Social Anxiety Support

Banzai · 12-30-2009, 03:34 PM

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IHeartSteveMcQueen · 12-30-2009, 03:43 PM

kinda the opposite. I find if I hang out with confident, intelligent, upbeat people I feel like a world beater and I'm a little honored that they see me as a peer, but then again I've been pretty much on an upward swing this last year.

drealm · 12-30-2009, 03:44 PM

When I go into survival mode for emergencies.
When I'm uncontrollably angry.
When I don't have time to think.
When I talk to foreigners who don't speak English.
When I'm with friends (pack mentality).
When I know I'm better than someone at something.

These are all fleeting moments generated by unpredictable circumstances. I have little control over triggering these moment of bravery myself.

Catlover4100 · 12-30-2009, 04:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Banzai

What makes you confident?

If I'm with people less intelligent than I am
If I'm with people less confident than I am (which is almost no one)
If I'm working with people who are confident and I'm comfortable with them ("strength in numbers")

Apart from that, pretty much nothing else makes me confident. No matter how much I know the material etc, if I'm "dumb"[er] than everyone else then my confidence goes just like a bullet.

Anyone share/relate?

Ditto to all three, and wearing a killer outfit and makeup that I feel hot in

SilentWitness · 12-30-2009, 04:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by drealm

When I go into survival mode for emergencies.
When I'm uncontrollably angry.
When I don't have time to think.
When I talk to foreigners who don't speak English.
When I'm with friends (pack mentality).
When I know I'm better than someone at something.

These are all fleeting moments generated by unpredictable circumstances. I have little control over triggering these moment of bravery myself.

Incredibly the same for me with every single one you've listed.

NiTro · 12-30-2009, 04:35 PM

-When i can look into a mirror and think "Man i look good"
-Being somewhere cool/cold
-Being around non-shallow people
-In my house with friends
-During conversations or discussions i feel i can impact positively with questions or input
-When something is well planned out, and stuff matches up
-When i have a diet soda in my hand(yeah i know weird, just seems things are easier when you have a drink lol. Preferably dr. pepper diet

)
-With a fairly small group of people in an open space environment, preferably with a nice draft or flowing air.
-Talking about a topic i am very familiar with and have had experience with.
-My religion/beliefs/prayer
-oh yeah and Adderall also gives me a lot of confidence

MavenMI6Agent009 · 12-30-2009, 04:46 PM

nothing, only acceptance.

polardude18 · 12-30-2009, 05:00 PM

I find that some songs can give you confidence, these are a very good help.

wisteria · 12-30-2009, 05:00 PM

When I get a compliment about a particular talent or skill, like teaching. Knowing I'm being appreciated and that I'm being of some help to someone really makes me feel like I'm worth something and I'm doing something right.

Cosmin · 12-30-2009, 05:07 PM

Surprisingly, confidence is something I don't really lack since I'm mostly in an arrogant mode (so here would probably fit some of the feeling superior things that were mentioned by some).

In my case is more like a constant lethargy caused by depression and hopelessness so it's not that I'm not confident in doing some things, but more like I don't feel like doing them; might sound weird, but it happens.

rincewind · 12-30-2009, 05:09 PM

Nothing really makes me really confident, at best I feel a little more confident than usual, but it's a fragile state. Most of my "confidence-inducers" have been listed already but here are some:
- Being part of a group that I feel relatively comfortable in
- Anger
- Helping students with projects etc
- Days when I feel better than usual about my appearance

Quote:

Originally Posted by drealm

When I talk to foreigners who don't speak English.

That's something really I hate. Usually it's OK but I sometimes have a lot of trouble being understood by non-English speakers, partly because of my accent, partly because I tend to speak too fast. It's incredibly awkward when someone doesn't understand what you said 3 or 4 times in a row

I think my record was trying to tell an Austrian guy the name of a colleague - it literally took 10 attempts for a single word!

BeautifulGunStucknHolster · 12-30-2009, 06:54 PM

my looks, skills, abilities and athleticism.

thewall · 12-30-2009, 06:57 PM

Absolutely nothing.

DitzyDreamer · 12-30-2009, 07:10 PM

1. My academic performance- Knowing that I'm above average gives me confidence.
2. My sanity- College kids are nuts!
3. My job-I really like the people I work with, though the pay sucks!
4. My new figure- I've recently lost some weight, and boy, I've got Marilyn Monroesque proportions!
5. My writing capabilities

Those are just a few things that bring me confidence.

huh · 12-30-2009, 07:59 PM

I'm confident about things if it's something I'm familiar with or am knowledgeable of. That goes for just about everyone I guess. With my current job I have to go about faking a certain level of confidence for reassurance. I'm pretty bad at it tho...heh.

christ~in~me · 12-30-2009, 08:08 PM

as weird as it sounds i feel more confident after i push myslef to do something i wouldent normally do like going to a party,or going to an interview.i also feel confident after a good workout!

rawrguy · 12-30-2009, 08:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by christ~in~me

i also feel confident after a good workout!

Same (:

For me it's mostly music and a good sense of humor.
oh and being with my closest friend

swerdna014 · 12-30-2009, 08:55 PM

Recalling the Red Sox winning the World Series in 04, just thinking that anything was possible...

Thinking about my college running days, especially when I won my last race as a senior (after I didn't make the team as a freshman) and my teammates were cheering my name...

Knowing that in eight months I'll be in grad school and have a whole new set of surroundings, friends, and inspirations...

Knowing that I still have my first kiss to look forward to, whenever the hell that is...

Knowing that I am a fountain of untapped potential just dying to be released...

"The world is changing...the old era is ending...the old ways will not do" - John F. Kennedy

Emptyheart · 12-30-2009, 09:08 PM

Basically when I'm wearing something I feel comfortable in
Or look good in, then i have sparks of confidence.

shyvr6 · 12-30-2009, 09:26 PM

Accomplishing something.

12-30-2009, 03:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
Banzai Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: UK Posts: 2,119	What makes you confident? .

12-30-2009, 03:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
drealm Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 1,230	When I go into survival mode for emergencies. When I'm uncontrollably angry. When I don't have time to think. When I talk to foreigners who don't speak English. When I'm with friends (pack mentality). When I know I'm better than someone at something. These are all fleeting moments generated by unpredictable circumstances. I have little control over triggering these moment of bravery myself.

12-30-2009, 04:35 PM	#6 (permalink)
NiTro Status: Anx-Free 2 months Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Orlando, FL(not in disney land) Gender: Male Posts: 64	-When i can look into a mirror and think "Man i look good" -Being somewhere cool/cold -Being around non-shallow people -In my house with friends -During conversations or discussions i feel i can impact positively with questions or input -When something is well planned out, and stuff matches up -When i have a diet soda in my hand(yeah i know weird, just seems things are easier when you have a drink lol. Preferably dr. pepper diet ) -With a fairly small group of people in an open space environment, preferably with a nice draft or flowing air. -Talking about a topic i am very familiar with and have had experience with. -My religion/beliefs/prayer -oh yeah and Adderall also gives me a lot of confidence __________________ I wish people would stop trying to label my glass and just fill the other half up...

12-30-2009, 04:46 PM	#7 (permalink)
MavenMI6Agent009 Status: UnDERrAted Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: EL Crappo, Tx Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 25,755	nothing, only acceptance. __________________ "The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares." (Henri Nouwen) -------------------------------------------------------

12-30-2009, 05:00 PM	#8 (permalink)
polardude18 Status: Full of vanity or sanity? Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Tennessee Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 756	I find that some songs can give you confidence, these are a very good help. __________________ Negativity is a disease ⇒ Get well soon ↵

12-30-2009, 03:43 PM	#2 (permalink)
IHeartSteveMcQueen Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: May 2009 Location: the lonesome crowded west Gender: Female Posts: 1,872	kinda the opposite. I find if I hang out with confident, intelligent, upbeat people I feel like a world beater and I'm a little honored that they see me as a peer, but then again I've been pretty much on an upward swing this last year.

12-30-2009, 05:00 PM	#9 (permalink)
wisteria Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 674	When I get a compliment about a particular talent or skill, like teaching. Knowing I'm being appreciated and that I'm being of some help to someone really makes me feel like I'm worth something and I'm doing something right.

12-30-2009, 05:07 PM	#10 (permalink)
Cosmin Status: has left the building Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Far away Gender: Male Posts: 658	Surprisingly, confidence is something I don't really lack since I'm mostly in an arrogant mode (so here would probably fit some of the feeling superior things that were mentioned by some). In my case is more like a constant lethargy caused by depression and hopelessness so it's not that I'm not confident in doing some things, but more like I don't feel like doing them; might sound weird, but it happens.

12-30-2009, 06:54 PM	#12 (permalink)
BeautifulGunStucknHolster Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Los Angeles, California Gender: Male Posts: 225	my looks, skills, abilities and athleticism.

12-30-2009, 06:57 PM	#13 (permalink)
thewall Status: stress is a killah Join Date: Feb 2009 Age: 23 Posts: 1,882	Absolutely nothing.

12-30-2009, 07:10 PM	#14 (permalink)
DitzyDreamer Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 338	1. My academic performance- Knowing that I'm above average gives me confidence. 2. My sanity- College kids are nuts! 3. My job-I really like the people I work with, though the pay sucks! 4. My new figure- I've recently lost some weight, and boy, I've got Marilyn Monroesque proportions! 5. My writing capabilities Those are just a few things that bring me confidence.

12-30-2009, 07:59 PM	#15 (permalink)
huh Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: WI Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 5,126	I'm confident about things if it's something I'm familiar with or am knowledgeable of. That goes for just about everyone I guess. With my current job I have to go about faking a certain level of confidence for reassurance. I'm pretty bad at it tho...heh.

12-30-2009, 08:08 PM	#16 (permalink)
christ~in~me Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: FL Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 735	as weird as it sounds i feel more confident after i push myslef to do something i wouldent normally do like going to a party,or going to an interview.i also feel confident after a good workout!

12-30-2009, 08:55 PM	#18 (permalink)
swerdna014 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 59	Recalling the Red Sox winning the World Series in 04, just thinking that anything was possible... Thinking about my college running days, especially when I won my last race as a senior (after I didn't make the team as a freshman) and my teammates were cheering my name... Knowing that in eight months I'll be in grad school and have a whole new set of surroundings, friends, and inspirations... Knowing that I still have my first kiss to look forward to, whenever the hell that is... Knowing that I am a fountain of untapped potential just dying to be released... "The world is changing...the old era is ending...the old ways will not do" - John F. Kennedy

12-30-2009, 09:08 PM	#19 (permalink)
Emptyheart Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: The core of earth..its hot Gender: Female Posts: 2,264	Basically when I'm wearing something I feel comfortable in Or look good in, then i have sparks of confidence.

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