Social Anxiety Support

lyric · 07-29-2012, 12:42 AM

For me, whenever there's a group of male and female friends heading my way, I get nervous. Especially if they're around my age. I also don't like running into a group of young boys. Men don't bother me. So I guess both genders can trigger it but it depends on their age. You?

lisbeth · 07-29-2012, 12:52 AM

I'm the same as you. I get really anxious around young people of both genders - teenagers freak me out. Anyone over 20, I'm generally better with.

Mirror · 07-29-2012, 12:53 AM

Basically the same, group of males/females together are the worst, then a group of females (usually I just put on my "I'm cool" face and hope they're not judging me), then a group of guys around my age or a little older. I'm not as bothered by adults unless they're particularly intimidating or it's for a job/in a professional setting.

Queen of Spades · 07-29-2012, 12:57 AM

Female mostly.

mysterioussoul · 07-29-2012, 01:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mirror

Basically the same, group of males/females together are the worst, then a group of females (usually I just put on my "I'm cool" face and hope they're not judging me), then a group of guys around my age or a little older. I'm not as bothered by adults unless they're particularly intimidating or it's for a job/in a professional setting.

Same, even though I'm 25! When I'm around a group of loud good-looking friends I tend to shrink away and feel intimidated. Mature older people I feel fine with. And generally, if I'm attracted to them then I would be nervous of them.

Girl Looking Into Me · 07-29-2012, 01:14 AM

a group of 2+ people in my age group, whether I know them or not, make me go into robot mode. Head steady, eyes front!

Then, as they walk by I feel like they are scrutinizing me. God forbid they actually look my way I go in the nearest door pretending that's where I was heading.

At work or mature looking adults are no problem though.

timtron · 07-29-2012, 02:45 AM

generally anyone who can tell I'm nervous make me more nervous. Also young people because they seem to be more judgemental and percieve whether youre cool or not

Paper Samurai · 07-29-2012, 02:58 AM

Both, my anxiety is equal opportunity.

JohnWalnut · 07-29-2012, 09:49 AM

Both. If I'd have to choose one I'd say males are worse, because I'm not familiar with the "bro" culture which makes me extra insecure around guys.

Royals · 07-29-2012, 10:22 AM

What about animals? Hehe, for me it doesn't really matter. A mean person doesn't really matter on gender or race.

Not You · 07-29-2012, 11:04 AM

Both, but usually females more than males.

SteveJobs · 07-29-2012, 11:12 AM

I am exactly the same! Both, but females trigger it a little more.

GunnyHighway · 07-29-2012, 11:16 AM

Both, but typically only people around my age. (Or a really attractive lady, but that's probably true for nearly every guy)

GD8 · 07-29-2012, 11:42 AM

Probably girls but I get more nervous around pretty much anyone my own age regardless of their gender, I think of this quote literally every time I see a group of young people walking in my direction lol -

tennislover84 · 07-29-2012, 11:56 AM

For me it's both, but only if they are the same age or younger than me. I feel totally fine around people who are older, because I feel that they won't be judging me as part of their peer group, I guess.

I get particularly nervous and intimidated walking past young guys because I expect them to say something about me, or even attack me. It's from bad school experiences.

I do get very nervous around girls too, at first. I worry that if I talk to them, or do anything but completely ignore them, that they'll take it as a sign that I'm interested in them. Which makes no sense! And I feel that way, regardless of whether I like them or not. It's probably because I expect them not to want me to be interested in them, that I worry they'll think I am. I worry that girls will think that all guys who talk to them, are only talking to them for that reason.

tehuti88 · 07-29-2012, 03:33 PM

Neither gender tends to override the other when it comes to triggering my anxiety EXCEPT online when a guy smalltalks with me, and I instantly assume he must be trying to flirt, and I hate flirting. I want to be nice and funny to a guy who's nice and funny to me but I don't want to lead him into thinking I'm flirting back. So I'm never sure how to respond since I always feel like I'm leading a guy on. For the record, guys do NOT flirt with me IRL, which is why it's even more awkward online, as I know these guys would not be flirting with me (if they even are!) if we were to meet in reality.

Lasair · 07-29-2012, 03:35 PM

Young female girls (about my age and younger) make me really anxious, even worse of they are blonde

heyJude · 07-29-2012, 03:38 PM

Groups of teenage females ...aghhhhh!

applesauce5482 · 07-29-2012, 03:43 PM

For me, girls used to send my anxiety through the roof, but now, both are the same, which is better than before.

I dislike large groups tho

lyric · 07-29-2012, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Janniffy

Young female girls (about my age and younger) make me really anxious, even worse of they are blonde

LOL! Why?

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07-29-2012, 12:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
lyric Status: Opulence Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Riverside, CA. Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 3,400	What Gender Triggers Your Anxiety? For me, whenever there's a group of male and female friends heading my way, I get nervous. Especially if they're around my age. I also don't like running into a group of young boys. Men don't bother me. So I guess both genders can trigger it but it depends on their age. You?

07-29-2012, 12:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
Mirror Status: Do you see? Join Date: Mar 2012 Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 732	Basically the same, group of males/females together are the worst, then a group of females (usually I just put on my "I'm cool" face and hope they're not judging me), then a group of guys around my age or a little older. I'm not as bothered by adults unless they're particularly intimidating or it's for a job/in a professional setting. __________________ Perfection reached, perfection lost. The profit didn't beat the cost.

07-29-2012, 01:14 AM	#6 (permalink)
Girl Looking Into Me Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Canada, MB Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 47	a group of 2+ people in my age group, whether I know them or not, make me go into robot mode. Head steady, eyes front! Then, as they walk by I feel like they are scrutinizing me. God forbid they actually look my way I go in the nearest door pretending that's where I was heading. At work or mature looking adults are no problem though. __________________ Autumn goes by combing twilight into my hair ~ I look back on the passing tenderness

07-29-2012, 02:58 AM	#8 (permalink)
Paper Samurai Status: infinite loop~ Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Posts: 3,043	Both, my anxiety is equal opportunity. __________________ Sweet is sleep to me and even more to be of stone, While the wrong and shame endure. To be without sight or sense is a most happy change for me, therefore do not rouse me. Hush! Speak low. Need some stress relieving music? Check out mah Playlist: http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list...eature=mh_lolz

07-29-2012, 12:52 AM	#2 (permalink)
lisbeth Status: the wasp Join Date: May 2012 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 669	I'm the same as you. I get really anxious around young people of both genders - teenagers freak me out. Anyone over 20, I'm generally better with.

07-29-2012, 12:57 AM	#4 (permalink)
Queen of Spades Status: Don't deserve happiness Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: India Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 4,939	Female mostly.

07-29-2012, 02:45 AM	#7 (permalink)
timtron Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Australia Gender: Male Posts: 65	generally anyone who can tell I'm nervous make me more nervous. Also young people because they seem to be more judgemental and percieve whether youre cool or not

07-29-2012, 09:49 AM	#9 (permalink)
JohnWalnut Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2012 Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 662	Both. If I'd have to choose one I'd say males are worse, because I'm not familiar with the "bro" culture which makes me extra insecure around guys.

07-29-2012, 10:22 AM	#10 (permalink)
Royals Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Netherlands Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 1,893	What about animals? Hehe, for me it doesn't really matter. A mean person doesn't really matter on gender or race.

07-29-2012, 11:04 AM	#11 (permalink)
Not You Status: User Requested Temporary Ban Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 2,677	Both, but usually females more than males.

07-29-2012, 11:12 AM	#12 (permalink)
SteveJobs Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 57	I am exactly the same! Both, but females trigger it a little more. __________________ If anyone wants to talk join my site http://socialhut.net

07-29-2012, 11:16 AM	#13 (permalink)
GunnyHighway Status: Easily Excitable Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Brampton, Ontario Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 2,807	Both, but typically only people around my age. (Or a really attractive lady, but that's probably true for nearly every guy) __________________ "In your house I long to be Room by room patiently I'll wait for you there Like a stone I'll wait for you there Alone And on I read Until the day was gone And I sat in regret Of all the things I've done For all that I've blessed And all that I've wronged In dreams until my death I will wander on" - Audioslave, "Like a Stone"

07-29-2012, 11:42 AM	#14 (permalink)
GD8 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: South Florida Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 1,733	Probably girls but I get more nervous around pretty much anyone my own age regardless of their gender, I think of this quote literally every time I see a group of young people walking in my direction lol -

07-29-2012, 11:56 AM	#15 (permalink)
tennislover84 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: United Kingdom Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 543	For me it's both, but only if they are the same age or younger than me. I feel totally fine around people who are older, because I feel that they won't be judging me as part of their peer group, I guess. I get particularly nervous and intimidated walking past young guys because I expect them to say something about me, or even attack me. It's from bad school experiences. I do get very nervous around girls too, at first. I worry that if I talk to them, or do anything but completely ignore them, that they'll take it as a sign that I'm interested in them. Which makes no sense! And I feel that way, regardless of whether I like them or not. It's probably because I expect them not to want me to be interested in them, that I worry they'll think I am. I worry that girls will think that all guys who talk to them, are only talking to them for that reason.

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07-29-2012, 03:33 PM	#16 (permalink)
tehuti88 Status: Mackinac Island Fanatic Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Michigan Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 10,385	Neither gender tends to override the other when it comes to triggering my anxiety EXCEPT online when a guy smalltalks with me, and I instantly assume he must be trying to flirt, and I hate flirting. I want to be nice and funny to a guy who's nice and funny to me but I don't want to lead him into thinking I'm flirting back. So I'm never sure how to respond since I always feel like I'm leading a guy on. For the record, guys do NOT flirt with me IRL, which is why it's even more awkward online, as I know these guys would not be flirting with me (if they even are!) if we were to meet in reality. __________________ If I don't reply to you, it's NOTHING PERSONAL. It's my ANXIETY. * (Devetko's boyfriend Stan Brooks & Det. Reichert are horsing around.) Det. Kristeva: "If it were legal you'd marry me, right?" Det. Devetko: "Definitely." * "No canoes...no maple sugar...this place is horribly uncivilized."--Manabozho, Escape From Manitou Island *** Graphic tees and denim, denim, denim...denim...backpacks! "Don't overthink the metaphor, Cartwright!"

07-29-2012, 03:35 PM	#17 (permalink)
Lasair Status: User Requested Temporary Ban Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Ireland Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 7,255	Young female girls (about my age and younger) make me really anxious, even worse of they are blonde

07-29-2012, 03:38 PM	#18 (permalink)
heyJude Status: Haters to the left. Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 2,635	Groups of teenage females ...aghhhhh! __________________ Where am I going and why am I in this little handbasket?

07-29-2012, 03:43 PM	#19 (permalink)
applesauce5482 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Uganda Posts: 1,613	For me, girls used to send my anxiety through the roof, but now, both are the same, which is better than before. I dislike large groups tho __________________ "Too much applesause is good for you" - Appleham Lincoln