Why can't we discuss sexual inexperience and/or being virgins?

[WintersTale]

I know this is a sensitive topic, but I'd like to know why we can't discuss this here. It's a topic that hits a lot of people here; there are a lot of older virgins here, and people who have never had a girlfriend/boyfriend. Why are we allowed to discuss how frustrated we are with everything else, but not with this? Being a virgin is frustrating, and most often social anxiety sufferers don't get into relationships easily.

Normally, I wouldn't bring this up, but after both of those threads were closed, I felt I needed to speak out. There needs to be some sort of rule that allows discussion of these topics within reason.

[kenny87]

I see these threads all the time, nothing says its not allowed, if a thread is locked maybe it has to do with it has a repeating phase of everyone saying the same thing 100 times over?

[millenniumman75]

It has to do with the target audience.
We are rated as a family-friendly site.
The Relationships forum, even when it was private, had a minimum age of 17 (similar to R-rated movies in America).

It's the audience.

[Amocholes]

Generally we let such threads go until things start getting a bit too graphic for kids, which they always do. When we have to start issuing Infractions then its time to close the thread.

[WineKitty]

Originally Posted by kenny87

I see these threads all the time, nothing says its not allowed, if a thread is locked maybe it has to do with it has a repeating phase of everyone saying the same thing 100 times over?

d There are always threads like this.

[Jrock]

Originally Posted by Amocholes

Generally we let such threads go until things start getting a bit too graphic for kids, which they always do. When we have to start issuing Infractions then its time to close the thread.

What are we protecting the kids from? Talking about viginity is minor compared to what they see on TV or on the playground

[millenniumman75]

This is still supposed to be a family site..

Labelled with ICRA
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No sexual material
No violence
Mild expletives
No potentially harmful activities
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This material appears in an educational context
The label declares that it was issued on 2006-11-15

Labels file is in ICRAchecked database

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[WintersTale]

Okay, I got you. Thanks for explaining it, MM - I didn't know this was a family oriented site.

[huh]

*In Helen Lovejoy voice* "Wont someone please think of the children?!?"

I was on forums when I was younger (13-15) that had more graphic content than this. I'm skeptical that censoring and shielding things from kids is going to be helpful in most situations, depending on the topic. Oh well, the rules are the rules I suppose.

[VCL XI]

There's a couple of forums elsewhere strictly devoted to the topic, if you're interested.

[Jrock]

Then you site should do away with the guidlnes set forth. As I previously said. Kids are getting plenty of informtation from the school playground. You aren't keep them from anything, other then punishing adults, why is this retorical system in place?

Originally Posted by millenniumman75

This is still supposed to be a family site..

Labelled with ICRA
http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/...1/#post1010871 is labelled
No nudity
No sexual material
No violence
Mild expletives
No potentially harmful activities
User-generated content such as chat rooms and message boards (moderated)
This material appears in an educational context
The label declares that it was issued on 2006-11-15

Labels file is in ICRAchecked database

The Internet Content Rating Association (ICRA) is an international, non-profit organization of internet leaders working to develop a safer internet. ICRA has long believed that self-regulation leads to the best balance between the free flow of digital content and protecting children from potentially harmful material.

The centrepiece of the organization is the descriptive vocabulary, often referred to as "the ICRA questionnaire." Content providers check which of the elements in the questionnaire are present or absent from their websites. This then generates a small file containing the labels, which is then linked to the content on one or more domains.

Users, especially parents of young children, can then use filtering software to allow or disallow access to web sites based on the information declared in the label. A key point is that the Internet Content Rating Association does not rate internet content - the content providers do that, using the ICRA labelling system. ICRA makes no value judgement about sites. More...

[millenniumman75]

Because there are some parents who think that a lot of the crap should not be out where kids can get it.

Why the cynicism - we have rules to maintain order. I don't get this obsession with anarchy! sheesh.

[Jrock]

Who's suggesting anarchy? I don't like the fact adults get punished because "we gotta protect the kids". That line is thinking is way off base. Kids get more exposure to the things we try to protect them from during school. Opening up SAS a little more isn't going to become a bad influence on them. They come to this site already influence by society. sheesh They probably know more at 14 years old then most in their 30's regarding virginity, sex, language etc....

Besides people don't need protecting. Let them protect themselves. Quit oppressing and restricting adults. Just because there is a few youngsters here doesn't mean we all have to be treated like kids.

[anomalous]

What bothers me isn't the moderators removing graphic content in individual posts, it's the seemingly indiscriminate closing of threads lately just because one or two people cracked a dirty joke. It strikes me as unfair to the other 95% of us who were having a good discussion.

[Amocholes]

It has already been explained why the board is the way it is as a family oriented site.