once who had this obsession so I know a little bit about the depression he went through trying to give it up. And this guy was a teacher. He dumped me because his counsellor, who was also addicted to porn, told him I was a "Loose Cannon" and I might ruin his career. See how their minds work? It's sad, I could have told someone but I didn't. His counsellor was the one who got found out and it was splashed all over the news. He lost all his accreditations and his job. Seems he liked little boys.
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Not sure exactly how brain chemistry works for guys post-climax but i can be sure that whatever's released into the bloodstream certainly doesn't do any wonders for your energy levels or state of mind. At the best of times the most i will ever feel is an empty flat feeling of social and emotional indifference.
This is why I ritually do it before bedtime, or I take a nap afterwards.
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This is making me want to go watch porn actually.
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I don't watch porn, but whenever I am feeling , i drink some coffee.
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Porn is boring.

I love the bleach blond, super chicks with heavy makeup and 8inch heels though.

Porn and sex are so overrated and boring.
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Honestly, I believe it is because it isn't what you are searching for... it doesn't fulfill what you need and want.
I agree. If something makes you feel like crap, don't do it. I think the OP is probably expecting something else and is just disappointed because they're not getting whatever that is.

There's nothing inherently wrong with watching porn but sometimes I think people are (consciously or not) looking for reasons why they should feel bad about it and so they eventually do.
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I think if you use masturbation as a quick fix for a down mood then this is how you will feel afterward indeed or at least that's been my experience. I agree with others though that it could be you want something more was well. Either way if it happens a break is likely the best cure
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I felt the same way so I cut down porn/mb to once a week. It is really hard as a single guy who has internet access practically 24/7 to stop. Longest I went was 5 weeks. I felt like I climbed mt everest lol
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