Social Anxiety Support

Lovesick Loner · 11-04-2009, 05:33 PM

I sometimes think about what I'd be willing to trade away or sacrifice just to live a normal life without social anxiety. Would you trade away 10 years from your lifespan if you knew you'd never have SA again? Knowing that you could actually live life to the fullest and not pass up on all the wonderful opportunites and amazing experiences that you always cower from -- would it seem worth it?

Of course, if you already have a happy, productive life despite of SA, that would seem kind of drastic. Also if you're an older person, I doubt you'd want to trade 10 years away if you only have 20 left to begin with. But if SA constantly makes your life horrible, sad, depressing, and lonely, how many of you would make that trade?

Maybe you wouldn't go that far. So, what else would you trade? A good career? Your education? A unique talent? Your good looks? I.Q. points?

GnR · 11-04-2009, 06:05 PM

Is this assuming that we have no other means of improving our current condition?

Lovesick Loner · 11-04-2009, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by GnR

Is this assuming that we have no other means of improving our current condition?

Yes, purely a desperation move; not just on a whim. Assuming you'd live the rest of your life with very bad SA to the point where you're never happy.

Grixxly · 11-04-2009, 06:19 PM

If I could go back in time to were I started becoming a loner and developed SA I would definitely take off 10 years of my life. Who wants to be old anyways?

Perfectionist · 11-04-2009, 06:45 PM

Hmmm.

No, I don't think I'd trade anything that I enjoy in my life right now. I'm working hard for my education, and have managed to find a really neat job. And I would never want my life to end sooner.

Lost_loner · 11-04-2009, 06:53 PM

I'm trying to overcome SA without having to give up anything, and I think that is perfectly attainable...it just takes time and effort. BUT I will admit there are times where I would do almost anything to get rid of SA...but 10 yrs of your life? wow...idk that seems a bit extreme lol.

Neptunus · 11-04-2009, 06:58 PM

Eh... I think I'd have to sacrifice my personality to be SA free.

GnR · 11-04-2009, 07:01 PM

If there were no options, no hope, I would honestly say value wise its probably a five to one ratio. One year SA free for five of these seems fair. Thank god I have hope lol.

ohpewp · 11-04-2009, 07:42 PM

I would give up maybe 15 IQ points.

polythene · 11-04-2009, 07:54 PM

Honestly, I don't have to much to barter with. The only thing I moderately have going for me is my intelligence, and even that's not all that impressive. I'm not good-looking or particularly healthy, so I that wouldn't amount to much. You did suggest shaving years off one's life, though - I suppose this would happen anyway if I kept on being so anxious, so I would go with that. I might also opt for emotional/psychological health: I'd rather be depressed (though I am already, sigh) or suffer from another (manageable) disorder that wouldn't isolate me from people.

Zulaz · 11-04-2009, 07:57 PM

i wouldnt give up anything to be anxiety free. It feels as if my life is set already. if i didnt have SA, i really dont know where i would be in life, or what kind of career i will be going torwards.

I'm working to become a Graphic/Web designer, and this mainly started becuase of my SA. and im really looking forward to my career.

But if i had it super severe and couldnt do anything, i would give up my entertainment at home. (example: Gaming with friends...TV....ect)

Prakas · 11-04-2009, 09:23 PM

I'd rather die at 25 happy, then 80 miserable with SA.

I'd rather be SA-free than rich.

rincewind · 11-05-2009, 04:17 AM

I'd quite happily knock 10 years (or more) off my life if it would get rid of my SA. Wouldn't even have to think about a decision like that.

leonardess · 11-05-2009, 04:44 AM

I'm reasonably sure i could live without this third nipple.

Oh - note to self - actually read the posts.....
yeah, i'd hand over 10 years, it isn't a problem because people who are made of iron, like myself, never die. We just rust.

But yes, I would. we never know when we're going to kick off anyway.

Fuzzy Logic · 11-05-2009, 08:07 AM

Yeah, sure, the years at the end are rubbish anyway.

Haydsmom2007 · 11-05-2009, 09:42 AM

Yes I would trade 10 years of my life. If I ever get to the point where I can't even go to the bathroom by myself, I'd rather someone just kill me, anyway.

veron · 11-05-2009, 11:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Lovesick Loner

Would you trade away 10 years from your lifespan if you knew you'd never have SA again?

Yes, and even more than that. I believe life is about quality, not quantity.

DSPFrat · 11-05-2009, 12:09 PM

I'd trade my athletic ability no doubt, cuz it's pretty useless to me right now.

ShyViolet · 11-05-2009, 12:48 PM

I would take 10 years off my life if it meant I could be normal during the time I had left.

carambola · 11-05-2009, 12:50 PM

I've already basically lost more than 10 years of my life to anxiety and depression.

11-04-2009, 05:33 PM	#1 (permalink)
Lovesick Loner Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Pennsylvania Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 164	What would you trade or sacrifice to be SA free? I sometimes think about what I'd be willing to trade away or sacrifice just to live a normal life without social anxiety. Would you trade away 10 years from your lifespan if you knew you'd never have SA again? Knowing that you could actually live life to the fullest and not pass up on all the wonderful opportunites and amazing experiences that you always cower from -- would it seem worth it? Of course, if you already have a happy, productive life despite of SA, that would seem kind of drastic. Also if you're an older person, I doubt you'd want to trade 10 years away if you only have 20 left to begin with. But if SA constantly makes your life horrible, sad, depressing, and lonely, how many of you would make that trade? Maybe you wouldn't go that far. So, what else would you trade? A good career? Your education? A unique talent? Your good looks? I.Q. points? __________________ "Every day is Like Sunday, Every day is silent and gray" - Morrissey

11-04-2009, 06:45 PM	#5 (permalink)
Perfectionist Status: Too Cool for School Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: At the Hundredth Meridian Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 2,313	Hmmm. No, I don't think I'd trade anything that I enjoy in my life right now. I'm working hard for my education, and have managed to find a really neat job. And I would never want my life to end sooner. __________________ -Oh if Hans Christian Anderson could've had his way with me

11-04-2009, 06:58 PM	#7 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Authenticating Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 2,840	Eh... I think I'd have to sacrifice my personality to be SA free. __________________ "When I stand before thee at the day's end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing." ~Rabindranath Tagore "Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up. We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on." ---Sean Covey

11-04-2009, 07:42 PM	#9 (permalink)
ohpewp Status: Somewhat Human Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Arkansas Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 263	I would give up maybe 15 IQ points. __________________ For longer than I can remember I've been looking for someone like you Someone with a head like yours and a torso too Birds sing and you're gonna PAY! The end.

11-05-2009, 04:17 AM	#13 (permalink)
rincewind Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Scotland, UK Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 291	I'd quite happily knock 10 years (or more) off my life if it would get rid of my SA. Wouldn't even have to think about a decision like that. __________________ Per Ardua Ad Astra

11-04-2009, 06:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
GnR Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Vancouver Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 79	Is this assuming that we have no other means of improving our current condition?

11-04-2009, 06:19 PM	#4 (permalink)
Grixxly Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Maryland Gender: Male Posts: 24	If I could go back in time to were I started becoming a loner and developed SA I would definitely take off 10 years of my life. Who wants to be old anyways?

11-04-2009, 06:53 PM	#6 (permalink)
Lost_loner Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 79	I'm trying to overcome SA without having to give up anything, and I think that is perfectly attainable...it just takes time and effort. BUT I will admit there are times where I would do almost anything to get rid of SA...but 10 yrs of your life? wow...idk that seems a bit extreme lol.

11-04-2009, 07:01 PM	#8 (permalink)
GnR Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Vancouver Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 79	If there were no options, no hope, I would honestly say value wise its probably a five to one ratio. One year SA free for five of these seems fair. Thank god I have hope lol.

11-04-2009, 07:54 PM	#10 (permalink)
polythene Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 219	Honestly, I don't have to much to barter with. The only thing I moderately have going for me is my intelligence, and even that's not all that impressive. I'm not good-looking or particularly healthy, so I that wouldn't amount to much. You did suggest shaving years off one's life, though - I suppose this would happen anyway if I kept on being so anxious, so I would go with that. I might also opt for emotional/psychological health: I'd rather be depressed (though I am already, sigh) or suffer from another (manageable) disorder that wouldn't isolate me from people.

11-04-2009, 07:57 PM	#11 (permalink)
Zulaz Status: Non-Social Child Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern California Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 30	i wouldnt give up anything to be anxiety free. It feels as if my life is set already. if i didnt have SA, i really dont know where i would be in life, or what kind of career i will be going torwards. I'm working to become a Graphic/Web designer, and this mainly started becuase of my SA. and im really looking forward to my career. But if i had it super severe and couldnt do anything, i would give up my entertainment at home. (example: Gaming with friends...TV....ect)

11-04-2009, 09:23 PM	#12 (permalink)
Prakas Status: Failure - Life Sucks Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Delaware Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 431	I'd rather die at 25 happy, then 80 miserable with SA. I'd rather be SA-free than rich.

11-05-2009, 04:44 AM	#14 (permalink)
leonardess Status: wheresthefire?inmyeye! Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: WILL you people please leave me alone?I'm supposed to be working lol Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 1,231	I'm reasonably sure i could live without this third nipple. Oh - note to self - actually read the posts..... yeah, i'd hand over 10 years, it isn't a problem because people who are made of iron, like myself, never die. We just rust. But yes, I would. we never know when we're going to kick off anyway. __________________ One day I will change this sig to something really cool, if I only had a brain....

11-05-2009, 08:07 AM	#15 (permalink)
Fuzzy Logic Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: United Kingdom, Northern Ireland Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 312	Yeah, sure, the years at the end are rubbish anyway. __________________ “There is but a thin line between madness and genius. I have been trying valiantly to cross it, but I don’t think I’m mad enough yet.”

11-05-2009, 09:42 AM	#16 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	Yes I would trade 10 years of my life. If I ever get to the point where I can't even go to the bathroom by myself, I'd rather someone just kill me, anyway.

11-05-2009, 12:09 PM	#18 (permalink)
DSPFrat Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 160	I'd trade my athletic ability no doubt, cuz it's pretty useless to me right now. __________________ Hit me up on Facebook

11-05-2009, 12:48 PM	#19 (permalink)
ShyViolet Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 1,942	I would take 10 years off my life if it meant I could be normal during the time I had left.

11-05-2009, 12:50 PM	#20 (permalink)
carambola Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: California Age: 24 Posts: 735	I've already basically lost more than 10 years of my life to anxiety and depression.