Social Anxiety Support

lde22 · 10-28-2009, 02:22 AM

I just wasted 2 hours downloading and looking at porn. And have aver 200GB of it on my hard drive. Is anyone else addicted to porn? Does anyone have any suggestions to get over this addiction?

nubly · 10-28-2009, 06:50 AM

send me your favorite videos

nothing to fear · 10-28-2009, 09:22 AM

2 hours ain't that bad, unless that is the amount you watch every day.
200GB however seems like a lot but maybe its cause my hard drive is a whole 111GB.

to help the addiction: personally i don't think it's realistic to cut it out completely, since you would likely just cave and go on a "binge" and become even more obsessed. set a specific schedule and limit yourself to a decent amount of viewing time however often you think is fit, personally i would say no more 30-60 minutes a day.

to decide on that you also have to assess how much it is affecting your life. are you avoiding doing other important things in life and watching porn instead? are your habits causing you to isolate yourself from people in your life or the outside world? do you think it's affecting how you view sex and women/men (depending who you're into)?

also, there are programs you can download that enable you to set a timer on how long you can view specific sites or block them completely. i set that up for the time-wasting sites i visit (SAS being one of them =P) but eventually i caved and disabled it.
https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/4476
but there are others that are stronger and have a more complex method of disabling.
they might not completely cure your problem but it could help in restricting how much you access sites.

finding other ways to distract yourself could help too. exercise being a very good one since it pumps endorphins and gives you a physiological release, though not the same release of chemicals but sometimes can be an effective replacement.

Oneiros · 10-28-2009, 09:39 AM

I dunno, go see a hooker? Try dating?

Stopping suddenly is silly, it'll just cause more tension for no reason. Isn't masturbation about 'not being emotionally ready for a relationship'? Where did I read that... Anyway, eventually you'll probably grow out of it, so who cares. Just enjoy it while you can. Plenty of married guys probably wish they still could.

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Originally Posted by nothing to fear

2 hours ain't that bad, unless that is the amount you watch every day.

nothing to fear · 10-28-2009, 09:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Oneiros

I dunno, go see a hooker? Try dating?

Stopping suddenly is silly, it'll just cause more tension for no reason. Isn't masturbation about 'not being emotionally ready for a relationship'? Where did I read that... Anyway, eventually you'll probably grow out of it, so who cares. Just enjoy it while you can. Plenty of married guys probably wish they still could.

haha, plenty of married guys still do...

porn addiction when you are younger, particulary for some who have little experience with what might be reality in those situations, could just cause even more significant problems in the future with relationships and sex. addressing the issues now, while still enjoying it in moderation, seems like the best option IMO.

i think if using porn is already having a negative effect on him, replacing it with hookers could just have similar effects (if not worse) and could escalate into what he feels is an addiction for him.

Socially Anxious · 10-28-2009, 10:27 AM

Try to find something better to do with your time. Porn isn't healthy.

Futures · 10-28-2009, 11:32 AM

200GB. That's all?

If I counted all the dvd's I have, along with what's currently on my drive, I probably have 2 TB of porn.

I don't really see what the problem is. I mean, most of us on this site aren't able to establish relationships in the first place, so what's wrong with using alternative means of fulfilling our needs?

shysnowbunny · 10-28-2009, 12:45 PM

If you really feel like you have an addiction or are just very concerned about it then talking with a professional may be helpful.

Cyrus · 10-28-2009, 01:45 PM

Maybe move your computer into the living room/family room or whatever you call it, is another suggestion, that would definitely restrict how much time you spend on it. Depending on who you live with anyway. And as one suggested above, excercise/working out will definitely surpress your cravings.

Iced Soul · 10-28-2009, 03:16 PM

First off... wow.

Two hours doesn't seem too bad, even if it is everyday. I know there are guys who sit at the computer downloading porn for 6-8 or more hours a day, as if it's a job, and it gets in the way of their job, cuts off their time with friends/family/pets, they 'hold it' and don't go to the bathroom, they keep a mini fridge in their room/den so they don't have to go and eat, and keeps them from moving forward. Now, that is when it's a problem.

I'd say you like it, but not addicted. If you feel you are, then maybe talk to a professional. Taking your computer and sitting it in a high traffic area is always a good way to cut down or stop.

contranigma · 10-28-2009, 03:52 PM

I do 1-3 times a day and don't really consider myself addicted. I don't dwell on it too much as a moral issue, but I also don't think it should be considered a non-issue if it bothers you. Do what you can to cut back.

I think 2 hours a day is in addiction territory but the other posters are right, there are people who are much worse. There is a documentary called "I Can't Stop Masturbating" (really), and the guys jerk off like 14 times a day.

meyaj · 10-28-2009, 04:03 PM

I used to be until I was put on an anti-depressant.

SSRIs really kill that drive.

fma · 10-28-2009, 04:21 PM

How many times you do it by day/week?

Since youporn and other video sites exists... I don't have porn on my hard drive :P You're 2 hours masturbating yourself?

I use to masturbate one/two times per day.

pariahgirl · 10-28-2009, 04:45 PM

I saw a documentary about people addicted to porn and they masturbated like 10-12 hours a day. You're not that bad by comparison but if it bothers you, you probably should cut back. Otherwise you might get one huge muscular arm while the other atrophies. (sorry joke I have to)

fma · 10-28-2009, 05:14 PM

10-12 hours? !!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rgu3bnyqwPo

2Talkative · 10-28-2009, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by pariahgirl

I saw a documentary about people addicted to porn and they masturbated like 10-12 hours a day. You're not that bad by comparison but if it bothers you, you probably should cut back. Otherwise you might get one huge muscular arm while the other atrophies. (sorry joke I have to)

Never heard of switch hitting ? Both my arms are massive.

To be a guy is to watch porn especially if you have SA since the majority of us have problems with relationships. It most likely keeps me sane, if I was to stop I might go on a rampage....who knows.

gold132 · 10-28-2009, 06:09 PM

I watch porn now and then but never download it. I think when you download it thats when the problems start. There's plenty of free stuff out there you don't need to download anything

shadowmask · 10-28-2009, 06:22 PM

I find porn boring. My own imagination is much more useful.

kenny87 · 10-28-2009, 06:32 PM

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I watch porn now and then but never download it. I think when you download it thats when the problems start.

watch some of the hi def stuff that is way beyond any quality you could get while streaming and you'll see why downloading makes sense.

I thought I was bad at about 150 gb.

njodis · 10-28-2009, 06:33 PM

I think there are some things you just don't really want to see in super high definition...

10-28-2009, 02:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
lde22 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Southern California Gender: Male Posts: 66	Addicted to porn I just wasted 2 hours downloading and looking at porn. And have aver 200GB of it on my hard drive. Is anyone else addicted to porn? Does anyone have any suggestions to get over this addiction?

10-28-2009, 09:22 AM	#3 (permalink)
nothing to fear Status: silence is sexy Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Toronto, Canada Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 4,839	2 hours ain't that bad, unless that is the amount you watch every day. 200GB however seems like a lot but maybe its cause my hard drive is a whole 111GB. to help the addiction: personally i don't think it's realistic to cut it out completely, since you would likely just cave and go on a "binge" and become even more obsessed. set a specific schedule and limit yourself to a decent amount of viewing time however often you think is fit, personally i would say no more 30-60 minutes a day. to decide on that you also have to assess how much it is affecting your life. are you avoiding doing other important things in life and watching porn instead? are your habits causing you to isolate yourself from people in your life or the outside world? do you think it's affecting how you view sex and women/men (depending who you're into)? also, there are programs you can download that enable you to set a timer on how long you can view specific sites or block them completely. i set that up for the time-wasting sites i visit (SAS being one of them =P) but eventually i caved and disabled it. https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/4476 but there are others that are stronger and have a more complex method of disabling. they might not completely cure your problem but it could help in restricting how much you access sites. finding other ways to distract yourself could help too. exercise being a very good one since it pumps endorphins and gives you a physiological release, though not the same release of chemicals but sometimes can be an effective replacement. __________________ everything was beautiful, and nothing hurt. ~ i really like music. and photography, though i'm nothing special.

10-28-2009, 03:16 PM	#10 (permalink)
Iced Soul Status: Dancing on Rainbows Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Calilalaland Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 1,775	First off... wow. Two hours doesn't seem too bad, even if it is everyday. I know there are guys who sit at the computer downloading porn for 6-8 or more hours a day, as if it's a job, and it gets in the way of their job, cuts off their time with friends/family/pets, they 'hold it' and don't go to the bathroom, they keep a mini fridge in their room/den so they don't have to go and eat, and keeps them from moving forward. Now, that is when it's a problem. I'd say you like it, but not addicted. If you feel you are, then maybe talk to a professional. Taking your computer and sitting it in a high traffic area is always a good way to cut down or stop. __________________ I scraped my knees while I was praying And found a demon in my safest haven. Seems like, it's getting harder to believe in anything Than just to get lost in all my selfish thoughts. I wanna know what it'd be like To find perfection in my pride To see nothing in the light Just turn it off In all my spite, in all my spite, I'll turn it off. - Turn It Off - Paramore http://twitter.com/MissEerie

10-28-2009, 04:03 PM	#12 (permalink)
meyaj Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Markham, Ontario Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 571	I used to be until I was put on an anti-depressant. SSRIs really kill that drive. __________________ Medications I've tried: escitalopram, bupropion, venlafaxine, sertraline, nortriptyline, hydroxyzine, lorazepam, diazepam, temazepam, clonazepam, zopiclone, mirtazapine, trazodone, quetiapine, olanzapine, paliperidone Currently taking: 2mg nortriptyline hs(tapering), 7.5mg-15mg zopiclone hs, 2mg clonazepam prn

10-28-2009, 04:21 PM	#13 (permalink)
fma Status: SPA Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Europe Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 53	How many times you do it by day/week? Since youporn and other video sites exists... I don't have porn on my hard drive :P You're 2 hours masturbating yourself? I use to masturbate one/two times per day. __________________ Fighting my anxiety -Blog

10-28-2009, 06:50 AM	#2 (permalink)
nubly Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: USA the greatest and best country in the world!! :) Posts: 7,065	send me your favorite videos

10-28-2009, 10:27 AM	#6 (permalink)
Socially Anxious Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 9	Try to find something better to do with your time. Porn isn't healthy.

10-28-2009, 11:32 AM	#7 (permalink)
Futures Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Midwest Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 1,904	200GB. That's all? If I counted all the dvd's I have, along with what's currently on my drive, I probably have 2 TB of porn. I don't really see what the problem is. I mean, most of us on this site aren't able to establish relationships in the first place, so what's wrong with using alternative means of fulfilling our needs?

10-28-2009, 12:45 PM	#8 (permalink)
shysnowbunny Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Maine Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 18	If you really feel like you have an addiction or are just very concerned about it then talking with a professional may be helpful.

10-28-2009, 01:45 PM	#9 (permalink)
Cyrus Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: England, United Kingdom Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 23	Maybe move your computer into the living room/family room or whatever you call it, is another suggestion, that would definitely restrict how much time you spend on it. Depending on who you live with anyway. And as one suggested above, excercise/working out will definitely surpress your cravings.

10-28-2009, 03:52 PM	#11 (permalink)
contranigma Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Midwest Gender: Male Posts: 169	I do 1-3 times a day and don't really consider myself addicted. I don't dwell on it too much as a moral issue, but I also don't think it should be considered a non-issue if it bothers you. Do what you can to cut back. I think 2 hours a day is in addiction territory but the other posters are right, there are people who are much worse. There is a documentary called "I Can't Stop Masturbating" (really), and the guys jerk off like 14 times a day.

10-28-2009, 04:45 PM	#14 (permalink)
pariahgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 402	I saw a documentary about people addicted to porn and they masturbated like 10-12 hours a day. You're not that bad by comparison but if it bothers you, you probably should cut back. Otherwise you might get one huge muscular arm while the other atrophies. (sorry joke I have to)

10-28-2009, 05:14 PM	#15 (permalink)
fma Status: SPA Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Europe Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 53	10-12 hours? !! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rgu3bnyqwPo __________________ Fighting my anxiety -Blog

10-28-2009, 06:09 PM	#17 (permalink)
gold132 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 154	I watch porn now and then but never download it. I think when you download it thats when the problems start. There's plenty of free stuff out there you don't need to download anything

10-28-2009, 06:22 PM	#18 (permalink)
shadowmask Status: Seeing stars Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: TN Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,081	I find porn boring. My own imagination is much more useful. __________________ Basically, I'm complicated I have a hard time taking the easy way I wouldn't call it schizophrenia But I'll be at least two people today

10-28-2009, 06:33 PM	#20 (permalink)
njodis Status: kermit in shock Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ontario Gender: Male Posts: 7,713	I think there are some things you just don't really want to see in super high definition...