Social Anxiety Support

BeNice · 09-16-2009, 01:46 PM

http://collegecandy.com/2009/09/01/n...ocial-suicide/ = Shoot myself in the brains, but before that strangle the author to death

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000...465849142.html = Thank you

ivankaramazov · 09-16-2009, 03:33 PM

Don't trust me? Like I want anything to do with some facebook ***** in the first place.

EagerMinnow84 · 09-16-2009, 03:53 PM

I have lived without Facebook for this long, I am sure I can manage forever.

I had it for about 2 weeks before I got so terribly bored with it that I deactivated my account, never to return.

When I choose to be social I much rather, you know, actually verbally speak to the other person.

I guess I am old fashioned that way.

WineKitty · 09-16-2009, 04:39 PM

I just started a myspace page. I dont really like myspace but its just to keep up with certain people.

TheGMan · 09-16-2009, 11:04 PM

facebook offers benefits for people with SA who typically can't just talk to people.

That said, I really try to avoid all the " I just ate a sandwich" type talk. Same goes for Twitter.

Emptyheart · 09-16-2009, 11:29 PM

I think facebook is worse for people with SA...I think it makes us interact with people online instead of verbally talking to them..I think we tend to avoid face to face convoes and head to facebook to do all the talking...how are we ever going to have guts starts face to face convos if we're hiding behind computers! That's why I try to avoid Internet interactions.

pointy · 09-17-2009, 08:04 AM

I managed to read about two and a half paragraphs of the first article before my eyes began watering and I experienced a gagging reflex.

The second link rings very true. I am on facebook and I can't say that I've really had any worthwhile interaction there at all. Nor can I see what is so important about other people's interactions there in general.

Emerald3 · 09-17-2009, 01:42 PM

I'm on facebook, and it has good points and bad. It makes me feel down when I see what my friends get up to and I know I can't do the same. But it helps me to keep in contact with my friends, so i dont have to use a phone or meet up face to face.

WineKitty · 09-17-2009, 01:47 PM

I dont put a whole lot of stock in Myspace (dont have facebook). I just wnat to be able to touch bases with a few people.

STKinTHEmud · 09-17-2009, 03:04 PM

I don't think Facebook has affected the real-life interactions I have with friends. Those people I would hang out with in real-life, I still do. I don't use Facebook as a substitute for real interaction. In fact, I often use Facebook to arrange social events, basic things like going out to a bar or to see if anyone wants to go to this or that movie or party with me. I don't read those "I just ate this or that today" posts, but I do sometimes read those news article posts that interest me, or look at pictures of my good friends, and respond to funny posts and status updates. All in all, Facebook is a useful and fun tool to use every now and then.

And I sometimes Facebook stalk people.

Micronian · 09-18-2009, 03:18 AM

I avoid people on facebook about as much as I do in real life...

Fairydust · 09-18-2009, 08:55 AM

I went on facebook for a while over a year ago but soon grew bored with it. I don't care if someone's just eaten or if they've just been on the toilet. Why do I need to know information like that anyway?

I'd rather keep in touch with close family and friends who have known me for years and accept me as I am. I'm also a very private person and would feel uncomfortable sharing every moment of my life for anyone to see.

TheGMan · 09-18-2009, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by STKinTHEmud

I don't think Facebook has affected the real-life interactions I have with friends. Those people I would hang out with in real-life, I still do. I don't use Facebook as a substitute for real interaction. In fact, I often use Facebook to arrange social events, basic things like going out to a bar or to see if anyone wants to go to this or that movie or party with me. I don't read those "I just ate this or that today" posts, but I do sometimes read those news article posts that interest me, or look at pictures of my good friends, and respond to funny posts and status updates. All in all, Facebook is a useful and fun tool to use every now and then.

And I sometimes Facebook stalk people.

Yeah, this is pretty much how I look at it.

AudreyHepburn · 10-04-2009, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by First 'Article'

I mean, how do you live without Facebook?

Quite easily, actually.

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How do you learn about people?

Talk to them. Face to face or on the phone. Engage in a meaningful and rewarding conversation.

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See pictures?

I mean, I have honestly never wanted to see 78 pictures of my cousins modeling various sunglasses in a store. I would not ask them in person to see those pictures, so why the hell would I want to see them any other way?

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Know what’s going on in your friends’ lives?!

Once again, egad! Talk to them!

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Update everyone on your own life without tons and tons of phone calls?

If they were really your friends making 'tons and tons' of phone calls wouldn't seem so harrowing, would it? The majority of Facebook friends are mild acquaintances (if even that) that you just added for the ego boost. Please, we all know you wouldn't actually talk in real life.

Facebook (and Twitter) is just a fad that will die in about six years. But honestly it couldn't vanish into oblivion soon enough.

09-16-2009, 01:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
BeNice Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Coastal New Jersey Posts: 6,832	Two links about Facebook http://collegecandy.com/2009/09/01/n...ocial-suicide/ = Shoot myself in the brains, but before that strangle the author to death http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000...465849142.html = Thank you __________________ Market capitalism can co-opt virtually any low-cost alternative and sell it right back at ridiculous prices. -Joe Bageant http://www.joebageant.com/joe/2007/0...eat-ameri.html

09-16-2009, 03:53 PM	#3 (permalink)
EagerMinnow84 Status: Living in Technicolor Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dancing with Gene Kelly Gender: Female Posts: 1,189	I have lived without Facebook for this long, I am sure I can manage forever. I had it for about 2 weeks before I got so terribly bored with it that I deactivated my account, never to return. When I choose to be social I much rather, you know, actually verbally speak to the other person. I guess I am old fashioned that way. __________________ I don't know, I kind of like him. He's the exact opposite of everything I really hate. In a way, he's such a clueless dork, he's almost kind of cool

09-16-2009, 04:39 PM	#4 (permalink)
WineKitty Status: Almost 10,000 Posts :) Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Alone Inside My Mind Gender: Female Posts: 9,968	I just started a myspace page. I dont really like myspace but its just to keep up with certain people. __________________ "The more I know about people, the better I like my dog." - Mark Twain

09-16-2009, 11:04 PM	#5 (permalink)
TheGMan Status: Remarkable Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 1,068	facebook offers benefits for people with SA who typically can't just talk to people. That said, I really try to avoid all the " I just ate a sandwich" type talk. Same goes for Twitter. __________________ My name is Graham Couzens. I have had social phobia my entire life. I am a radical left-libertarian anarchist with a "'big tent" political philosophy. I am mostly concerned about civil liberties. I have attended many schools and have 1 useless degree. I am self employed in marketing. I am married and have 2 children, 4 cats, and 1 rabbit. I am interested in embracing my social anxiety and welcoming positive energies. facebook.com/couzens twitter.com/grahamcouzens

09-17-2009, 01:47 PM	#9 (permalink)
WineKitty Status: Almost 10,000 Posts :) Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Alone Inside My Mind Gender: Female Posts: 9,968	I dont put a whole lot of stock in Myspace (dont have facebook). I just wnat to be able to touch bases with a few people. __________________ "The more I know about people, the better I like my dog." - Mark Twain

09-16-2009, 03:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
ivankaramazov Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 237	Don't trust me? Like I want anything to do with some facebook ***** in the first place.

09-16-2009, 11:29 PM	#6 (permalink)
Emptyheart Status: wishes to be SA-free Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: In my own world. Gender: Female Posts: 368	I think facebook is worse for people with SA...I think it makes us interact with people online instead of verbally talking to them..I think we tend to avoid face to face convoes and head to facebook to do all the talking...how are we ever going to have guts starts face to face convos if we're hiding behind computers! That's why I try to avoid Internet interactions.

09-17-2009, 08:04 AM	#7 (permalink)
pointy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 112	I managed to read about two and a half paragraphs of the first article before my eyes began watering and I experienced a gagging reflex. The second link rings very true. I am on facebook and I can't say that I've really had any worthwhile interaction there at all. Nor can I see what is so important about other people's interactions there in general.

09-17-2009, 01:42 PM	#8 (permalink)
Emerald3 Status: Wants to be someone else Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 283	I'm on facebook, and it has good points and bad. It makes me feel down when I see what my friends get up to and I know I can't do the same. But it helps me to keep in contact with my friends, so i dont have to use a phone or meet up face to face.

09-17-2009, 03:04 PM	#10 (permalink)
STKinTHEmud Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: CA Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 359	I don't think Facebook has affected the real-life interactions I have with friends. Those people I would hang out with in real-life, I still do. I don't use Facebook as a substitute for real interaction. In fact, I often use Facebook to arrange social events, basic things like going out to a bar or to see if anyone wants to go to this or that movie or party with me. I don't read those "I just ate this or that today" posts, but I do sometimes read those news article posts that interest me, or look at pictures of my good friends, and respond to funny posts and status updates. All in all, Facebook is a useful and fun tool to use every now and then. And I sometimes Facebook stalk people.

09-18-2009, 03:18 AM	#11 (permalink)
Micronian Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Osaka, Japan Gender: Male Posts: 1,940	I avoid people on facebook about as much as I do in real life... __________________ "I might be great tomorrow, but hopeless yesterday"

09-18-2009, 08:55 AM	#12 (permalink)
Fairydust Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Wales Gender: Female Posts: 493	I went on facebook for a while over a year ago but soon grew bored with it. I don't care if someone's just eaten or if they've just been on the toilet. Why do I need to know information like that anyway? I'd rather keep in touch with close family and friends who have known me for years and accept me as I am. I'm also a very private person and would feel uncomfortable sharing every moment of my life for anyone to see.