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zomgz · 10-29-2009, 05:28 PM

porn is meh.. imagination is where it's at!! lol!! wow i just realized that was way too much information xD

honestly though porn doesn't do anything for me maybe i'm weird? xD

nubly · 10-29-2009, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by nothing to fear

...what i consider the better-than-average videos...

id be lying if i said i wasnt curious what those are

Iced Soul · 10-29-2009, 06:25 PM

Imagination is best. I'm sure there is every sort of porn you can think of, but nothing can beat a good imagination.

PGVan · 10-30-2009, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Socially Anxious

Try to find something better to do with your time. Porn isn't healthy.

Neither is surpressing your natural sexual urges.

I'm not saying there isn't an unhealthy level of watching porn, but to make a blanket statement that porn isn't healthy isn't entirely accurate. There are plenty of people in relationships who even use it to spice up their sex lives.

Reality is that for guys like us (mid 20's, absolutely zero experience with women), porn helps us take care of our natural urges. As long as you're not allowing it to take away from your job (if you have one) and any other things you may have going for yourself, you're not addicted.

meyaj · 10-30-2009, 12:45 AM

Yeah but perhaps it may let you feel more content with your situation rather than motivating to do something about it?

I've watched a fair amount of porn and I don't think a blanket statement either way is accurate. If anything though, I'd say porn is a lot more unhealthy for some mid 20's guy with no job and zero experience with women than it would be for a successful guy in a healthy sexual relationship.

slkjao · 10-30-2009, 12:50 AM

dont worry too much man. sex is a powerful reinforcer that fulfills a basic physical need for survival of the species. Its a primary reinforcer like hunger, thirst, sleep, termination of pain. (got this straight out of my psych textbook lol) so i suggest to try not to feel guilty. and to those who can use ur imaginations...lucky @#$%*^@!.

Neptunus · 10-30-2009, 01:08 AM

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Originally Posted by theuprising

never had sex before but I heard getting up to, you know, and then weaning off of, you know, constantly and building your "stamina" of how long you can hold off will help your stamina in bed. If you're going to do it, might as well make it productive :P

Looks at username... ah, the irony.

ETA- As for porn, everything in moderation... and within reason. I think the real risk with (some) porn, is promoting unrealistic expectations when it comes to "doing it" for real.

nothing to fear · 10-30-2009, 01:14 AM

hahaha..

meyaj · 10-30-2009, 01:20 AM

Maybe it's just the medications but I've found me need for porn over the last few years has not only declined, my tastes are a lot tamer as well. And I can go weeks without jerking it where at some points in the past I might have been doing it a dozen+ times a day (man is that embarrassing to admit, even anonymously. Now I'm never going to be able to go to a Toronto meetup without feeling like a total weirdo

)

I'm kind of happy about the changes though. I don't think the fact that my needs are being less fulfilled is a problem because I simply don't have the same needs anymore. I guess though that if I was in a relationship with somebody with a more voracious sexual appetite (hah! that'll be the day), I could see how it create conflict.

Jaiyyson · 10-30-2009, 02:15 AM

All of those blokes are holstering what appear to be rocket sized cranks, I often find myself feeling inadequate, plus, they are all bulky, veined and tanned and so forth; generally just good looking (although I am not focused on the men it's just an observation *haha*)

It's the same with all the ladies. I guess everybody in these types of 'flicks' have to remain 'lagom' however.

Hank Scorpio · 10-30-2009, 06:40 AM

This is hilarious and true:

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...ing-statements

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...iraldo-on-porn

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...porn-oswalt-on

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...vs.-porn-lewis

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...-final-verdict

fma · 10-30-2009, 06:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Hank Scorpio

This is hilarious and true:

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...ing-statements

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...iraldo-on-porn

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...porn-oswalt-on

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...vs.-porn-lewis

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...-final-verdict

Sorry, videos are not currently available in your country

treatmentsforanxiety · 10-30-2009, 11:04 AM

Hi,

First you need to check whether you are really addicted to Porn ? And i guess if it's not interfering in your day to day activity ..Is it hampering you Social or Personal or Professional growth or life ? if not watching porn should not be a issue

Pialicious88 · 10-30-2009, 11:14 AM

i don't see anything wrong with being addicted to porn

rcapo89 · 10-30-2009, 11:41 AM

Hey I'm home alone and I haven't watched porn!

DanCan · 10-30-2009, 11:50 AM

Up until just a hundred years ago or so people would get married in their teens, not long after puberty. But now we dont get married til mid-late twenties. So where does all that repressed sexuality go until we find a regular partner(hopefully marriage)? Nowhere. It's still there. So we look at porn, or we hook up with a stranger at a party. Or a pay prostitute, or a chinese girl at the massage parlor. I'm not saying porn is good. But it is a cheap substitute for sex. Especially for people like us who have a disease that is keeping us from going out and meeting the right person, and living life like it was meant to be lived. *Sigh*

wolfgang23 · 10-30-2009, 11:56 AM

I that having a lot of porn makes you a collector of porn.

As far as addiction goes... it basically means you cannot sustain normal happiness for very long with our doing your addiction. Or you addiction ends up negatively affecting the rest of your life...

So if you're doing it so much that you arent going out side and not having sex with real women. I think it's fine.

Needing a lot of orgasms in one day is normally a sign of an addict. Might want to go to sexaholics anonymous

zookeeper · 10-30-2009, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by rcapo89

Hey I'm home alone and I haven't watched porn!

You'd best get on that. You're running out of time, they'll be home soon!

nothing to fear · 10-30-2009, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaiyyson

All of those blokes are holstering what appear to be rocket sized cranks, I often find myself feeling inadequate, plus, they are all bulky, veined and tanned and so forth; generally just good looking (although I am not focused on the men it's just an observation *haha*)

It's the same with all the ladies. I guess everybody in these types of 'flicks' have to remain 'lagom' however.

that is something i dislike about (a lot of) porn - they just look very fake and unrealistic and quite far from what i find attractive. don't feel inadequate, i know a lot of girls who would also agree that is not what they consider good looking when it comes to the type of look they are into.

rcapo89 · 10-30-2009, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by zookeeper

You'd best get on that. You're running out of time, they'll be home soon!

Well I'm trying to to abstain form viewing porn.

10-29-2009, 05:28 PM	#41 (permalink)
zomgz Status: Wherever The Winds Fly Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Washington Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 600	porn is meh.. imagination is where it's at!! lol!! wow i just realized that was way too much information xD honestly though porn doesn't do anything for me maybe i'm weird? xD __________________ Chained to the bottom of the ocean floor, it's like running underwater. Feel free to add me to: Myspace \| Facebook \| Mindviz

10-29-2009, 06:25 PM	#43 (permalink)
Iced Soul Status: Dancing on Rainbows Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Calilalaland Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 1,775	Imagination is best. I'm sure there is every sort of porn you can think of, but nothing can beat a good imagination. __________________ I scraped my knees while I was praying And found a demon in my safest haven. Seems like, it's getting harder to believe in anything Than just to get lost in all my selfish thoughts. I wanna know what it'd be like To find perfection in my pride To see nothing in the light Just turn it off In all my spite, in all my spite, I'll turn it off. - Turn It Off - Paramore http://twitter.com/MissEerie

10-30-2009, 12:45 AM	#45 (permalink)
meyaj Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Markham, Ontario Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 571	Yeah but perhaps it may let you feel more content with your situation rather than motivating to do something about it? I've watched a fair amount of porn and I don't think a blanket statement either way is accurate. If anything though, I'd say porn is a lot more unhealthy for some mid 20's guy with no job and zero experience with women than it would be for a successful guy in a healthy sexual relationship. __________________ Medications I've tried: escitalopram, bupropion, venlafaxine, sertraline, nortriptyline, hydroxyzine, lorazepam, diazepam, temazepam, clonazepam, zopiclone, mirtazapine, trazodone, quetiapine, olanzapine, paliperidone Currently taking: 2mg nortriptyline hs(tapering), 7.5mg-15mg zopiclone hs, 2mg clonazepam prn

10-30-2009, 12:50 AM	#46 (permalink)
slkjao Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Sylmar, California Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 74	dont worry too much man. sex is a powerful reinforcer that fulfills a basic physical need for survival of the species. Its a primary reinforcer like hunger, thirst, sleep, termination of pain. (got this straight out of my psych textbook lol) so i suggest to try not to feel guilty. and to those who can use ur imaginations...lucky @#$%*^@!. __________________ "Success doesn't mean the absence of failures; it means the attainment of ultimate objectives. It means winning the war, not every battle." —Edwin C. Bliss

10-30-2009, 01:14 AM	#48 (permalink)
nothing to fear Status: silence is sexy Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Toronto, Canada Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 4,840	hahaha.. __________________ everything was beautiful, and nothing hurt. ~ i really like music. and photography, though i'm nothing special.

10-30-2009, 01:20 AM	#49 (permalink)
meyaj Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Markham, Ontario Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 571	Maybe it's just the medications but I've found me need for porn over the last few years has not only declined, my tastes are a lot tamer as well. And I can go weeks without jerking it where at some points in the past I might have been doing it a dozen+ times a day (man is that embarrassing to admit, even anonymously. Now I'm never going to be able to go to a Toronto meetup without feeling like a total weirdo ) I'm kind of happy about the changes though. I don't think the fact that my needs are being less fulfilled is a problem because I simply don't have the same needs anymore. I guess though that if I was in a relationship with somebody with a more voracious sexual appetite (hah! that'll be the day), I could see how it create conflict. __________________ Medications I've tried: escitalopram, bupropion, venlafaxine, sertraline, nortriptyline, hydroxyzine, lorazepam, diazepam, temazepam, clonazepam, zopiclone, mirtazapine, trazodone, quetiapine, olanzapine, paliperidone Currently taking: 2mg nortriptyline hs(tapering), 7.5mg-15mg zopiclone hs, 2mg clonazepam prn

10-30-2009, 02:15 AM	#50 (permalink)
Jaiyyson Status: Davids disarm Goliaths Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Melbourne, Australia Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 872	All of those blokes are holstering what appear to be rocket sized cranks, I often find myself feeling inadequate, plus, they are all bulky, veined and tanned and so forth; generally just good looking (although I am not focused on the men it's just an observation haha) It's the same with all the ladies. I guess everybody in these types of 'flicks' have to remain 'lagom' however. __________________ "Don't walk in front of me, and don't walk behind me. If you are to walk with me, walk beside me or nothing at all."

10-30-2009, 06:40 AM	#51 (permalink)
Hank Scorpio Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Underground Posts: 333	This is hilarious and true: http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...ing-statements http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...iraldo-on-porn http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...porn-oswalt-on http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...vs.-porn-lewis http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/...-final-verdict

10-30-2009, 11:04 AM	#53 (permalink)
treatmentsforanxiety Status: NooB Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Houston Gender: Female Posts: 5	Hi, First you need to check whether you are really addicted to Porn ? And i guess if it's not interfering in your day to day activity ..Is it hampering you Social or Personal or Professional growth or life ? if not watching porn should not be a issue __________________

10-30-2009, 11:14 AM	#54 (permalink)
Pialicious88 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: a ****hole Gender: Female Posts: 231	i don't see anything wrong with being addicted to porn __________________ Music is my shield I feel trapped inside my own brain, maybe i'm already insane

10-30-2009, 11:41 AM	#55 (permalink)
rcapo89 Status: Exploring the moon Europa Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Georgia (northeast of Atlanta) Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 840	Hey I'm home alone and I haven't watched porn! __________________ I see the world being slowly transformed into a wilderness, I hear the approaching thunder that, one day, will destroy us too. I feel the suffering of millions. And yet, when I look up at the sky, I somehow feel that everything will change for the better, that this cruelty too shall end, that peace and tranquility will return once more. - Anne Frank

10-30-2009, 11:50 AM	#56 (permalink)
DanCan Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: NJ Gender: Male Posts: 55	Porn is a substitute. But hey, why not?! Up until just a hundred years ago or so people would get married in their teens, not long after puberty. But now we dont get married til mid-late twenties. So where does all that repressed sexuality go until we find a regular partner(hopefully marriage)? Nowhere. It's still there. So we look at porn, or we hook up with a stranger at a party. Or a pay prostitute, or a chinese girl at the massage parlor. I'm not saying porn is good. But it is a cheap substitute for sex. Especially for people like us who have a disease that is keeping us from going out and meeting the right person, and living life like it was meant to be lived. Sigh

10-30-2009, 11:56 AM	#57 (permalink)
wolfgang23 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: California Gender: Female Posts: 13	I that having a lot of porn makes you a collector of porn. As far as addiction goes... it basically means you cannot sustain normal happiness for very long with our doing your addiction. Or you addiction ends up negatively affecting the rest of your life... So if you're doing it so much that you arent going out side and not having sex with real women. I think it's fine. Needing a lot of orgasms in one day is normally a sign of an addict. Might want to go to sexaholics anonymous