Thanks for your comments everyone.
Yes I think we all agree it hurts if someone says we are ugly, it is very hurtful, I mean our mind is separate to our body and our mind wants us to be seen as worthy, good enough, desirable, etc - and when our body causes us to be seen as ugly, horrible, repulsive, etc - it is bound to hurt.
But is it really that bad to be judged as ugly? I mean its impossible for everyone to like how we look, some people who are shallow will be critical of how a lot of people look because they only see beauty skin deep and any flaws or imperfections are seen as ugly to them. I just feel there must be a way for me to get my head around finding the judgement of ugly as hurtful. I mean we all like different things, we all place different levels of importance on different things, its all down to preferences. I totally have the hots for this woman at work, she is so cool, she is clever, nice natured, she is sweet and I think she looks nice. I have told people at work how much I like her and all of them say they don't understand what the attraction is, some have even said she is unattractive. So should one be hurt if someone judges yourself as ugly? I think the logical answer is no, but it does hurt, especially if you have been told you are ugly many times, it kind of confirms it that people see you as ugly and disgusting and think 'Urgh, yuck' when they see you. Its hurtful.