Social Anxiety Support

listenjusting · 11-07-2009, 02:34 PM

I think the no sex rule is good for a forum like this. I have absolutely no interest in reading about other people's sex life. But this site seems too strict when it comes to sexually related problems, or when sexual terms are occasionally used in a light-hearted reply.

Neptunus · 11-07-2009, 03:49 PM

^ I suggest we dub it "The Birds and the Bees" subforum.

Delicate · 11-07-2009, 07:24 PM

I really wish you wouldn't delete this

. Think about how many times this subject has been brought up. I appreciate that some things are out of your hands. But I think this post... in addition to the others bring up a really good point. There's a lot of things I want to post but feel like it's a "bad thing" and I can't say and it's nothing seedy. Yet there are posts in the triumphs section saying "I lost my virginity I saw a prostitute". It's easier for guys anyway... sorry personal issues. My point is that every member here should be a valued customer to you, if no one posted you wouldn't have a business and by shutting any threads you don't want to hear you're insulting and disrespecting and disregarding what a large proportion of your members are saying... again think how many times this thread has been brought up. The least you could do is acknowledge it and not lock it like it's a sin because we're not in a nunnery. It's upsetting to me because you don't seem to read all the posts before deleting and every single post has made a valid point. Because this website's so successful it seems like you don't care about the members and since the key topic is anxiety, by shutting people down when they talk, in what is supposed to be an open and supportive environment, that type of thing only causes anxiety problems.

ecotec83 · 11-07-2009, 07:55 PM

Don't know much about forum software so i'm not sure if this is feasible or not. Could a 18+ section be created for members only with a warning before entering the section that the material within could be offensive. Or having members request access to that forum that needs to be approved before viewing or posting? That way anyone who is too sensitive/young to handle such topics has fair warning or needs to request access. It would be nice to have a section that deals with sexual issues and advice. Some guidelines such as no bragging about exploits and not getting to graphic would likely keep things from getting out of hand. Just a suggestion.

millenniumman75 · 11-07-2009, 09:39 PM

The Society and Culture section used to be 17+ and by subscription/application only. A moderator would have to allow access.

ivankaramazov · 11-08-2009, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Lithium4

Yea, I get that. There was a thread a little while back about a guy's sexual conquests that even I thought was a little over the top for this forum. But generally speaking, I don't think the topic is in itself offensive. The very fact that people are easily hurt by it suggests to me its an issue that certainly deserves to be talked about.

that was the most awesomist thread in internet history.

Drew · 11-08-2009, 07:36 PM

What would you guys think about having an invite only group for 18+ discussion? The only requirement for being part of the group would be that you agree that you are older than 18.

Drew

Sunshine009 · 11-08-2009, 07:40 PM

What does invite only mean? A member group? not a forum? where people invite you? like that?

WineKitty · 11-08-2009, 07:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drew

What would you guys think about having an invite only group for 18+ discussion? The only requirement for being part of the group would be that you agree that you are older than 18.

Drew

Would probably be well received I am sure.
Just watch the anti women thing that SAS seems to have a stronghold on..just saying...

Syrena · 11-08-2009, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Drew

What would you guys think about having an invite only group for 18+ discussion? The only requirement for being part of the group would be that you agree that you are older than 18.

I like this idea. It's better than not having any space to discuss such issues.

Sunshine009 · 11-08-2009, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by WineKitty

Would probably be well received I am sure.
Just watch the anti women thing that SAS seems to have a stronghold on..just saying...

maybe there should be a man's group and a women's group and a gay group or groups? oh my that's a lot now.

ecotec83 · 11-08-2009, 08:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drew

What would you guys think about having an invite only group for 18+ discussion? The only requirement for being part of the group would be that you agree that you are older than 18.

Drew

I'd be onboard

Drella · 11-08-2009, 08:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drew

What would you guys think about having an invite only group for 18+ discussion? The only requirement for being part of the group would be that you agree that you are older than 18.

Drew

I think this would be a welcomed improvement to the forum. I'm assuming that the moderation would be a little more lax there, if that were the case? I'm not saying that rules should be broken, but that posting a expletive (in a non-sexually graphic manner) with only one asterisk should not result in an infraction in an 18+ group, for example. In any event, I believe this section would provide an outlet for some who have nowhere else to turn, and also encourage some long-time members who have been refraining from posting to feel more comfortable at SAS. Thank you.

Sunshine009 · 11-08-2009, 08:09 PM

I kind of think it is too personal to post about for me. I don't care what others do. The rules seem like they are going to be difficult to come up with. I wouldn't even know where to start with that.

zookeeper · 11-08-2009, 08:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drew

What would you guys think about having an invite only group for 18+ discussion? The only requirement for being part of the group would be that you agree that you are older than 18.

Drew

I think it's a great idea. At least it gives somewhere to talk about things in a (relatively) safe environment.

JFmtl · 11-08-2009, 08:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drew

What would you guys think about having an invite only group for 18+ discussion? The only requirement for being part of the group would be that you agree that you are older than 18.

Drew

I think that would be a good add to the site. That would however require a certain level of maturity from the users so that it's doesn't turn in unnecessary too graphic or a bragging forum.

As some people said before, SAers can have issues regarding sex, and sometimes the better advices can come from fellow SAers rather than from people on ordinary forums.

somethinginthewind · 11-08-2009, 10:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drew

What would you guys think about having an invite only group for 18+ discussion? The only requirement for being part of the group would be that you agree that you are older than 18.

Drew

Awesome.

WineKitty · 11-08-2009, 10:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drella

I think this would be a welcomed improvement to the forum. I'm assuming that the moderation would be a little more lax there, if that were the case? I'm not saying that rules should be broken, but that posting a expletive (in a non-sexually graphic manner) with only one asterisk should not result in an infraction in an 18+ group, for example. In any event, I believe this section would provide an outlet for some who have nowhere else to turn, and also encourage some long-time members who have been refraining from posting to feel more comfortable at SAS. Thank you.

Awesome post there, Drella, and i am so glad to see you posting again.

From the poster formerly known as Penny

drealm · 11-08-2009, 10:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sunshine009

maybe there should be a man's group and a women's group and a gay group or groups? oh my that's a lot now.

There already are.

nothing to fear · 11-08-2009, 10:32 PM

i like that idea as well, Drew

11-07-2009, 03:49 PM	#22 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Authenticating Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 2,840	^ I suggest we dub it "The Birds and the Bees" subforum. __________________ "When I stand before thee at the day's end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing." ~Rabindranath Tagore "Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up. We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on." ---Sean Covey

11-07-2009, 07:24 PM	#23 (permalink)
Delicate Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 758	I really wish you wouldn't delete this . Think about how many times this subject has been brought up. I appreciate that some things are out of your hands. But I think this post... in addition to the others bring up a really good point. There's a lot of things I want to post but feel like it's a "bad thing" and I can't say and it's nothing seedy. Yet there are posts in the triumphs section saying "I lost my virginity I saw a prostitute". It's easier for guys anyway... sorry personal issues. My point is that every member here should be a valued customer to you, if no one posted you wouldn't have a business and by shutting any threads you don't want to hear you're insulting and disrespecting and disregarding what a large proportion of your members are saying... again think how many times this thread has been brought up. The least you could do is acknowledge it and not lock it like it's a sin because we're not in a nunnery. It's upsetting to me because you don't seem to read all the posts before deleting and every single post has made a valid point. Because this website's so successful it seems like you don't care about the members and since the key topic is anxiety, by shutting people down when they talk, in what is supposed to be an open and supportive environment, that type of thing only causes anxiety problems. __________________ Safety Rule Update# Don't talk to strangers... unless you want to meet anyone ever. Demetri Martin

11-07-2009, 07:55 PM	#24 (permalink)
ecotec83 Status: Ascending from the dark Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Belleville, Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 367	Don't know much about forum software so i'm not sure if this is feasible or not. Could a 18+ section be created for members only with a warning before entering the section that the material within could be offensive. Or having members request access to that forum that needs to be approved before viewing or posting? That way anyone who is too sensitive/young to handle such topics has fair warning or needs to request access. It would be nice to have a section that deals with sexual issues and advice. Some guidelines such as no bragging about exploits and not getting to graphic would likely keep things from getting out of hand. Just a suggestion. __________________ ~Our greatest battles are those with our own mind.~

11-07-2009, 09:39 PM	#25 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,628	The Society and Culture section used to be 17+ and by subscription/application only. A moderator would have to allow access. __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

11-08-2009, 07:40 PM	#28 (permalink)
Sunshine009 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,642	What does invite only mean? A member group? not a forum? where people invite you? like that? __________________ "God grant me the serentity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" - serenity prayer

11-07-2009, 02:34 PM	#21 (permalink)
listenjusting Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 222	I think the no sex rule is good for a forum like this. I have absolutely no interest in reading about other people's sex life. But this site seems too strict when it comes to sexually related problems, or when sexual terms are occasionally used in a light-hearted reply.

11-08-2009, 07:36 PM	#27 (permalink)
Drew Status: Administrator Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Seattle, WA Gender: Male Posts: 1,381	What would you guys think about having an invite only group for 18+ discussion? The only requirement for being part of the group would be that you agree that you are older than 18. Drew

11-08-2009, 08:09 PM	#34 (permalink)
Sunshine009 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,642	I kind of think it is too personal to post about for me. I don't care what others do. The rules seem like they are going to be difficult to come up with. I wouldn't even know where to start with that. __________________ "God grant me the serentity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" - serenity prayer

11-08-2009, 10:32 PM	#40 (permalink)
nothing to fear Status: silence is sexy Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Toronto, Canada Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 4,840	i like that idea as well, Drew __________________ everything was beautiful, and nothing hurt. ~ i really like music. and photography, though i'm nothing special.