If you're like me and struggle with making friends, don't go. You'll feel lonley and want to kill yourself if you do. And it's hard to focus and get good grades when you're trying not to kill yourself.
I don't know. SA and lack of friendships can make college difficult, for sure. But many people are successful in spite of that. I know one girl who just completely put making friends aside in order to focus on coursework. She made her classes her focus and didn't worry about anything else. I guess it's all about what matters to you.
Also, don't feel like you can never make friends just because you have difficulty at one place and period in time. You can never know for sure what the future holds. Don't assume that just because things are difficult now, that they always will be. Hang in there. And for now, focus on what you can do to make your life feel more worthwhile, with or without college friends. Maybe you have some hobbies you enjoy?
When you're surrounded by people holding hands, walking the streets in groups dressed for parties, and laughing with their newfound best friends, it's pretty hard to keep academics at the forefront of your mind at all times. A lot of what I saw were young, hot students flaunting their social success in my viewing space, and it really made me feel inferior.
this is not a troll, this man speaks the truth. I went through it too. Barely passed. If you do struggle with making friends the loneliness can drive you quite mad. months without human interaction can lead to too much soliattary interaction.....
So how about all of us that did go, that got it all done and then get out with no jobs and tons of debt, and wasting almost a decade of life to boot? College is not really worth it anymore, wages for college graduates peaked in 2000.
Yeah but it won't be better somewhere else. What should change? I won't have friends at work, either, and my collegues will go out together every other night and exclude me. They may also try to replace me with someone more likeable and fire me.
I failed out of college (depression-related loss of interest), but until this year it was the best time of my life socially. It of course helped that I went to a geeky dorm at a nerdy school, but I felt like part of a community despite my social awkwardness.
Having an education is important. The OP's reasons for not going to college are juvenile at best. I have vision issues and made it through college perfectly fine.
Get some willpower, go to business school, learn some crap, start a company, become rich. Self actualize. Use the power to make the world a better place. The power of an un-distracted human and their will is immense and is available to anyone.
Employers still want a bachelor's degree, although they're using the degrees as an arbitrary benchmark to deny suitable applicants from middle-skill jobs. They'll toss your resume in the trash bin if they don't see a traditional degree. I've seen job listings from IT help desks to office secretaries that require a bachelor's degree.
Plenty of people don't go to college and still feel lonley and want to kill themselves. Going to college or not going won't really change that. The most important thing is to get professional help and to try your hardest to work on your illnesses.
Im a lot more lonely sitting here at home rotting away.. I don't see how I can get even more lonely.. maybe If i see others interacting and me being excluded again due to being abnormal, I guess..
Still I have to overcome this disease before I can consider that, and it might be too late at this old age let alone how old I will be if I ever recover..
I need to do something though.. Im simply sick of being a worthless NEET.
Its considerably harder to acquire a gf in this position.. then again it feels like its too late for that as well.. Im running out of time and there are a lot of catch 22s in front of me.. by the time i've bettered myself I would've lost my youth and it won't even matter anymore! I'm quite doomed to a sad lonely miserable life of despair and suffering.. I know it.
This is one of reasons why I skipped college, I was too afraid to start over in a new place. Sometimes I wish I had more guts. Maybe I would have met some nice people.
Maybe I would feel lonely and like crap, but again, it's better to try than just give up.
I don't go to college to make friends. I go to better set myself up for a future career. I suck at friendships and I don't want a lot of friends anyway.
The primary goal of college is to learn and get a degree so you can hopefully get a decent job. It's not at all about making friends, that would just be a bonus.
Screw the friends thing. Many people often lose touch with each other after graduating (ie: hanging out with each other personally)....unless they choose to stay in the same town several years post-graduation. I survived and I've seen few others survive on this site as well. Some us might have lost friends or might have not made any friends period over the years. But, the damn thing is finally over.
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