Social Anxiety Support

Haydsmom2007 · 11-04-2009, 01:21 PM

I'm reading this little book... ways to get over shyness =\ lol. But anyway I like it. And one of the things it says to do is before you go out just start dancing and jumping and running around be ridiculous for a few minutes. And then when you leave you will be energized and have more confidence. And it's true... I know after I've done anything physical like that I feel so much more energized and confident. So today I turned on music and I'm like, EMBARASSED! WTF. I'm alone. No one can see me. But it's hard to force myself to jump around... would you have a hard time getting up and being silly if you were alone?

Emptyheart · 11-04-2009, 01:24 PM

Hahaha that's really cool! Never knew that..and yes if I were alone with not even a soul next to me..I'd dance like there's no tommorow XD

KumagoroBeam · 11-04-2009, 01:26 PM

I do it all the time.

its_a_rick · 11-04-2009, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Haydsmom2007

So today I turned on music and I'm like, EMBARASSED! WTF. I'm alone. No one can see me. But it's hard to force myself to jump around... would you have a hard time getting up and being silly if you were alone?

Lol yes, very hard.
I guess trying so hard not to attract any attention and not make a fool out of yourself is just so ingrained it's hard to override that, even when you're 100% certain noone can see or hear you.

Haydsmom2007 · 11-04-2009, 01:28 PM

Hahaha okay I feel better I just started dancing around like a freak to black eyed peas. That's actually a pretty good workout!

_AJ_ · 11-04-2009, 01:33 PM

no

Princesspoopla · 11-04-2009, 01:34 PM

Lol that sounds fun,
I think I would make sure first that I'm alone and nobody is home then start dancing like crazy and then check again to see if anyone is there and dance again

Prakas · 11-04-2009, 01:35 PM

me? dance? you've lost your mind!

It makes alot of sense though, and it might work to some extent. I don't have the courage for it though.

photofreak · 11-04-2009, 04:24 PM

when I first started to work out. i thought dancing would be really good to do. So i started to dance but would feel comfortable and i couldn't figure out why. i kept asking myself "why the hack do i feel nervous,silly, stupid? and then i would tell myself that NO ONE can see me! and i kept telling myself that no one can see, no one can see... it took a couple of days but i got over that feeling and now i'll dance like a mad man lol but if there is someone around.. forget it. i can't dance.

Cait Sith · 11-04-2009, 04:30 PM

I do that sometimes. It makes me feel good. It's strange how something like that gives you confidence, but it really does work

shyvr6 · 11-04-2009, 05:17 PM

I would do it, but my back is killing me. I can hardly breathe when I move. I can see what that book is saying. It does make you more energized and maybe it will make you not take yourself so seriously for that time.

kos · 11-04-2009, 05:21 PM

My dancing is more about enthusiam rather than skill but I dance pretty much everyday by myself. Get yourself an ipod and a good pair of headphones and your prone to bust a move.

Gamer85 · 11-04-2009, 06:01 PM

I dance around just about every morning while I'm getting ready to go to work. It does help to get me going, and get me out of the door.

Sunshine009 · 11-04-2009, 06:11 PM

layitontheline · 11-04-2009, 06:19 PM

That's actually a really good idea. My therapist suggested something similar before. It would be really hard for me because I'm insanely uncomfortable in my own body, but I guess that's the point. I shall try it.

Sunshine009 · 11-04-2009, 06:46 PM

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Lost_loner · 11-04-2009, 06:48 PM

Oh my gosh I do this all the time, it does wonders for your self-confidence to just let loose and go crazy. It's ironic how being alone can make you more social; now i just gots to learn how to do this when people are around.

Sunshine009 · 11-04-2009, 06:52 PM

I"m glad people don't know where I live. (I hope)

matty · 11-04-2009, 08:49 PM

Sounds like an interesting book.
Would I get up and dance, maybe. I cant dance so rarely do but if it works then why not.

I may even try it some time, shh dont let anyone else know

11-04-2009, 01:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	Would you get up and start dancing right now? I'm reading this little book... ways to get over shyness =\ lol. But anyway I like it. And one of the things it says to do is before you go out just start dancing and jumping and running around be ridiculous for a few minutes. And then when you leave you will be energized and have more confidence. And it's true... I know after I've done anything physical like that I feel so much more energized and confident. So today I turned on music and I'm like, EMBARASSED! WTF. I'm alone. No one can see me. But it's hard to force myself to jump around... would you have a hard time getting up and being silly if you were alone?

11-04-2009, 01:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
Emptyheart Status: wishes to be SA-free Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: In my own world. Gender: Female Posts: 369	Hahaha that's really cool! Never knew that..and yes if I were alone with not even a soul next to me..I'd dance like there's no tommorow XD __________________ Her skin is white cloth, and she's all sewn apart and she has many colored pins sticking out of her heart. She has many different zombies who are deeply in her trance. She even has a zombie who was originally from France. But she knows she has ......a battle, a battle she cannot win. For if someone gets too close to her, the pins stick farther in.

11-04-2009, 01:26 PM	#3 (permalink)
KumagoroBeam Status: snafu Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 782	I do it all the time. __________________ "Without music, life would be a mistake"

11-04-2009, 01:33 PM	#6 (permalink)
_AJ_ Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Edmonton, Alberta, Canada Posts: 734	no __________________ Courage is not the absence of fear, it is the decision to act in spite of it.

11-04-2009, 01:34 PM	#7 (permalink)
Princesspoopla Status: one day. Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 64	Lol that sounds fun, I think I would make sure first that I'm alone and nobody is home then start dancing like crazy and then check again to see if anyone is there and dance again __________________ If your heart wears thin I will hold you up And I will hide you When it gets too much, I'll be right beside you.

11-04-2009, 01:28 PM	#5 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	Hahaha okay I feel better I just started dancing around like a freak to black eyed peas. That's actually a pretty good workout!

11-04-2009, 01:35 PM	#8 (permalink)
Prakas Status: Failure - Life Sucks Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Delaware Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 434	me? dance? you've lost your mind! It makes alot of sense though, and it might work to some extent. I don't have the courage for it though.

11-04-2009, 04:24 PM	#9 (permalink)
photofreak Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: lake worth, FL Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 56	when I first started to work out. i thought dancing would be really good to do. So i started to dance but would feel comfortable and i couldn't figure out why. i kept asking myself "why the hack do i feel nervous,silly, stupid? and then i would tell myself that NO ONE can see me! and i kept telling myself that no one can see, no one can see... it took a couple of days but i got over that feeling and now i'll dance like a mad man lol but if there is someone around.. forget it. i can't dance.

11-04-2009, 04:30 PM	#10 (permalink)
Cait Sith Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 69	I do that sometimes. It makes me feel good. It's strange how something like that gives you confidence, but it really does work

11-04-2009, 05:17 PM	#11 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 9,645	I would do it, but my back is killing me. I can hardly breathe when I move. I can see what that book is saying. It does make you more energized and maybe it will make you not take yourself so seriously for that time. __________________ Music

11-04-2009, 05:21 PM	#12 (permalink)
kos Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Ontario Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 513	My dancing is more about enthusiam rather than skill but I dance pretty much everyday by myself. Get yourself an ipod and a good pair of headphones and your prone to bust a move.

11-04-2009, 06:01 PM	#13 (permalink)
Gamer85 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: CA Gender: Male Age: 32 Posts: 16	I do it I dance around just about every morning while I'm getting ready to go to work. It does help to get me going, and get me out of the door.

11-04-2009, 06:11 PM	#14 (permalink)
Sunshine009 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,644	__________________ "God grant me the serentity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" - serenity prayer

11-04-2009, 06:19 PM	#15 (permalink)
layitontheline Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Eh? Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 321	That's actually a really good idea. My therapist suggested something similar before. It would be really hard for me because I'm insanely uncomfortable in my own body, but I guess that's the point. I shall try it.

11-04-2009, 06:46 PM	#16 (permalink)
Sunshine009 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,644	__________________ "God grant me the serentity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" - serenity prayer

11-04-2009, 06:48 PM	#17 (permalink)
Sunshine009 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,644	__________________ "God grant me the serentity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" - serenity prayer

11-04-2009, 06:48 PM	#18 (permalink)
Lost_loner Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 79	Oh my gosh I do this all the time, it does wonders for your self-confidence to just let loose and go crazy. It's ironic how being alone can make you more social; now i just gots to learn how to do this when people are around.

11-04-2009, 06:52 PM	#19 (permalink)
Sunshine009 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,644	I"m glad people don't know where I live. (I hope) __________________ "God grant me the serentity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" - serenity prayer

11-04-2009, 08:49 PM	#20 (permalink)
matty Status: Falling Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Brisbane Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 202	Sounds like an interesting book. Would I get up and dance, maybe. I cant dance so rarely do but if it works then why not. I may even try it some time, shh dont let anyone else know